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SelfHelpToons
You forgot to mention that having a parent or both parents, that are very impatient and critical, can also cause this.
Every time you try to do something you may be yelled at or hit. So, you learn that to take action, is scary, not safe. You learn to go and hide this avoiding punishment.
This is the model I developed.
I am making progress. My husband helped me learn to change my car battery. My husband was far away so he told me how over the phone. I also watched a YouTube video.
I didn’t think I could do it. I really was overwhelmed.
But I did it!
Having a calm, patient teacher that is not shamed when you fail, but helps you try again, until you succeed, makes trying safe.
You are smart enough! You can do it.
Not sure how many people also struggle with not being supported to try to fix problems because of their parents shame, depression ( leading to be extremely critical and impatient?
But if you did, know that you can rebuild this within yourself. It’s hard work “ re-parenting” yourself, but it’s worth it.
There is so much you can do and learn to do well. Everyone makes mistakes, especially when learning.
It doesn’t mean you are stupid, or incapable, just that you are learning something new. It’s okay.
Raminakai
When you are constantly rejected this behaviour can be absorbed and this is how dominant people have ruled over others. I don't think you can just put the reasons into 2 boxes, pessimists or optimists. If you are being rejected systematically and from many things in your life you are bound to carry over this thought. I bet those guys who didn't develop learned helplessness had multiple good things going on in their lives, good social and economic situation, better support and so on.
itsjustramblings
This is exactly what is happening to me right now and I had not realized it until I watched this video. My helplessness has carried over to all other life domains and no wonder I got into a rut for a week now. I had never even heard of this before. Everyone should learn and be aware of this. Thankyou!!!
geneg
Hi,
I got a branch during my btech 1st year that initially i didn't liked... Tried studying for its unit exams but couldn't get good grades that's when I stopped trying, for next 4 semisters i didn't even bother to study for exams, never even tried, backlogs piled up, cgpa went a steep downhill.
Now, when I tried a comeback thats where this learning helplessness kicked in, i thaught It was just over for me that I will never be the same close to topper never again ..
Currently I am pushing myself motivating myself and doing good, this video really opened my eye.
Been doing good these days.
rawstick
Really good video. I had no idea that my brain was functioning like this. I could see how my life and help me develop that mindset.
juliatenison
Well put together and very well explained. I found it to be helpful, thank you!
izi.z
i think your videos literally saves lives.
Thank you very very much!
Dantevfx
Unbelievable timing on this one Greg! Really needed this to deal with GAD
nicknorizadeh
Thank you sir, these videos help out tons!
steve
Hey, thank you! This was really helpful and well explained 👍😊
shelleygruber
I feel so helpless about my situation right now!!
RoadRunnergarage
Wow this is great I will share with othe I know who deal with Helplessness
redditt
Thank you, I don’t see a link for explanatory style video
justinrules
Fear of discipline routine is learned helplessness.
abdullaalteneiji
This theory is really, really limited and your exclusive focus on old literature is flawed. Look at Maier's recent research on the theory
shahtayyib
Why do you keep it so complicated. I'm not going for my Masters. I just want to learn what works. I've watched it twice. Now that's depressing. It's simple. Why all the confusion. What happed to mice not jumping over a board to avoid an electric shock?
Now in one simplistic answer or one sentence, what's the solution? Pretend there is millions of regular Jane's and Joes that want to overcome. Maybe no more than 8th grade education. Maybe head trama. And please stop asking for money. Do it to be nice and helpful. I donate my time to help people speak the English Language better.
