How Did People Used To Date?

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[RobsMotivationHub]

I’ve been working on just talking to strangers more. It’s good to keep your social skills up and I don’t really interact with people if I don’t do that.

[Slicktable]

So true. The first 3 years at my school I really struggled to get close to people, so I had 2 friends and that was it. Then they put a phone ban in place and this past year I've made lots of friends, and I might even be close to getting a girlfriend.

Phones might be a barrier at first, but once you actually know people they're a blessing. I live pretty far from most of my friends so having a way to communicate with them at all times is really nice.

[caryeverett]

I do not know a single person who engaged in "online dating" that has a long-term relationship through it. HOWEVER, every single person under 40 that I know who is currently in a long-term relationship, did originally meet online, in a non-dating but social setting like an MMO, or a Discord server, or a forum or a chat room. Including my relationship, where we randomly met on FFXIV, started talking, fell in love, moved in together, and have been living together for 8 years now and even adopted a son. All from a random chance meeting and socialization.

"Online dating" seems broken. Normal online socialization, by contrast, seems to be functioning fine, exactly the same as normal real life socialization always has.

[boop]

I can be a very insular person if I'm not intentional about how I spend my time, so I've purposely taken on a job that requires me to constantly interact with members of the public. It's been 2 months since I started and I'm blown away by how much more comfortable I feel initiating conversations with strangers in my day-to-day life

[donnelly]

I have dated a couple of women who at first glance would be a swipe right in today's dating. Over time, I actually got to know their personality and other traits and became more attracted to them. Proximity and mere exposure is something online dating today does not offer, which are two important variables that can actually help develop a relationship.

[charnaeyoung]

lol. You know? The same could be said about job posts. I swear they are looking for the perfect person to exist because they have access to all these applicants now. And yet, job reposted because they can’t find the “right” person. Entry level isn’t even entry level anymore.

[ThaAlecman]

I assume some other part of the longer video touches deeper on how we need to evolve with how dating has evolved, because hoo boy are the circumstances changing

[maddi]

Exactly this. Back in the 20th Century when I was an undergrad, I lived in a house share that had no phone. We all just got to know each other's friends from our courses, we would hang out, go to the pub together, and would meet other folk there. And there was always a house party or two at the weekends...

[dannycolwell]

Plus this generation has seen their parents split up and seen a lot of familial trauma so hyper independence and “runner’s syndrome” are prevalent. Walls up, armor on, ejection seat primed

[dislexas]

besides, anyone who you would meet online, who uses online for bonding, is particularly someone who will never hang out. You're their substitute

[samkelly]

I deleted all social media and got rid of my iPhone for a flip phone. My dating success went through the roof and when I go on dates you definitely stand out when you don’t use a smart phone or social media. Women absolutely love it .

[Flesh_Wizard]

The dating pool's looking more and more like a dating septic tank with each passing year

[WhatswhatwhatwhT]

Proximity principle -the idea that people are more likely to form relationships, connections, or associations with those who are physically or geographically close to them. This concept is often used in psychology and sociology to explain how relationships develop, emphasizing that repeated exposure and physical closeness increase the likelihood of interaction and bonding.

[nadyatytian]

Don't I remember!!!! I just wish people would just put their bloody phone down, and look around to the person sitting in front of them.

[alicefibers]

When i was dating have speak to a lot of person who was clueless about what they need or have to offer in a relation. They don't know what was his priority in life but know what kind of music i should listen and wich movie we gonna look together. I can compromise on movie but not on my need.

[utebrown]

I love your videos. Short and hitting the nail right on the head.

[zshxn]

Social media and dating apps has flipped the dating scene on it's head

[BlueBelle-]

I'm 59 and I feel like the internet has complicated the dating scene. Especially, when it's so easy for people to cheat now.

[JonahMV]

Back in the day was arranged marriage and I wish it kept that way because that would've helped me a lot .😢

[SK-yxhm]

Dating now is just swipe right and move onto the next guy.