Was this woman being a bad friend?

[scbtripwire]

I wouldn't care if my best man wore a big bird costume, as long as he was there. ❤

[Splatbro]

Good apple, it’s the grooms wedding too so if he gets to pick his groomsmen I think he should get to pick the attire. Just like the bride does with her bridesmaids

[LadyCaribou]

I hope she let the groom know that HIS bride had banned her from the wedding. That way he was aware of it and could address it with his future wife, because I bet bridezilla played innocent if the groomsman she barred from the wedding just didn’t show up. Plus that’s a bit sucky to do to a friend on his wedding day.

[The_Dudester]

Let's recap: woman picked to be groomsman, but at reception bridezilla wants her to wear a dress. SMH. I would tell bridezilla to "have a nice life" and do something meaningful on that day, like, go to the beach, volunteer at a soup kitchen, or take younger relatives to a "day on the town."

[dianewinters]

I would have gone to the wedding in a suit for my friend. Friends are forever. If she's behaving like that now she won't be.

[DavidProv]

Good apple... She was asked by the groom, not the bride...Bride is being a Bridezilla.
It is unfortunate though that she had to skip the wedding though.

[jaketaylor]

Oof if I was that groom I'd be rethinking that wedding.

[Deb-fz]

Am I the bad apple? My best friend just got married... She told me a week beforehand. She and her fiance have been on and off for a year. Her worries about him were his past and how fast they were moving when he proposed after 3 months of knowing each other, driving her 4 hours to meet his family without warning and bring her to the store to buy a ring after... I told her I wanted to talk before she got married. She never answered any of my questions. Her fiance called me, knew i was upset about the date he picked, so he told her I was jealous of him and wanted to be in his place. She believed him... "Weren't you going to be in town anyway? Why are you upset? I dont see the big deal. Stop being so jealous! No one knows him like me, why are you the only one with a problem? You're ruining everything!"... I didn't want to ruin anything else, so i didn't go to the wedding, the engagement party two days before the wedding, or her bridal shower the day after she told me she was getting married. She just got married on my birthday, I got a photographer for her reception, printed and put them in a white album with gold trim with her and her fiances name on it and my mother called her, asking her to call me because things shouldn't end this way because she was family... we were friends for almost a decade... she moved 5 months later and never gave me a new address




(Im sorry for the vent...)

[PurdueAlum]

If she had to wear a dress, but it wasn't a bridesmaid dress that she was required to change into, and she didn't say it was, that wasn't even implied, then she would REALLY stick out in photos when she matched neither the bridesmaids nor the groomsmen. I think not a bad apple, but a toxic tree in the orchard. I think going for the groom is more important than what is worn... but the fact that the couple themselves could not work it out to allow her to come, that's the real travesty here...

[nickjames]

Onen of my best friends of about 15 years stopped talking to me because I missed his wedding because I got called in on my day off. I haven't talked to him in about two and a half years
To a job, I literally just started and could not blow that shift off.

[saraberles]

You are a good apple bc you wanted to be nice to your friend instead of doing what the bride wanted. I think your friend understands why you didn't go to his wedding.

[chriscooper]

NTBA. I can understand the bride wanting things a certain way, but to turn into Bridezilla over a little cosplay is just silly.

[gengarvenom]

She told her she couldnt come. How would you be the bad apple for not going where you're not invited. This is sketchy framing. Because the real question should be "Am I the bad apple for not taking a dress to my friend's wedding, " or something. The story presented puts her pretty much in the right, but I dont trust OP

[Moonlight_]

Ngl If I was in her place I would say ok and not bing the dress on purpose and say I forgot it

[michaelsegal]

Wait how could the friend be female if she was supposed to be a groomsman? Wouldn’t the friend be male?