6 Things You Didn’t Know Were Loneliness

Have you ever felt a sense of emptiness or disconnection without quite knowing why? In this eye-opening video, we explore the many faces of loneliness and uncover hidden signs that you might be feeling lonely without even realizing it. Loneliness is more than just being alone; it's a complex emotion that can manifest in various ways, impacting your mental health and overall well-being.

We'll delve into the different types of loneliness, from social isolation to emotional disconnection, and discuss how these feelings can affect your life. Whether you're asking yourself, "Why am I lonely?" or trying to understand, "Am I lonely?", this video provides insights and answers.

#lonely #mentalhealth

Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Editor: Kelly Soong
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Animator: Ccinee
Youtube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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[Psychgo]

We’re here for you. Don’t hesitate to reach out for help if you’re ever feeling stuck

[gibbobux]

"You are surrounded by friends at a social gathering" Stop right here. I don't go to social gatherings and i don't have any friends.

[zabintanfa]

It's even harder when you're suffering from loneliness and have emotionally unavailable parents who don't understand your situation.

[leen]

I know a lot of people, but when I need something, suddenly I don't know anyone

[neofulcrum]

Doesn’t help when you got low self esteem too

[eden_oxo]

0:34 Oversharing when people listen
1:03 Becoming obsessive about relationships
1:49 Being overly helpful
2:22 Spending too much time on social media
3:06 Constantly seeking distractions
3:33 Feeling emotionally drained after social interactions

That second one hit hard. I had a friend who I thought was like the best person I ever met but one day without warning, everything just fell apart. It's strange because usually I recognise people's red flags quite quickly but not this time for some reason, and when I talked to my actual friends about her, they pointed out how I seemed to genuinely like her a lot (platonically), so much more than I realised, and also how manipulative she actually was. But looking back, I consider it a useful experience, because it helped me to see my actual friends and connect with them on a much more deeper level, so as upsetting as it was, it was still something that benefitted me in the long run.
Guys, please don't ignore people who are genuinely close to you all for one friendship or relationship, I can almost guarantee it won't work out most of the time.

[arlenerivera-gwst]

I tend to overshare, but I don't know how to stop when it is so liberating to have a real, live person to talk to.

[Veil_ofthevoid]

Oversharing when people listen, because no one ever does. Becoming obsessive about relationships, because I have to pretend I’m still capable of love. Being overly helpful, because I have to make myself useful, somehow. Constantly seeking distractions, because I’ve only ever felt the *consequences* of reality. Feeling emotionally drained after every social interaction, because lying about there being anything about me that would intrigue anyone, is exhausting.

[aikordcz]

I actually KNOW I'm lonely. I watched a tv show about a week ago and it triggered my emotions. I realised how empty my social life is. The only people I have (and I absolutely love them all) are my mom, brother and best friend. That's it, no more close friends, no girlfriend, nobody. I think I've never checked a full score on any of your videos, exept this one, everything in this video describes me perfectly:

- I want to talk about myself and share everything about me, only to realise there's nothing to talk about, cuz my life is nothing interesting at all.
- I got obsessed about finding a girlfriend, despite ever talking to only 3 girls (a family friend, friends sister, girl from school).
- I'm always there to help anyone that asks. It makes me feel better... most of the time.
- I'm on social media a lot. At least I'm trying to browse only positive places.
- I'm trying to distract myself as much as possible. The voice of my brain is just so loud and it always talks about how lonely I am.
- And on top of that, despite wanting new friends, I'm scared of social interactions and avoid them, if it's not someone I know.

I cried about it last night when my mom started to notice something is wrong and asked me about it. She's the best person I know, always there for me, listening and wanting to help me. If someone feels the same as me, stay strong, we'll get through it one day, don't give up ❤‍🩹

[keip]

The worst part is being alone and feeling lonely.
It is hard to tell people is because many don't understand or care.

Choose who you tell.

[Jake_Kowalski]

I have no friends, I spend all my time alone, talking to myself and asking myself "why?" I'm waiting for someone who understands my feelings to say, "You're not alone, I'm with you. I want to help you escape the loneliness"

[mojo_joju]

It's crazy that so many people feel this way, but none of us want to make friends.

I'd love to meet new people. People are never interested in meeting me.

[eljaminlatour]

One thing I don't like, when I'm lonely, is that people around me talk to each other more than they talk to me, like why? Am I not worth talking to?

[siennaprice]

I think for me, being that I am totally blind, on the autism spectrum, and have complex PTSD, oversharing can be a thing for me. But I don’t always realize that I am Oversharing in that moment, until later. I think another thing about me, being that I am totally blind, autistic, and have complex PTSD, it can be very hard to make friends. Because people either take advantage, bully, or betray me. A lot of people with special needs and mental illness really just want friends. Because in the past, they’ve been used, or bullied. So we try even harder to either make friends, or hide ourselves from new people.

[fctjlfm]

I don't trust or typically like anyone. There are times when I do feel really lonely, but I prefer that to being forced to associate with people who make me feel uncomfortable. People are a liability.

[lllllllll]

I’m drained after a social gathering because the conversations are always about gossip, financial duress, or posturing. It’s exhausting.

Our entire society isn’t okay anymore, it got f”d up by the internet.

[taotaoliu]

This past winter and spring, I've dealt with extreme loneliness from physical isolation. I live in a suburban neighborhood miles away from all my close friends. Recently, I've gotten back with my bestie. She invited me to Olive Garden, told me we could have a picnic this summer and play in the snow together next winter, and even that she'd sit with me at Prom next year! She's the sweetest and most adorable friend :3 💕

[jessicasingh]

I don’t know how to become “not lonely”. I have friends and family and I’m rarely alone, but I’m so lonely it’s like a giant hole I can’t fill. 😐

[KWOKAROTTO]

Loneliness is something I face every day. I'm an introvert, I prefer to be alone and in my head. Yet when I'm with others there's a sense of comradery. Over time I've come to accept this way of life as it's hard to make friends. I still have hope that maybe things will change. I know I can make it happen. I just need to mentally disengage from all of the distractions and noise. Touch grass, go out and experience things irl. One step at a time and whatever will be will be.

[msmariapaula]

Work culture in the US can be so consuming. I'm in my 30s trying to grow my career and it can be very isolating, especially if you work from home. I'm am definitely looking to get back into therapy.