10 Rules that Changed my Life: From a Total Hot Mess to a Lukewarm Mess

Here are 10 rules that changed my life! After watching Dawn from The Minimal Mom share her life-changing rules, I was inspired to share my own! These rules helped me get out of debt, organize my home, start a successful business, lose weight and just generally get control of my life!

00:00 Start
01:17 Rule #1 - Say YES to Scary Things
02:31 Rule #2 - You are NEVER Going to Feel Like It, do 5 Minutes NOW
03:43 Rule #3 - Pay Yourself First
05:38 Rule #4 - Work Smarter, Not Harder
06:58 Rule #5 - Say NO to Toxic People
08:46 Rule #6 - Every Second is a Fresh Start
09:51 Rule #7 - Don't Waste Energy on Things you Can't Control
11:28 Rule #8 - Do What Your Love & the Money will Follow
12:51 Rule #9 - Comparison is the Thief of Joy
14:32 Rule #10 - Swim in a Sewer and You'll Smell Like Poop
16:40 End Story

[jenniferharrington]

My husband’s grandma had a quote that stuck with me: “if you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change”. This is a rule I live by because it has made me a much more positive person looking for the silver lining all the time…

[sheenachante]

I swear a form of my procrastinating is watching these type of videos and thinking “I already know all this” but normally they don’t work to push me to move and get things done 🫠🙃but this one here…I’m in the middle of actually starting what I been dreading. I’m the “I’ll start Monday” person & im changing that now. It’s 12 noon on a Wednesday and I’m starting ❤

[phlebotnum]

"I've got to pay $20K more to OPEN MY OWN DOOR." Cas - you are a treasure. I actually laughed out loud at that one.

[ThKiwi]

Your story about dropping the rope with stressful people reminded me of a similar time in my life that reshaped how I saw my friends and where I put in my time and effort.

While I was going through IVF I experienced a side effect to a medication that made me extremely sick for weeks and could have become lethal. In that time I didn’t have the energy to reach out to people and for the entire time I was sick, only two friends checked in to see how I was doing. My so-called best friend didn’t even text me. No way she could have disappeared for weeks without me worrying and checking in.

It hurt SO MUCH, but I’ve reinvested my time and energy into the friends who were there for me and making new friends, and I’m so much happier now.

[dellnichols]

I’m 70 years old and your rules are so spot on! My rule, you are never too old to learn from someone else! And us old folks LOVE our mini van with stow and go!

[laurayoder]

"I procrastinate like it's my life's mission." Oh my goodness, Cass! That made me laugh. I can so relate to that. Thanks for all you do.

[BrandiLaShay]

Cas.. Your "5 minutes matters" mantra is one of the rules that has changed my life.. I am such a perfectionist, which used to cause me to procrastinate so often because if I couldn't do it "correctly" I wasn't going to start until I could.. now I always tell myself, "5 minutes matters.. just get started." It has flowed all throughout my life, and I tell myself that all the time!! Thank you!! 😊

[christineashby]

When you were talking about not wasting energy on certain relationships even if they’re family, I totally wanted to high-five you! It doesn’t mean there's anything wrong with you, or even with them - it’s just that somehow together you don’t work.

Many years ago, before ‘toxic relationships’ really became a thing talked about, my brother and I went separate ways. I got SOOO much flack from certain family members, including our mom! (and still do). But it was one of the best decisions EVER, right up there with my marriage, kids, career, and house :) And I'm sure for it has been great for him and his family as well. Does it mean I wish him anything bad? Certainly not! But do I HAVE to have a relationship with him, when it only caused both of us pain? Nope :)

It’s part of MY number one rule: Live my life in a way that works for ME, even if it looks totally weird to someone else. That other person doesn’t have the same strengths and weaknesses I do, and they don’t have to live with me everyday, but I do, so why not give myself a break? 😁

[nancylopez]

Love your ten rules. I remember my mom saying - in Spanish - "Tell me who you walk (hang) with, and I'll tell you who you are." Sounds like what your dad said to you. And we can't forget the biggest rule of all, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you". The world would be such a better place. Thanks for all you are and do.

[dchick]

I've been surrounding myself with you, Minimal Mom and a couple of very positive How-To-YouTubers, and I think I've become a happier, more positive person because it. Thank you! ☺️

[tboucher]

Cass, you are in my five people that I hang around with. Whenever I’m needing positive energy motivation or a smile your channel is where I go and you bring a light to my life that I really appreciate thank you so much

[natalieatkinson]

"If it's not worth praying about, it's not worth worry about". Awesome book - the art of not giving a f**k. "Don't let the weeds grow round your feet because one day they'll be so high, you won't be able to see yourself." "There's always a way"- this one got me around travelling overseas!

[rosanne]

RULE # 1: Be KIND! It’s FREE & you may just make a difference in someone’s life who may be struggling. ❤

[slcspomer]

Yes to the mini van movement!! I tell everyone I waited a long time to have kids and be able to drive a mom van. I'm not giving it up now! It's paid for, it hauls all our crap and we have plenty of room on our road trips! Love, love, love my mini van!!! Oh...and loved your 10 rules. Super inspiring. Thanks :)

[jacquigrainger]

Cas, you should count yourself as one of the people who is positive and inspires so many people. I just found you recently and love your down to earth organisational tutorials. Thank you! Keep doing what you do, and I'm just about to start my organisational journey as I am now setting up on my own. So now is the time for my way, my home, back to being me, after years of being wife, mum, then partner. Wish me luck! Best wishes from the 🇬🇧

[dianneweihrauch]

Cass, you are one of my favorite organizers. When I am down, I tune in to one of your videos, and it always picks me up. I feel like I am connecting with a friend. Love your energy and enthusiasm. Don't ever worry about comparing yourself to others. You have your own unique style. Just keep on doing what you are doing.

[kathleen]

I swear Cas. You get me every time. I'm only 2 minutes in and I am feeling like you are speaking to my soul. My neighbor asked me to come over for coffee 2 weeks ago, I still haven't gone, because social anxiety. Well now I have to go...lol. Do the scary things.

[vondrabejot]

My husband still drives a minivan because they have the largest capacity when you do fold everything out of the way. He does comic book conventions and they carry the most, they fit in a regular parking spot and a height that can fit in parking garages. We outgrew the soccer team age but he picked up the hobby age that still needs a minivan. Love your channel Cass!

[AlexisChavivaAndrei]

I have ADHD and have been stuck in paralysis for awhile and I found your channel two days ago. Finally started organizing my life. Ty for being you, you are so inspiring!

[workinprogressjess]

🤣🤣🤣 the Fanny pack of vehicles 👏🏻👏🏻 that killed me! But dude, we would LOVE a mini van! My husband turned me on to the awesomeness of mini vans and I was like WHAT?! But you are right and now we wish we could afford one (my dream would be a Pacifica 😆) so I’m with you Cas!