My Husband Hid This From Me for Years

My Husband Hid This From Me for Years

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[shannalee]

She needs to hire a forensic accountant. And a divorce lawyer. He’s left this marriage and family AWHILE ago.

[jeromehenry]

Caller needs to file divorce papers ASAP. Husband's liquidation of 401K is telltale sign he has gone scorched earth. There is probably a sizeable Life Insurance Policy on her, that could be the next asset husband goes for. Wife needs to get a Title Lien Search on their home because there's a good chance husband has cashed out some of their house equity, too. Caller is in danger, this goes way beyond mid-life crisis or falling out of love. Husband has already told her their entire family is expendable as far as husband is concerned. Get out alive while you still can.

[sailboatgirl]

She should pull HER credit report and make sure he didn't take any loans or credit cards in her name.

[duvessa]

Lady, YOU R BEING USED by someone disguising himself as your husband.

[marshaM]

The first red flag was the child support delinquency. Why have more children/ blended family with a man who clearly didn't care enough about the child he already had? This level of disregard for his responsibility to his child would not lead me to think he would be a good father or partner. Hopefully she doesn't have to pay him alimony.

[ritapearl-imwv]

Guarantee...he's planning to divorce her. He's spent them into debt and he plans to receive alimony because she makes more than him. He WANTS her to file.

[dahlia]

He is stashing as much money as he can for his departure.

[hedge]

She's covering most of the bills and he was behind in child support. That is very telling.

[heidikarpa]

He’s seen an attorney already. He’s increased his spending to validate a specific amount of alimony. He’s creating the receipts for a higher standard of living. That way, she’ll be in the hook for higher alimony and higher percentages if their assets to turn over to him. She needs to see an attorney ASAP to protect herself

[eloisemarie]

This marriage is done. Stop living in fantasyland. No more paying his bills and protect your money. Hire a lawyer and go find your next life.

[gabehoyer]

He really looked his wife in the eye and said, “No. Why would I?”

There’s really people out there like this. Heartbreaking 😞

[lindawilson]

It's over. File for divorce because John is right. He's already left you.

[nikstar]

My father was this man. Run lady! You’re being codependent if you stay ❤

[monio.]

My parents were in the exact same situation. My mom would work, take care of the house, cook, clean, take care of me and my brother, paying the bills, buying groceries, buying our clothes, while my dad got to keep his money and pretend that he s keeping them for us, for when we grow up. One day my mom just divorced him and that s it, she didn t even ask for his money or anything, he just moved out, bought a big house with a big yard and is living the life. He didn't invite us there once, except when he needed help with the renovations. Some people are just nasty human beings.

[charlotteboyett-napper]

He’s not leaving. His life is too good. No problems at all

[natashamwangi]

I've never heard a clearer sign that someone is about to be left than on this call

[Some_kind_of_wonderfü]

“No, why would I?” I think there’s your answer, my friend. This is already a done deal.

[shola]

She lost me at he doesn't pay any bills. Lady get a lawyer.

[FreeSpirit]

When I brought our 4th baby home after being born, our 10th wedding anniversary was a few months away. I asked him if he would do a vow renewal celebration with me. His response was - "I don't see it as anything to celebrate."
It was then that I began saving up money that he didn't know about.
A friend who had a storage unit that they no longer needed, still had a lease on it, let me use it. I began putting non perishable groceries in it.
Having been faithful to him, still loved him, I began to prepare just in case. A few friends had been broad sided by their spouses with divorce papers. Helping them, I saw the signs they missed. He had no idea as there was no bill for the storage unit.
The ex-beat me just once, that was the final straw.
After recovering, I filed & financed the divorce. Preparing like it would happen, hoping it wouldn't happen, so glad I prepared.

[gschneider]

Thankfully, she still has a separate account that her earnings go into. She's gonna need that money when they divorce.