Husband's GF.. #shorts

[Caria]

Update: Seb did end up flying back to Canada January last year. Before he flew, we talked about the situation and I told him I’ve been in contact with a divorce lawyer. He was surprised. He said he didn’t expect me to leave him just because he needs to be with his ‘family’. I remember at the time all I felt was anger. I was so mad that he’s making it sound like I’m the bad person. Nevertheless, the conversation didn’t end well. He left without any closure but he said he will be back in March.

I was left alone. January to March last year was the darkest days of my life. I knew I did nothing wrong but i ended up blaming myself for everything. I hate to admit but I cancelled the meeting with my lawyer as I started to doubt if I really want to leave him or not. I love him so much to the point that I’m willing to accept him again when he’s back.

During the entire time he was gone, he rarely called to check on me. I had to call him most of the time (I know, I’m dumb). I feel so alone and sad. I begged for his attention, to give me some of his time, to be with me again. All those time he kept telling me that Tanya needs him more.

March I was expecting him to come back so we can talk. But he didn’t come back. He said he needs to stay more and promised me he will be back in May. I don’t know what happened to me when I got that call from him early March to tell me he won’t be flying back to Australia. At the time, I felt like there’s a switch that suddenly turned off because somehow, I stopped caring. When he told me he won’t be back until May, I knew I have to move forward without him.

Fast forward to May, he was back. That day, we sat down to talk. He broke down and said “I can’t lose you too”. When he said that, I thought Tanya was gone. But no, she’s not and as far as I know, she’s still alive to this day. I asked what happened and he told me that Tanya asked him to go back and be with me. He said that Tanya is sorry for everything. Seb didn’t want to leave her especially when he saw how bad she was doing. They had a fight and according to him, Tanya wants him out of her life.

If I was the same dumb person, I would totally accept him back but at that time, all I can think was “he’s only back because Tanya doesn’t want him anymore”. I let him cry. I comforted him and let him stay in my apartment. A week after, I told him I’m divorcing him. At first he refused to leave. It was a long and painful process but on my birthday in July, he finally realized that he couldn’t manipulate me anymore. By August, he was back in Canada.

Divorce is not finalized yet but we have been separated since he left. He tried to contact me several times last year. Tanya also tried to contact me. Everyone including my family tried to convince me to give him second chance. But that day in March when I finally came back to my senses, I knew nothing can make me change my mind.

As of now, I’m doing fine alone by myself. I got promoted last year and moved to a bigger apartment near the beach. I found new friends and recently getting into Pilates. I’ve travelled Australia and New Zealand and met some amazing people. I feel like a completely different person. Last year was the major turning point of my life. Seb still bothers me from time to time but he knows I couldn’t care less anymore. Sometimes I talk to him. I still care but not as much. I’ve been told by our common friends that he’s not doing well. He became alcoholic and couldn’t get a good job because of it. He’s mostly couchsurfing because Tanya doesn’t want him to live with her. Lol. That bitch.

Thank you so much Reddit for taking the time reading this and my post last year. Your advices means a lot to me.

For those people who are in the same situation as me, please know that everything is going to be better. I thought I can’t get through this. There are times I thought of taking my own life. It was hard. But I promise you, it will be better. You’d be surprise how strong you are and how amazing life can be.

[Ogovideshini]

Ladies mark my WORDS "NEVER EVER DATE A GUY WHO IS 'ClOsE' WITH HIS EX"

[amyjames]

Well here's the thing. Tell him he can go be with his dying ex or he can have a marriage but he cannot have both. If he leaves and does not come back within a week, he can stay in Canada and you can enjoy your career and a new life in Australia

[kim]

There's a difference between a week trip for support and say goodbye and a months long trip where u basically abandon ur wife and never call😅

[ayannafit]

Happy to hear (from the update) she's moving on. Good for her :)

[k_.]

I remember reading somewhere "if ur partner still has a relationship with their ex then understand that either they r still in love or they were jst together for some weird reasons... Either way it will be difficult for u" and i can see it's the truth 😊

[the_commenter_on_vids]

if it was me (the guy) I'm not accepting since i ain't leaving my gf behind

[elen]

He’s obviously in love with her. Divorce

[Don-Angel]

She didn't love him at all she wanted to see if ahe could still call him away from OP.

[nicolahuebscher]

Don't take him back. When he is gone, change the locks.

[Foxy-nilm]

That's crossing a line regardless of circumstances

[JenniferJohnson-lr]

He was never yours. It was just your turn

[STAYATINYARMYSIN]

He was gone from January to May that mf definitely cheated and Tanya got sick of him bc the thrill wasn’t there anymore 💀 I’d be a whole demon towards her and absolutely say some things that would take it all the way to hell 🤣

[ppnt-do]

I beg your pardon, the audacity. Is she even dying.

[metalcorgi]

Why is she mad at her and not the husband???

[tobytheimposter]

I’ll admit I have an ex I’ve loved her for over 1/4th of my life she is my world she cheated multiple times told me to unalive myself manipulated me and threw my trauma in my face on multiple occasions but I fucking love her I know I’m a dumbass and I will say this I will never get back with her that boundary I will never cross again but I love her endlessly and I only want the best for her one day I want to go to her wedding and support her because I know deep down she’s smart beautiful and funny in that order and I’m happy being her friend

[Trans_spiderman.]

If she trusts his husband then whats the issue, shes dying, my mother went abroad to be with her bestfriend before she died of cancer.