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[SeanNalewanyjShorts]

A lot of guys mistakenly believe that building an "aesthetic physique" is going to be some kind of magic bullet for attracting women.

It's really not.

It can definitely help, and there is a subset of women who are more into it (usually the ones who train seriously themselves), but the majority don't care nearly as much as you might think.

Most of the attention you get will be from other dudes asking which exercises you did to build your upper chest or what brand of creatine you recommend.

The most important thing on the physical attraction side is to just be within a healthy body fat range (this is number one) and carry some noticeable degree of muscle so that it’s clear you work out and take care of yourself.

Beyond that it’s going to be a game of steep diminishing returns for the most part.

Yes, if you want to maximize your dating success then you should take all steps to look as good as you can.

“Just be confident bro” sounds nice on the surface, but the reality is that looks do matter. A lot. (In combination with many other things)

But just don’t let that be your ONLY reason for lifting or you’ll be wasting your time and effort.

And definitely don’t be the guy who spends all his time in the gym thinking that women are going to magically show up on your doorstep as a result of you “being on your grind”.

It doesn’t work like that.

You actually have to put in the effort to interact with people and, you know... leave the house.

Going through those temporary grind periods is often necessary to reach a high level of success in certain areas, but just don’t let it become a permanent thing.

Simply being jacked or "successful" isn't going to get you very far if you remain isolated and have no social skills.

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[drew]

Most gym bros don’t even realize they actually do it for the fellas

[Olibert]

It's not the muscles, it's the confidence it gives you

[zr]

Women aren't attracted to muscular men. They are attracted to fit men dressed stylishly.

[yitivitzen]

Only a true bro complimented my calves. Made my whole week.

[Idont]

Attractive body can attract girls to talk to you but it's your personality, confidence that makes them stay . So working on yourself mentally is as important.

[Esoteric_Athlete]

Athletic: female gaze
Big and bulky: male gaze

[UKCatchingCases]

This is so true. I was an absolute unit, thought id get loads of women, but i only ever had men follow me around. Still i settled down now and johns nice he treats me well.

[DinaDumitrașcu]

Guys, please keep in mind, most women don't like overly buff and muscular men. I can't speak for all women, but that's usually the case. Personally, I like them skinnier. Also, don't go to the gym purely to get women. Do it for yourself and your health. You'll be much happier.

[khairulhaidzir]

"Did you get that thang oiled down?"

[wt]

As a straight dude, Sean's physique is just perfection <3

[Sammyklynn]

I lift and am a woman and follow your content mainly because it’s informative and no BS. I have learned a lot.

That said, looking as good as you can only gets you so far. I’d rather date an average looking fella who’s intelligent, witty, and compassionate. Health matters but believe me for a lot of women we don’t give a rip about a man being ripped. Or maybe I’m an outlier?

You are attractive! Btw. But I appreciate you for your down to earth real advice, humor, and humbleness.

[margusiraptor]

As a female watcher of your videos, I don't care much about your physique, but the great tips and non bs approach to fitness and fitness advice. 😅

[_thirtyseven]

One of the main reasons I go to the gym is for my late grandfather. One of the last things he told me before he died was “you need more muscle” lol

[katieparenti]

I've noticed that since I've been lifting in the last year or so, I have a way higher appreciation for athletic physiques and am much more attracted to muscular men than I used to be.

[sadcoyote]

when I was hittin the gym hard the only people that actually complimented me (aside from my wife shout out to you bby) were other dudes in the gym. And I will never relinquish those memories for at least a decade. Random old black man that said "that's a lotta weight partna'. Damn good work!" I love you bro. Thanks for the spot.

[ProLeopardx]

This year is the first I've ever had success with women and I've learned the following:

1. A lot of girls like a skinny or normal looking physique
2. Many don't like bodybuilder physique, but girls who lift or work out a lot themselves tend to
3. Defined forearms are very attractive to women
4. General health and strength is attractive to women
5. Women love confidence from someone they find cute, and if a woman doesn't find you cute then you should move on before you catch feelings. There is a massive variety in what women find cute, so just because the first 30 don't think you are, that doesn't mean the 31st won't.

[pandamilkshake]

Lmao the same thing happens with motorcycles. You get one thinking you're gonna pull chicks and suddenly you're surrounded by old dudes saying that they used to ride, telling you stories you don't wanna hear, other dudes judging your choice of brand...and then you find out girls hate the sound of the exhaust and think you're a muppet for revving it 😂

[ListenToYourHartbeat]

Five years ago: "I don't get any women unless I bench 315, I need to go to the gym."

Now: "I still remember the first day I stepped into the gym. Five years ago, I was just a guy with too much hope and too little muscle. The mirrors reflected bodies I thought I could never have, men who seemed to wear confidence like a second skin, and women who glanced in their direction. I wanted to be noticed too. I wanted to be the kind of guy who turned heads, who made people whisper.


Back then, it was simple: lift weights, eat right, repeat. Every rep felt like a step toward being someone different, someone better. I pushed through pain and exhaustion with images of what I thought my future self would be—the version who wouldn’t get overlooked.



But five years is a long time, and somewhere between counting calories and counting sets, something inside me shifted. The gym became more than a place to train my body; it became a refuge, an escape from everything I didn't want to face outside its doors. It’s funny—I built these muscles to attract, to impress, but in the end, they became armor. A barrier.


Now, as I stare at my reflection, the man I see doesn’t match the picture I had in my head when I started. The strength I gained came with a price I didn’t expect: isolation. Nights out with friends turned into nights alone hitting a new PR. Conversations about life were replaced by numbers: weight lifted, macros counted, miles run—I'm just kidding, I skip my cardio every time. But somehow, in all of that, I stopped chasing connection and started settling for control.


People look at me now—they really look—but it doesn’t fill the space it was supposed to. The gym might have built me up, but it also broke me in ways I didn’t see coming."

[juliabossejb]

Thank you for sharing this. It's definitely something my big bro needs to hear, because he seems to think all girls care about is money, outwardly appearance, and a man's ability to "be a man."
He gets aggressive if I "argue against" his view of women, and we're at the age that I have to just hope someone else can get through to him, because I never could.
Big bro breaks my heart. The way he views the world is the exact reason he's struggled so much in the past, and idk when it happened but he put me in a box of "people who will never understand" even though we literally grew up together and I know him better than he knows himself.

My little brother is half my age (11) and I think I've done a pretty good job of teaching him how to be a well-rounded human. He's kind and considerate of others, and now I'm trying to teach him the difference between being rude/ugly and priotizing your own wellbeing. I'm trying to teach him balance overall, but it can be tricky with the influence of my dad and brother who see women through a negative lens. I've even managed to correct some of my mother's toxic behaviours to give my lil bro a more stable home environment, but dad is stubborn as a mountain drugged out on facebook science. I'm trying everything I can to make sure my lil bro feels loved and understood and grows to be the bright and happy kid he always deserved to be, because I couldn't do it for my big bro. Please keep sharing. I hope my big brother sees your content.