5 Tips for Making Your (Valentine's) Date ADHD Friendly

Date nights are great for relationships, but traditional dates aren't exactly ADHD friendly. Here are some that are!

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[taetems]

My husband and I often have cuddle dates on the couch and play video games. It helps us stay close together and show love to each other, despite my ADHD. :)

[wanderingintime]

yeah! I cant look people in the eyes because then I start analyzing their eyes, lips, dehydration levels, lines, imagine their faces upside down, and have to micro shake my head and remind to stay focused. or, i can look off to the side and listen to what they're saying.

[HLB]

This is literally the first time I've ever heard a list of suggested pastimes and NONE of them sound murderously boring!

[SoulControlla]

I heard nothing after, "is a hot dog, a sandwich"?....

[DayonaCraZy]

I love these ideas! I tried taking my husband to the movies a few weeks ago (pre-diagnosis) and he kept getting on his phone answering work emails or texts. I was so frustrated. But now everything makes so much sense! He sent me one of your videos and I have now watched so many of them. I even bought him a fidget cube from one of them. You have helped me understand why he does some of the things he does. It has helped me help him and together we are getting through this early stage. Thank you for all that you do. It really does help! 💜

[madeline]

I was about to say axe throwing!! I've always wanted to try it! Also my boyfriend bought me a cooking class for Christmas and I loved that!

[strawberryswing]

hi! I was diagnosed with adhd a week ago, on my 21st birthday!! :D I am currently going through a little rollercoaster of emotions--mostly hopeful/happy/helpful ones THANKS to you and all your videos and contributions to this community. again, THANK YOU for simply existing, you ethereal being. if I hadn't come across your TedTalk while desperately searching for adhd-help-related videos, I am sure I'd be feeling completely lost and confused and overwhelmed on how to cope. you are amazing!!! <3


I have one question, maybe I haven't come across the topic through your videos jussstttt yet... but would it be possible to someday have the topic of a video be money-management / saving tips, etc. for adhd?


sending lots of love your way! thank u

[Iris-ytcz]

I like to go to pet stores for dates!! My gf and I both love animals (and both have ADHD) and it's fun to look at all the animals together for awhile and maybe pet/hold some of them! (just don't get too attached and take some home when you shouldn't!)


another thing to check (if you like cats) is if there's a cat cafe in your area! I didn't know there was one where i live but i ended up going and had a lot of fun!!

[skaryzgik]

the tvs in restaurants get me EVERY TIME and i CANNOT STOP WATCHING THEM even if i specifically dont want to watch the show that's on. i thought i was the only one!

[Thee_Sinner]

This seems great for people already in relationships... but ive got no clue how to START a relationship.

[surprisinglysoprano]

i’ve been watching your videos because my sister was diagnosed with adhd and i wanted to know more about it. now i’m starting to notice how many systems i have as well, just not the same as her

[anxioushungry]

This video was perfectly timed! I’m currently planning a date for me and my bf and we both have ADHD so I was seriously struggling. I’d love to hear your tips on how to keep a long distance relationship strong! I seem to go crazy whenever I’m on a phone call with him and I always feel bad for zoning out. Thank you so much for all your awesome videos!

[rileyg]

This was a friend date, but we went to goodwill, each picked out a cheap painting/photo, and then painted things into the scene, like alies, etc.

[stephanieallard]

I stay so busy and sleep so little sometimes when i finally get a chance for a date type scenario i am falling asleep during it which is hurtful to the other person but I'm so relaxed and exhausted i cant stop myself

[isabelberg]

One of my BEST friends once randumly started talking about is a hotdog is a sandwich during lunch. I was AMAZING .

[joeltibbetts]

I would just like to say the way you deliver information so quickly is relaxing for me. I find it challenging to sustain my focus in regular conversation. My ex explained my brain processes things really fast. I kinda wish the partner I have now was able to understand that. Might have something to do with being overwhelmed by my kids when we talk about this stuff. End of rabbit trail lol

[NickBatinaComposer]

Could you do a video for tips on creatives and artists? I’m a composer of classical music, which is fantastic cause it reduces the effort of starting projects, but I struggle to create boundaries for my art stuff making “normal life activities” incredibly difficult! Hyperfocus keeps me glued to my engraving software for hours and hours, but as a result, I can’t break away and be productive once it has begun. Idk, not sure where to even start, so hearing someone else’s tips on surviving an art world might give me some much needed support in that regard

[drewlop]

I haven't watched your channel for a while (maybe a year), but since then your presentation style seems to have become a little calmer and more confident in a way I find reassuring. Don't know if that's deliberate or a consequence of experience (or something else!), but thought I'd drop a little praise here either way :)

[FyberOptic]

Please don't further encourage my girlfriend about fondue. I'm afraid I'm going to wake up covered in cheese one day.

[tiptapkey]

Thank you for the non-straight example pictures!