10 Shocking Things Elegant Women Never Do At Restaurants

Here are 10 shocking things that elegant women never do at restaurants to ensure that they, and all the other diners, have a pleasant dining experience. Selfish behaviour ruins an evening out for everyone - make sure you aren't committing any of these selfish sins.

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Contents of this video:
00:00 Intro
00:41 Shocking Thing 1
01:37 Shocking Thing 2
02:13 Shocking Thing 3
02:40 Shocking Thing 4
03:21 Shocking Thing 5
04:16 Shocking Thing 6
05:18 Shocking Thing 7
06:05 Shocking Thing 8
06:55 Shocking Thing 9
07:23 Shocking Thing 10

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[marygillespie]

I taught my children elegant table manners, and we lived abroad during much of their childhood. I always rather enjoyed seeing that the maitre-d' at the Savoy in London looked down his nose at us when I'd take my 6 and 9 year old to high tea. The businessmen at the next table visibly recoiled when "children" were seated next to them at what was clearly the worst table in the place. Then came the fun: my children behaved impeccably, and I really enjoyed watching the businessmen relax and the waiters begin to treat us as valued guests once they saw my children were well-behaved.

[libbert]

Elegant women
#1. Don't get drunk and cause scenes.
#2. Don't talk or laugh too loud.
#3. Don't get into an argument that bothers other diners.

[viviennealston]

When I was young my family went to a very fancy restaurant. My father was very nervous and almost cancelled. But all of us behaved perfectly. My brother who was six at the time even held the chairs for each of his older sisters. The waitress was shocked and told my mother how elegant she thought we were. Teach your children when they are young It is worth it..

[OpenSesame]

Oh my goodness, this really hit home! I was recently at a work event and our young intern was eating like a savage! Hunched over her plate, hair hanging in her face, pushing food onto her fork with a finger, licking the finger afterwards and wiping it on the napkin she had placed conveniently above her plate, dirty side up, and when cutting with her knife, holding her fork in the underhand stab grip. I was honestly shocked. She is a nice, intelligent girl who was never taught at home. It isn’t her fault, but it will definitely hurt her in her personal and professional life. So I spoke with my boss about it and our company is organizing a series of etiquette classes for interns about to enter the workforce. In this way, we don’t have to single her out or embarrass her. It is infinitely easier if one learns the basics as a child.

[vqqxvkk]

I am a restaurant owner and chef, and I have to say THANK YOU for such a video! You have an insightful perspective that is extraordinary. I agree with all of these. I would add that an elegant woman never uses her cell phone in a restaurant…it is too casual and brings the elegant atmosphere down (which we work very hard to create). Thank you!

[faithnelson]

i think a lot of people believe that having proper manners while eating is snobbish, but it's really the opposite; it makes everyone's experience smoother.

[njejlester]

My mother and grandmother, who were from Slovenia, taught me and my siblings to eat politely, and they both really enjoyed setting a nice table. And I think this helped us all behave properly whether we ate at home or in public. Once my daughters teased me about why our dinner table was so “formal” compared to some of their friends. I said, “Because I don’t know any other way to eat!” It’s so worth it to make good table manners part of the daily routine; my daughters are naturally at ease in any restaurant, and I know my mother and grandmother would be so proud of them.

[pam]

My mother taught us that we should never discuss surgeries, doctor appointments, bodily functions, etc. there should never be a mention of blood or anything like that. She had a weak stomach but to this day I see that kind of discussion as rude - and a couple of my friends do it regularly! Thank you, Marie-Anne.

[abattle]

I like the way elegance is also tied to respecting others at the same time. For example thinking of the kitchen staff by not arriving late for your reservation and treating waiting staff with respect.

[gigig]

Oh my gosh. You are so right about perfume! My husband and I attended a special “wine dinner” event at a local restaurant and a woman was seated nearby. Her party arrived after the first course had already been served (yes, they were late!) and as she passed our table the “cloud” came with her. Her perfume was so strong that I got physically ill from it. (I have an allergy to the chemicals they add to fragrance that make them long-lasting—it makes me nauseated to the point of vomiting). I had to leave the table, and we both missed what should have been a lovely evening.

[linnybee]

One of my biggest pet peeves is people who eat with their mouths open. I taught my children at a young age to keep their mouths closed when they had food in them. It doesn't take long for them to catch on. In the US, it's common to put up one's finger when asked a question while chewing, until done. Your way is more elegant. I shall follow your lead. I don't have any dietary restrictions, but if I'm going to a restaurant I don't know, I like to check their online site to see what they serve. I don't think people should be taking pictures of their food either. That's not elegant, nor is it elegant to have one's cell phone on the table. It should always be out of sight and muted.
xo~linda

[constanceskalecki]

I don’t know why but I find your videos sort of soothing, though I worry about none of this. I am poor and have never traveled further than 2 states over. Though I am uncultured, I am much more reserved than than many and I don’t think I am better, just much more self conscious but some people behave very terribly. I like listening to you, you’re smart and classy.

[bev]

Strong perfume is horrible anywhere but especially in a restaurant. No one should be able to smell you coming…..and going. Loved the video!👍🏻

[beszterczeyjudit]

Thank You dearest Marie-Anne! An elegant woman never use her mobile or send messages during the dinner. It is rubbish.

[jan-christinejohnson]

Sadly, I have been shocked by the behavior of an older couple's friends. Not only will they go from table-to-table to sit but they order the waiter around. Will not be joining them again. Yesterday, I wrote the following post: "Yesterday over breakfast at the local Washington DC cafe, I coughed from the crunchy bagel chips. The older man who I almost gave my telephone number to, thought that I had Covid. Another lady corrected my accent with my vowel pronunciations. Lastly, I spoke of "salary" and not "celery". Quickly, I excused myself from this table." Thank you Marie-Anne.

[janetstraw]

While on my Honeymoon, we dined at ‘The Compleat Angler’ in Marlow, Henley, England. The waiter spilled nearly an entire bowl of gravy in my lap! I felt so sorry for him; and made a joke out of it. I think it was the kindest thing to do. 🙋‍♀️🇺🇸🥰

[patriciac]

My main take-away from this wonderful video is that, with a little preparation (and a good wristwatch), all these behaviors lead us to take our time when eating, slow down and savor the moment, the company, and the food. No one is made to feel uncomfortable. Love this!

[threepurrs]

Marie-Anne… you started and ended with my pet peeves. Tardiness makes me crazy…. Especially when I am having people for dinner. It is inconsiderate and rude. People eating with an open mouth makes me nauseous. Good manners is something I learned at home, and wish more people learned basic manners. Great video 🙂

[tomvalveede]

"Never bite into a hard dinner roll with a thick crust." Instead, tear off a bite-sized piece of the roll and butter it if you wish.
"Never cut open a dinner roll and butter the entire roll."
If food falls from your plate,
"Never pick it up and eat it"
Horrors!
Men, in Summer, Never wear open sandals revealing toes that are unkempt! No.
With a group of people, share the conversation and never speak so loudly that others can hear what you are saying.
Should there be a celebrity at the restaurant, Leave them alone. They need their space.
Never use a toothpick to pick at your teeth at the table.
At a fine dining restaurant,
Never insist that your dinner companions Take a Taste of
Your food. You are Not at home!!
Eat carefully and with as little mess as possible. Never leave your table covered in samples of your food.
Never pile your dirty dishes at the table. Never was up a cloth napkin when leaving. Fold it neatly.
If the table has fresh flowers, leave them there!
At a fondue, never "Double dip"
your food into the cheese
Same for Mexican salsas and guacamole.
Never chew on ice from your drink.
If there are ramekins with
Condiments, place a portion on your plate. Don't dip your food into it.
Never cut food into large portions so that you must open your mouth wide in order to partake.
Chew with your mouth closed.
Sip water if you have difficulty in swallowing.
Never season your food until
After you've tasted it.
Keep your elbows Off the table.
Ask for things to be passed to you, Never reach out across the table!
Thank you for posting this
Wonderful video!♥️🇺🇸🗼🇲🇫🌹♥️

[lrain]

As an ex restaurateur I agree with everything you said. Three pet hates were : arriving an hour late, turning up in shorts and T shirts when all the other diners were dressed appropriately and not treating my staff respectfully.
Another annoyance is when they'd order the main and if it wasn't on the table within 10 mins they'd be complaining! It's cooked fresh for gods sake!
I've seen women sitting crossed legs on the chair with bare feet.... Disgusting 😡