The Guessing Game: Make Small Talk Effortless And Fun

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What’s the goal of small talk? Think of small talk as a way to A.) learn about each other or learn what’s new with each other, B.) see if you connect on anything and want to form or strengthen a relationship, and C.) enjoy yourself.

This video will show you how to do that without asking a bunch of questions and making it feel like an interview, and avoid forced conversation or awkward silences.

0:56 What's the point of small talk?
1:37 How to combine a compliment & a cold read to replace a boring question with interesting, fun conversation
2:59 The kinds of questions that lead to excited conversation that flows naturally vs. the questions that lead to awkward silences
4:36 My favorite conversation game that is easy to work into conversation without it seeing weird, and makes small talk enjoyable for both people
5:44 How to guide the conversation towards things you're interested in, by eliciting their advice/opinion

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[achild]

that moment when you're so awkward you need to watch a tutorial on how to socialize

[binal-flecki]

"oh my god you're so funny are you a comedian"

i can't say that without coming of as sarcastic

[wengya]

Lmao, I'll end up saying- *"why are you 23 years old?"*

[russbg]

I hate when people ask what I do for fun. I have to tell them I watch youtube videos.

[yoyoheads]

How it'd actually go down:
Stranger: *tells joke*
Me: *laughs* Wow you're so funny, are you a comedian?
Stranger: No.
Awkward Silence

[jeffersfilms]

1. Compliment + Cold Read
2. Open-ended Questions
3. Turn it Into a Game ("Hang on, let me guess")
4. Elicit their Advice or Opinion

[ArjanPaijers]

5. Realise that is't not only your responsibility to keep the conversation going. The other one has to put some effort in it too. So if a conversation turns out into an akward silence, it's not only your fault, but also his/hers. Don't blame yourself too much if it doesn't work out every now and then.

[MeloFloww]

Her: you’re so funny, like my brother!
Me: so why do you have a Brother??

[nullvoid]

This is like learning how to be a human being im fcked lmaoo

[theresecadalzo]

Me irl
"Wow your dress is nice, you must be a swimmer"

[aidangittings]

All these comments are really funny





Wish we could be like this irl...

[di]

If you are real confident you don't mind about silence, just talk when you feel like it!

[nayasimon]

This is what helped me:

The main solution to conversate without it being awkward is not over analyzing so much. Stop focusing on small things like “how to talk to people” and stuff and you will naturally become more good at speaking to other people because the reason we are so awkward is, our head goes blank and you end not knowing what to say, if we do have something to say we overthink that its not a good question or response so we sit their silent or we have serious social anxiety that makes us think everything we say or do is wrong and every one is judging us. We over analyze people so much but if you really help yourself realize these are just humans they are not superior for you to get nervous to just talk to them the conversation will literally flow as if you were talking to a close friend. I remember watching this video a long while ago and I was binge watching videos on how to act in public and all and non of the advice stuck in my head when it was time to talk or something I literally forgot what to do and how to act and than I realized if I just stop over analyzing everything, everything wouldn’t be so fu**ing hard! YOU GUYS DONT NEED HELP TALKING TO PEOPLE YOH NEED HELP BEING MORE CONFIDENT🤎

[sierra]

This is my #1 goal to master in the next year. I’m not necessarily shy but I NEVER know what to say and I come off so awkward and shy when I’m not

[QuikScoper]

I don’t get it, how to you carry a conversation? When I’m around people, I’m usually the quiet one, and when they talk, it usually either goes
1. *friend says something*
Me: why didn’t I think of that

Or

2. *thinks of something potentially funny to say after conversation has ended*

[philipeaderson]

* me as a doctor in hospital *
Me: how are you? What brings you here todayy? Oh no, actually I want to guess!!

[edwardfarrell]

The moment I realized that I've done some weird "interview" instead of conversation. Thank you for the tips

[harsham]

my friend:*tells an interesting story*


me
"öhh"

[Kenopsyaa]

I should be studying but somehow mastering the art of small talk just feels more important at the moment