15 Things to STOP EXPECTING from Other People

Your life picks up once you realize you’re in the driver seat instead of the passenger seat!

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00:00 - Intro
00:37 - Stop expecting other
people to come into your
life and make it great
01:27 - Stop expecting others
to rise to the potential
you see in them
02:22 - Stop expecting others
to read your mind or act
the way you would act
03:08 - Stop expecting others to be your source of happiness
03:58 - Stop expecting others
to understand that you’re changing
05:58 - You can't’ expect them to have answers to your problems or to realize just how important they are to you
07:01 - Stop expecting
everyone to like you
07:48 - Don’t expect others
to show up for you the way you do for them
08:42 - Don’t expect others
to stay when their time
to go has come
09:29 - Don’t expect others
to make you rich when
you’re not willing to work
11:25 - Don’t expect others
to make you their priority even if you made them yours
12:08 - Don’t expect others
to have their sh*t together
12:49 - Stop demanding
forgiveness even if you changed your ways
13:22 - Stop expecting others
to be on the same journey you’re on
13:59 - Stop expecting others
to give as many f*cks as
you give

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[alux]

Hello ALUXERS! When's the last time someone let you down?

[EmbraceTheStruggle]

I know im gonna sound like a homer, but no one should ever apologize for having high expectations. That being said; if we can just get fact checking straight and encourage eachother to want to be loved and accepted, think of the amazing progress that could be made ... however not everyone will be able to understand this, and thats ok. It also really comes down to what you want from yourself, even though it doesn't always seem easy...and YES... relying on others too much for happiness will only lead to a path of dissatisfaction and frustration. Though this isn't always the case, as there are exceptions to the rule. And even my one buddy and i had an interesting conversation about this the other day; and we both agree that you can't magically convince certain individuals or groups to buy into your perspective, personality, or beliefs, and typically that is what is the ultimate building block of realizing and not just discovering who you believe you should be. It doesn't just involve thinking, but BELIEVING as well. There are also going to be times you HAVE to think of yourself before thinking of others...because as described in the vid; many people are bombarded with their own concerns for a multitude of reasons...although i believe 'social conditioning' is to blame for why inequality being the way that it is...but again, the more we expect of others and the less loyalty we show to ourselves; the more difficult it will be to avoid the illusion of thinking your sentiment doesn't matter...because it does matter...and the less we compare ourselves to others; the more self focus we can have without being overly selfish or too nice...however you want to put it. A lot of our expectations from ourselves AND OTHERS comes from a MINDSET and a BELIEF SYSTEM. And in order to 'be the change you want to see in the world' as quoted by mahatma Gandhi; it all starts with having expectations that are within reason and not in ways that are delusional and unrealistic.

[CassiesPetParent]

I learned (from my grandmother) to treat everyone with "a long wooden spoon". Meaning, treat others with cautious kindness all while being prepared to break off that line of hospitality when necessary.

[ThePathsInLife]

+ and,

What did I stop expecting from other people is

#1. I used to think that people care. about others but I am starting to see that no body care about anyone.

#2. I used to think that everyone values other people time. but they don't. all they do is use others to get something from them. in other for them to succeed in life. wile the other person is struggling badly

#3. before I use to think people is financially independent on they self. but I was wrong. for me I am starting to see others trying to use other people to get something from them. without spending they own money, or being financially independent on theyself, or others.

#4. This will not happen to everyone, only me. do to the small country. that i am leaving in. but I will say it.

another issue that i am having is

whenever, I am walking in town people like to look at me without saying anything to me. whenever. I start to shake my head, up and down. or respond to them. they ignores me. by looking down. while walking.

and if I ignores them then the look at me more longer without saying anything. this use to get me so uncomfortable and traumatized.

for me. what I am doing now is I am trying my best. to avoid looking at anyone. while I am walking whenever. I do this. this make me feel different and comfortable and very strange

and whenever others do this to others they talk to them. for me I really, do not know why people like doing that but that make me feel so uncomfortable.

#5. I used to think that everyone likes to help others but this is not always the case. instead people hate helping others and they rather do things alone. or they will get sick and tired of helping others over time. and then they will result to being independent. or cut you off completely by ignoring you.

this is something that I have learned. relying on others for help will only make them talk bad about you. or treat you bad. this is why I rather do every thing on my own without asking anyone for they help.

#6. I used to be nice with everyone but now I am starting to see that others like to look down on others for being to nice or they does bully others for being to nice this is why I stop being nice

#7. I used to shere a lot of my secrets with everyone about my self but now I am starting to see that others will treat me like a boring person.

this is why I rather not tell anyone about myself. this makes me result to self isolation. whenever, I do this I does feel good about myself and I can attract others in my life. without saying anything about my self. this is something that I learn to stay faraway from.

for me. I am very sorry Alux. i can not talk about #8, #9, #10, #11. with you, or anyone. because I am steal going through that traumatizing problem about others. I am not allowed to talk about this. this is way, to personal for me. to talk about it.

[doggydogdaily]

1)Stop Expecting Other People To Come Into Your Life & Make It Great.
2)Stop Expecting Others To Rise To The Potential You See In Them.
3)Stop Expecting Others To Read Your Mind Or Act The Way You Would Act.
4)Stop Expecting Others To Be Your Source Of Happiness.
5)Stop Expecting Others To Be Understand That You Are Changing.
6)You Can't Expect Them to Have Answers To Your Problem.
7)Stop Expecting Everyone To Like You.
8)Don't Expect Others To Show Up For You The Way You Do For Them.
9)Don't Expect Others To Stay When Their Time To Go Has Come.
10)Don't Expect Others To Make You Rich When You Are Not Willing To Work.
11)Don't Expect Others To Make You A Priority Even If You Made Them Yours.
12)Don't Expect Others To Have Their Shit Together.
13)Stop Demanding Forgiveness Even If You Changed Your Ways.
14)Stop Expecting Others To Be On The Same Journey As You Are.
15)Stop Expecting Others To Give As Many F's As You Give.

Bonus - Negative Visualization.

[RajuYadav-uytt]

expectations often lead to disappointments. Focus on your own journey, be kind, and let others be themselves. That's where true freedom and happiness reside.

[abdijabarhassanabdulahi]

The less expectation u have the more happier u are

[abdijabarhassanabdulahi]

It is better to walk alone than to walk with afool

[sudarshanvijayan]

ALUX has the potential to revolutionize the world. Keep going my fav content creator

[deanc]

This is such an important video. We place TOO MUCH VALUE on our interactions with others. What's most important is that we FOCUS ON OUR JOURNEY, goals, priorities, and work. I avoid as much as possible the expectations OTHERS HAVE ON ME, and vice versa. All this social crap going on, "oh, he didn't give me the respect I deserve", or "Oh, he doesn't talk much, so he must be a bad person or a retard!" ITS ALL A DISTRACTION! Most people are there FOR THE SOLE PURPOSE OF DISTRACTING YOU. A distraction from YOUR FOCUS, YOUR WORK, YOUR JOURNEY. Avoid any and all distractions, and most of all, LEARN TO LET GO. LET IT GO. LET HIM/HER GO. NOTHING AND NO ONE IS PERFECT. LET PERFECTION GO.

[changes]

I have come to a point in my life where enough is enough. Honestly God and those he has supporring me are my only friends. It took me a long time to get it, but I get it now. My issue was that every time I started prospering, people would come along. My focus would shift from me to them. Only to have them play in my face. Right now, I am in hermit mode. I only respond to a select few. My focus is inward. I am also listening and seeing the signs that are given to me. I have always been free, but it is only now that I feel free.

[TheGunDude]

I stopped expecting people around me to get better and try harder when I realized it’s a waste of my own energy and I can use that energy on myself.

You can’t help someone who doesn’t help themself.

[robertbrowniii]

+, I stopped expecting people to reach out 1st after not speaking and people not responding back after you do reach out 1st

[morenind]

I have no expectations of people...they move how they move and I respond accordingly. 🧘🏽‍♀️🍵 +

[nobodyfromnowherekingz]

They did not fuck up jayhova’s name like that😂😂
Shoutout jay z

[cldiazinc]

I needed this video. Mitigating my expectations of others in my circle has been a life long struggle. I have finally reached a point where I understand that I have to focus on me. This video just confirmed my new mindset.

[hthuku]

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I don't expect others to respect me! as i respect them!.

[srr]

People don't listen to understand. People listen to reply.
I stopped expecting people to try and be on the same page before assuming the worst of me and the situation at hand.

[kadeemwalwyn]

I stop expecting people to believe in my dreams ...my own family doubted me, ...I'm doing better ever since

[adandelgado]

THANK YOU!!! These periodic cold showers of Truth are much needed. This channel has very concretely changed my life, for the better. I can say frankly and honestly that I am currectly the best version of myself (still evolving) thanks to you. Practical examples of this have been your Meditation course. Your promo code to start using Audible and the undeniable, invaluable information you offer through these videos which have served me as a compass when I felt I had no direction. You say what you mean, and you mean what you say. I honestly can´t add anything because it would just be repeating what you point out or just saying the same thing differently, but it would be: STOP SEEING YOURSELF AS A SAVIOR. IN THE END YOU CAN ONLY SAVE YOURSELF. Real change starts with you, as an individual. +