Share Your Personal Needs to avoid Mind Blindness #autism

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[EugeniaPortobello]

Not all autistics dislike touch, I need lots of hugs and kisses. Excellent point that when feeling safe we give ourselves permission to get alone time and focus on our interests. Thank you 💕

[Catlily]

As an autistic person hugs really help me. I tell my boyfriend to squeeze me firmly but he is scared he will hurt me. He accused me of using him as a Temple Grandin squeeze machine!

[courtney]

My son is super affectionate but also needs lots of alone time. I'm so thankful our needs are compatible❤

[wendelleg]

This took me a while to get used to when my autistic bf/future husband moved in w me. Of course, he wasn't diagnosed at the time - but I was aware of his anxiety/PTSD diagnoses and I learned quickly to communicate my needs. Then HE learned to ask for the same because he felt safe in the relationship.

[KidarWolf]

Oh, that part of channeling your wife was adorable, Orion! I think you're absolutely right about it being a case of us feeling safe, and able to be ourselves, and yes, overlooking the other person's needs by accident, because it doesn't even occur to us that their needs differ to ours. The opposite is also true, it doesn't always occur to neurotypical people in our lives that our needs are different. Communication is so important in any relationship, but I think in neurodiverse relationships, it becomes doubly so, because of the difficulties surrounding mind blindness from both directions.

[logicalameetsworld]

I hear what you're saying when it comes to your wife channeling. This topic reminded me of the first time my wife asked if I didn't love her anymore. It was a big shook.

[plantarcristaeM...]

I'm doing my best with all of this...I still feel so completely alone. I have to admit, I feel used to it. Maybe being alone is where it is at for me. I'm not really sure. I needed a hug eight years ago...now? I...I don't know anymore.

[hellomiakoda]

Its so interesting how different everyone is. I go back and fourth between need affection, and DON'T TOUCH ME!

[Hi_Im_Akward]

If it's someone I am intimate with, I am way more touchy and needy than with people I am platonic with (prefer not to be touched). But to flip this, if you need space, it's ok just say that. Alone time, or body doubling or time doing your own thing or time with friends whatever. Not a big deal. Generally this is just good relationship advice anyways. Communicate your needs. Set health boundaries. AND take your partners needs seriously when they communite them to you.

[stampinturtles]

My ex was very aloof, didn’t like to be touched, wouldn’t kiss me. (He did all these things before we got married though). My love language is touch. So you can see the problem. I was willing to live this way but let’s just say our life wasn’t a relationship either one wanted. He is not diagnosed but our daughter kinda is. Since learning more about autism I’m wondering if my ex is. I pray for him still to be happy and to know Jesus. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[christinedanisi]

Just a hugs is a struggle 😌👍
When my Autistic Beautiful Angel
He is so yummy
Neurotypical Me
I want to be bathed in him
Lol 😆
Thank you Orion
You are a God send of hope for us and me
Thank you
Thank you

[CatDad]

...im still in the self diagnosis part... Need a real diagnosis.. but ive had to tell every gf my entire life Im just not clingy... Not touchy... Not very affectionate.. im 43.. its been a problem my entire life. The struggles ive had...the arguments.. ugh. Its been awful awful.

[JuliaJames-zxxy]

=) She's a woman. She needs a reassuring or a "I love you, you're special to me" hug here and there. Orion, you're definitely her "safe man". =)

[Autisticheather]

I told my boss what i need and she's mad and thinks im not appropriate for the job. Even though it's not really my job to do what triggers me. I work in a preschool that believes heavily in outside time. I am only supposed to be a sub, but people are out every day. When i go out in the hot Atlanta sun and have to contuosly chase and catch escaping 2 year olds, i have a meltdown. So i asked if a floater take my place just during outside time. It wouldn't be hard to do. The fall will be better. But will the toddlers ever stop escaping. It's very frustrating. I don't knew even if i jane a job in the fall session and she ignores most of my message. I love that school and i love working there. I want to be with the toddlers. They go out for somtimes not even an hour and ske can't civet that fo me??
And these are extremely "woke" people. Minority races and trans people are revered, but disabled people are ignores?? Hypocrites!

[ascgazz]

Not the best advert for us as partners though is it 😂
I have a talent for finding the wrong partner so I gave up.

[HeatherLandex]

Haha my husband seems to have similar mind blindness or needs sometimes just for sex... Haha I'm the austic one. 😂 clearly not. I'd say I'm the same as your wife. I though it was a man thing.