The Problem With Keeping Someone On The Back Burner

Have you ever kept an ex on the back burner while dating other men? You keep in touch, he makes you feel desired and attractive, and he keeps you from feeling lonely.

In this video, I share why keeping someone on the back burner can actually sabotage your search for love.

▼

[MikeMiller-vo]

When somebody puts you on the back burner shut them off never contact them again

[ld]

It's not fair to either new current partner. They cannot be focused enough on the new person when an ex is constantly reminding them of their past, constantly rekindling, and it is a sort of torment for the new partner. New partner cannot disagree or have expectations because they just turn to the backburner. Backburner continues to make new memories with ex when new memories should be made with new partner. It's unfair and dysfunctional on so many levels. I would say the new /current partner is truly the one with the most at stake and who goes through the most pain when people want to continue to carry on with exes.

[kurtcurtis]

Tried to have a relationship with someone who was a back burner with an ex. DIASTER. Emotionally unavailable as they maintained an emotional connection with the ex. Never again. It’s like they maintain a collection of exes to reach out to in order to never try to commit as there’s a plan b. Grossly unfair to all parties. Painful lesson. Never again