This is why you don’t have friends

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In this eye-opening episode, Elle delves into the complex world of female friendships and the challenges women face in maintaining these vital connections. Drawing from recent studies, Elle explores the alarming trend of declining close friendships among women. She discusses the numerous benefits of female friendships, including emotional support, stress relief, and personal empowerment. Elle also examines the factors contributing to this "female friendship crisis," such as the devaluation of community, lack of third places for social interaction, and the impact of therapy on interpersonal relationships. This thought-provoking episode offers insights into the importance of nurturing female friendships and strategies for overcoming modern obstacles to maintain these crucial bonds.

[Dria]

We need a female friend app not dating apps

[rosiebuds]

my friend circle has shrunk so much over the years, because i absolutely refuse to be friends with people who i dislike anymore. it is *draining* to be in the same space people who are male centered and unmotivated. it’s such a long journey finding supportive and mutually beneficial friendships in the current day

[sweetpoptart]

I hate when SOME women ditch their single friends when they have bf/husband.

[amethystne]

I miss having girlfriends, my biggest turn off from making new ones is their obsession with boys, their boyfriends and husbands. Every hang out session turns into them talking about it and i don’t really have any interest in their boyfriends. My other issue has been getting completely ghosted after we are supposed to hang out.
I haven’t had friends in 5 years at this point I only talk to my cousin daily who lives in a different country. Looking forward to attracting fun times again.❤

[sabrinelan]

I miss having girlfriends so much. I feel like social media has made us exponentially more competitive.

[grjoqbl]

as a neurodivergent, I've always felt neurotypical men and women just conglomerate around ea/other to compare and compete. At 43, I finally have a female friend who is 50. We truly support one another and there's no competition, jealously etc.

[RickRorose]

I laugh when women say they can’t be friends with women and just friends with males, because they cause less drama and don’t gossip. Girl, then you aren’t really friends with these dudes. They gossip I’d wager more than women a lot of the times. I’m a tomboy, and I am constantly in male dominated careers like military, auto mechanic, electronic repair…coworkers being all male. Girls, they are so out there! No way are they better friends than women!

[KahlaijahPowell]

I currently have no girl friendships by choice. I would really love to have close friendships with genuine girls but that’s really hard to cultivate where I live. I want the coffee and açaí dates, brunch, dinners, even “boring” hangouts where we just sit in each others presence because we enjoy one another. In the past I wasn’t the healthiest in friendships due to the lack of relationship that I had with my mom, but I am healing and working towards being better for myself and also attracting and receiving new girlie groups 💖

[ZZealot-yu]

I was just talking to my Mother about this. Most women meet the man, have the baby then completely forget their friends. We have to treat our friends better girls. Can we please stop treating our girlfriends like rhey are rags to be used and discarded once that PN comes around whats going ON ladies

[kirabystarlight]

Finally after not having friends for years I found a new friend 🥺 shes everything i ever wished for and worth the wait. Shes the best

[PsychesFlora]

To be honest I think the “Im above friendship” thing isn’t just about isolation - it’s also about past trauma. If you’re kindhearted and have been taken advantage of a lot by female “friends” then you are going to have the mentality that you are above friendship for a pretty valid reason. It’s a way of preserving happiness without having to rely on anyone. Personally as someone who is very generous as a rule and who has been taken advantage of a lot, I came to the conclusion that I need to protect myself before making friends. Especially since I live in a country where people aren’t the friendliest to begin with. So culture also enters into it.

[omowhanre]

My female friends have poured into me in ways I can’t put into words. They’ve held mirrors up to me so I can see myself and pivot ❤

[anm]

The thing is people aren't really open to differences. You don't need to be same, or look up to your friends. There just needs to a level of respect and kindness. Another thing is people seem to be more exhausted and tired. This leaks into friendships as they take extra pressure about seeing others

[steffytoussim]

I was someone a lot of people befriended because I gave emotional support, but one day your vessel dries out. It's very hard for me to keep friendships with women these days because it can get emotionally exhausting, especially since I realized so many of my friends are addicted to pain, especially the pain of entertaining men they have no business of entertaining, this has created wedges on my friendships, since I stopped being able to support people who willingly hurt themselves. A lot of people seek enablers. Meanwhile, my partner (male) and his male friends just hang out, fart and burp, watch a match and they are able to be friends through decades, at times that's what I want as well, a group of friends to go sniff new perfumes at sephora, try on new shoes and do clothing swaps, but the emotional labour it requires me to do over situations (re: men who are a mess/in other relationships, etc) has me preferring to be solo.

[angie_the_alien]

This video came at a good time. I was talking about having no friends last night. This class was well needed.

[Insertusernamehere]

I’d love more female friends, I’m so lonely sometimes 😭 the problem is that over the years I realized a lot of my “friends” only saw me as useful and didn’t actually like me for who I am

[Egg_Apron]

Sisterhood means slowly learning how to cultivate precious friendships with women who come into our lives, engaging in the difficult and precise work of Relationship.
Honestly, this quiet relational work is some of the most accessible, riskiest, least certain of return on investment, and most daunting of all the work we can do.
Relating is the polar opposite of dominion, which is why we must do it anyway.
In short, we can truly engage in system overthrow through abandoning what we once valued (heirarchy position), and seizing what matters (Sisterhood).

[enarjey]

Good female friends do make you prettier! one example: Everytime my posture was slouching on my wedding day, my maid of honor whispered “Barbie doesn’t bend” which made me instantly straighten up. Photographers were snapping shots all day and the slouchy photos were definitely cringy.😅❤ Love the genuine girlfriends.

[Bordeaux_Vixen]

I had true friends by the age of 18 after cutting off toxic people and unworthy people in my life . True friends bring joy esp girlie besties . Boys drain me with no benifits

[bonndell]

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