8 Signs You Have a Weak Sense of Self

How well do you know yourself? Besides your favorite color and food, do you know your own interests, hobbies, and strengths? If you struggle to answer this, you may have a weak sense of self. With some work and mindfulness, you can always make yours stronger!

Writer: Ria Parikh
Script Editor: Isadora Ho
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Whalesharkollie (New Animator)
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

References

[Aan]

Timestamps
1). You have a hard time saying no 0:58
2). You lack self-confidence 1:22
3). You struggle to define your interests and values 1:49
4). You often seek validation from other 2:19
5). You don't spend time alone 2:49
6). You are indecisive 3:13
7). You disregard your own needs 3:39
8). You have a codependent relationship 4:07

Hope this helps you out.

[tylerbinder]

The hardest question is always, just who am I.? A lot of these are definitely relatable

[draon]

My gf actually accused me of this when we fought some times back ... Ended up wondering and exploring stuff after that time, and also ended up doubting our bonds which led to further fights until recently.

A lack of "self" focus can be as a result of long term gaslighting, and self inflicted gaslighting, when you doubt yourself but don't ask why you do so, or respond with something meaningless in back and forth friction in your mind, chances are you have been gaslit and is doubting your thoughts.

We could end up like this if the world or society pressured it into us to think like this.

If a superior or a parent's words or demands lingers in your head, then it's a lack of self-serving decision.

[richafulara]

I relate to each and every point. I think I'm struggling with a weak sense of self. As a kid, I never really had good friends. Even now, I just have 2 friends who don't live in my city. It's very overwhelming as I often get the feeling of missing out on friendships and relationships when I look around. Nowadays, even social media promotes these behaviours that worsen the condition. Sometimes I feel like I'm not good enough or a likeable person at all.

[TakeBackYourMind]

Self acceptance, confidence and self love are all learnable skills that anyone can acquire. Spend time getting to know yourself, learning to love accept who you are now and where you're at now, whilst working on getting to where you want to be in areas where you're not there yet. Everyone deserves love and respect, regardless of where you're at in your journey.

[hugoyuugo]

8 out of 8. I definitely have a weak sense of self, maybe more focused on what my qualities are. Otherwise, I know my weaknesses pretty well so I thought okay I might not be that bad knowing myself. In the end, it is very true I put emphasis on my flaws...

[TheOpacue]

Having such a sweet and kind voice for a narrator is such a strong plus for this channel. It really helps me to take in the message and it feels comforting when struggling with depression. Thanks for a great channel guys ❤️

[feufeu]

1- You have a hard time saying no 0:59
2- You lack self-confidence 1:23
3- You struggle to define your interests and values 1:49
4- You often seek validation from others 2:19
5- You don’t spend time alone 2:49
6- You are indecisive 3:14
7- You disregard your own needs 3:39
8- You have a codependent relationship 4:07

Have a good day everyone!

[anbv]

IT WAS ME A FEW MONTHS AGO!! 😃😄 Everything was true back then but I’m working on myself, this video makes me realise how I’m slowly but surely improving and changing

[Racecar]

I relate a lot with this. I have a weak sense of self, I don't know who I am. Often times, I don't even realize I've taken interest in something until another person validates that interest, and I'm largely shy & reserved about that and prefer not to share such. It's hard for me to accept love from anybody, because as far as I'm aware, I'm a void, so I'm not likely to think someone really cares about me. To show me affection would feel like someone willingly pouring it down a drain. It's a really painful thought for me to think I'm a waste of others' effort, but yet I can't seem to break that cycle. It's painstaking.

[emmakatari]

Can relate to many things in this video. Made me realize some things that I didn't know I was doing.

[CoreyANeal]

I have a very strong sense of self. It matters who I'm around if I show it, because the people around me may not want to do it or not be comfortable with it. So different friendships have different boundaries and different needs.

If I have a friend that is allergic to peanut butter, I won't have peanut butter jelly sandwich with them.

If I have a friend that doesn't like video games I will do something they enjoy instead.

If I have a friend that doesn't like movies with horror in it I'll let them pick movie that doesn't have it.

Once I have my alone time I'll go back to things I enjoy, so it doesn't interfere with them.

[xxghettochildxx]

I would love to see a follow up video of how to get a better sense of self

[yuyacandin]

Friend constantly cares about others over herself. Apologizes for everything even when she did nothing wrong. She draws to keep her mind from going to the dark side of her depression; her art is detailed and she puts care into even small details. When people ask her for commissions, she underprices her art saying shes not that great. This vid sounds like her. And i wish she would realize it and rise up :(

[keeshuunedited]

This is something I've always struggled with. When I was a kid nothing really made me happy, and I was always bored when playing with other kids. Found video games and they were something that made me happy. However with the nature of video games is that they can be literally anything. So I've grown to love doing all sorts of things in life, and learned many skills. I go do these things in real life it's alright, but it's never worth the effort in the end whether it's something that takes months or years. Though it is kinda fun to "master" a skill them move onto the next.
Sure I like just about everything in life because there's been a video games have let me find a way to like it, but it's really hard to say there's anything I really "love", especially when I need to love that thing enough to justify doing that over other things. I will never understand how people can possibly be bored, there is always something to do.

This is why I've been trying to focus on improving my exercising routine, diet, sleep schedule, and various other stuff to make things take significantly less effort, and be more enjoyable. Enough so that something will pop out eventually so I am able to focus on one thing. Instead of wasting so much time and effort trying to do everything in the world, just to toss it to the side when I could've enjoyed myself just relaxing doing nothing and/or chatting with friends or something.

[LittleRoseLora]

When I saw this I realized that I have a weak sense of self, I finally found at least something that can explain why I am so not trustworthy of myself. This video helped more than it sounds.

[kwschlo]

The animation is so cute and her voice is so calming ❤

[TheLonelyMoon]

I relate to half of the video, I think I have a pretty strong sense of self, of what I want and what I love. After all these years of struggling, one day I finally realized that I didn't want validations from others, I just wanted the affirmation from myself. I always knew that I disliked myself, never truly realized that, I don't feel hatred toward anyone but myself. I simply weigh others way more than myself and I don't know how to fix that

[monkever]

Now I see why many people have self-esteem issues. When you don't value yourself, your life falls apart.

[FanofChantelle]

I love this so much! You won’t believe how both this and last week’s video about codependency came at an eerily opportune time for me! I was just telling someone who was feeling a little uprooted and lost in life how discovering who you are and your “sense of self” is the key to confidence.

Then, a few minutes after sending it....BOOOM!! A video about a sense of self!