Where I come from, it's all collectively called "talking out your a$$"
BegoneKastro_
An able-bodied woman once yelled at me for referring to myself as disabled (what I visibly am)?! She said SHE doesn't like that word.
Soph
That's when you wait until they finish, and then simply respond with "Oh, Well, actually, I just always wanted to know what being a cyborg would be like, so I chopped my leg off and had it replaced."
TedSki
Went to lunch one day years ago with my two work buddies. One paraplegic fellow and the other a blind fellow. The blind fellow hears and smells a fajita skillet go by and asks what that was. Other fella says, you’ll end up wearing it so don’t bother. I offer to assist, if that’s what he wanted. I’ve never seen anyone enjoy a meal more. He’d gotten used to being accommodating for others, eating what he was told was the least messy for others. I think that was his liberty fajita. It made his shirt and his elbows saucy, but made him so happy. Handicapped or disabled or whatever the new term is… they are still ppl with wants and needs and ppl need to let them take on as much agency as they can take on. Enable the fajita!
veronicaevans
I used to assist a friend who was wheelchairbound. People automatically ignored him and talked to me. We called it talking to the engine not the driver.
andyp
I was recently introduced to the word "ultracrepidarian", which is a more general term for people who advise on topics they don't know about.
MichaelThorsley
Apparently there’s an old English word for this: rawgabbit. Basically means someone who speaks confidently about something they know barely anything about.
tearoses
My son, a paraplegic, actually had an older gentleman come up to him while we were vacationing and put his hands on his shoulders and said “God will have you walking by next week”. If my son coulda stood up I think he would’ve punched him. The arrogance. 🙄
tinakaminskadickinson
"My friend lost a toe" gives off earily simular vibes to "I'm not racist, my friend is black"
michaelaporteous
I’m a mother of a disabled son. At the park, we met another mother with a disabled child.
We agreed how much it sucked when people tried to tell us what our kids’ dx REALLY were.
Then…
…she became convinced that my hearing son was deaf because he spoke in a low voice and SHE WOULD NOT LET THAT SHIT GOOOO.
divalea
Ablesplaining is what I've always called it 🤣
DaniCalforna
Oh yeah. I am type 1 diabetic and I get "you cant eat that" or "that has to much sugar for you" all the time
andnlyCJ
I have severe inattentive ADHD and a learning disability and when I tell people that, I can’t count number of times they’ve responded “you don’t have a disability. I would know if you had a disability.” or “you can’t have a disability, you’re too smart” and I just die inside a little each time. 😮💨
FullmetalAlchemist
As a person with an invisible disability (congenital heart defect), I call it Thursday, it happens way too often. I have been yelled at for using handicap parking and clearly not being handicap as I was younger then and don't have a wheelchair.
GabrielleOlney
"audacity" is a good term lmao
PopChanx
Ablesplaining.
As someone with an invisible disability -- I get ablesplained a lot.
SomeBlokeOrWhatever
My daughter in law is a successful environmental journalist. A man once ‘splained to her an article that she’d written.
And, you go girl!!
PaulaZF
I went from able-bodied to Funtional Neurological Disorder literally overnight (about 2.5 years ago.) The way total strangers just insert themselves into my world now and try to "explain" what will make me "better" just blows my mind every single day!!
Having my mobility & abilities change instantly really highlighted this "able-splaining" behaviour. Like, how in the f**k do people think this is okay??
Recently, I reconnected with a long time friend who uses a prosthetic and I said, "On behalf of able-bodied people everywhere, I am SO SORRY you've been treated like this! I had no idea it was this bad."
Basically saying: My mind is absolutely blown by the "socially common" ways that people insert themselves into disabled people's lives. 🤯🤯🤯🤯
His response: "if you know, you know. Welcome to the club."
meaganfilteau
Usually I call that a doctor's appointment, but I may have to revise that 😂
