Behind the Mask: The Empty Reality of Narcissists

🔴 New Course: Unplug From The Matrix Of Narcissism

[ocarolina]

THANK YOU RICHARD GRANNON FOR TELLING ME THAT NOBODY WAS COMING TO SAVE ME I HAD TO SAVE MYSELF

[AuntyBek]

Being with the narcissist and then leaving them has truly opened my eyes to issues i didnt even realise existed. Dont get me wrong, the narcissist to me took me to the edge of life and death - literally - but since leaving them, it has opened the door to a WHOLE lot of healing i couldnt imagine. The risidual issues of past are definitely miniscule in comparrison to what he did, BUT, they are still unresolved issues that opened the door to such a relationship. Its a journey. One i was unprepared for, but am happilly taking to becoming more informed and stronger.

[ΔεσποιναΒασιλικα]

So true....
When I met him I was in a very vulnerable position

[juless]

No matter where you were at when you met, by the time you realize that this isn't 2 imperfect people trying to make it work- that it's just you forgiving and reacting to abuse- they have broken you down to a mental space where you knowingly stay.

[MeanEileen]

Yes. They hurt themselves a lot and their denial is destructive to their targets of their abuse and themselves. They know it too but are so stubborn, that they refuse to accept it.

[jodistrzalko]

I realize NOW that I was definitely not healthy when I started the relationship, and I didn’t really know that, but he sure did! Therapy for trauma and addiction has taught me so much.

[theworldaccordingtojaimie]

Sometimes people stay because they can't leave easily (kids, property, physical abuse, poverty, etc.)

[Yourlifeisgold]

This is why being a healthy, present, loving Mother...IS the GREATEST job on earth- 💯

[pandoramurals]

❤ from Australia 🇦🇺 thanks for enabling me to finally see this pattern from my mother, sister and partners! Time to wake up at almost 65!

[J.F]

We stayed because we have children and believed in our vows to God. We also always hoped they would change

[locaitaliana]

The complete sacrifice is the narcissist themselves. Others are able to break free.

[deborahfortin]

That’s why I had to get really mentally and emotionally well before I could leave my ex narcissistic spouse👍

[Misstipy]

You're right, I am sick too, that is why I stayed for so long. I know this now.

[kathcus]

Why did it take me 35 years to remove the rose colored glasses..i can't unsee it now

[wendigedzunrealtor]

True. Tragically sad and also eye opening.

[FrankTrouble]

We often end up staying way too long because sex and because they keep us so exhausting in multiple ways that it’s difficult to think straight. Alcohol numbs the discomfort for a while so we can entertain the parts we do like, and then it gets out of hand and we forget what’s real and so tired, the narcissist’s demand for attention becomes a maladaptive way for their partner to escape the confusing mental/emotional state the narcissist has put them in. The partner just wants to zone out and not feel anything because they’re too tired and lost to figure out what to do.

[Joe-hfcn]

Bingo.. I wasn’t well either.. live & learn

[Babinkley]

To the narc you are not a person, you are just an object to them.

[stephaniematthaus]

No human being is there. It’s just them and everyone else is a chess piece. I was raised that way. And then I married it. It’s familiar. So we gravitate towards that. But we can assess with more knowledge and heal ourselves and move on. Move on and reclaim OUR lives. That’s the best revenge. Living

[rowanforrester]

Why anyone might stay in a relationship that they know is abusive: if the narcissist is the parent and the person staying is their child - adult or not - because of grooming and brainwashing and gaslighting and the fact that the energy, pain, and perceived risks of getting out outweigh the status quo. Further, the guilt and angst that plagues the adult child who leaves the narcissist is a lifelong condition - unless that individual is caught up in some kind of rage or revenge fantasy, which, of course, stems from fear and pain. Not to mention the fact that the narcissist created that individual's map of the world - they know nothing else. 🤷‍♂️