What We Haven’t Shared Yet About Our Fertility Struggles

We put out a request for more questions and these were the most commonly asked! There's one we're saving though and that will be its own video. A lot to unpack about that topic. Hoping this info and advice continues to help others going through a similar situation!

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[strengthcomfortmedia]

My husband and I never had children. We helped many teens in our area and we even prevented teen suicides. We stay creative and run a global peace program. We would have enjoyed children but it was not possible in this lifetime. However we do really feel happy and fulfilled, because we are providing so much service to our community and the world.

[beachbum]

After 9 years of infertility treatments 5 miscarriages and a lot of tears we reevaluated and said we have such a beautiful life and marriage, let’s focus on the beautiful things we do have. We’re married now almost 31 years. Love our 🐈 cats, and enjoy being the fave aunt and uncle. It takes awhile to heal your heart. But it can happen Best wishes to both of you❤

[cmeflywva]

Please stop asking them if they have thought of adoption. "There are so many kids who need homes." I don't think you understand how hurtful it is for couples to be told they need to consider adoption and then make them feel guilty for wanting children of their own. Most of the people who ask this question have not adopted and only have children of their own. I'm sure they have deep discussions on their available options for children. The process for an adoption itself is long and can be stressful. Please give them and their medical providers every opportunity to have children of their own.
When comments like these are made, it can make couples feel as though they are selfish. Jessi and Alesso deserve respect for sharing their journey, and I'm sure there are people out there benefitting from their information. They didn't have to share this highly private part of their lives with us.

[babs]

I appreciate that you have a positive attitude towards a life without children. It’s not an empty and sad life. Thank you for reminding yourselves and everyone else about it.

[saramathenysweeney]

“Just don’t stress” is such a frustrating thing! Of course those of us struggling with infertility don’t want to be stressed. That and “it’ll happen once you stop trying” are so diminishing.

[gratefulmother]

I love you both so much. We have had 6 failed transfers this year, moving to surrogacy. I have watched your channel long before you shared your fertility journey. You are amazing people, and I appreciate you being so candid. I look forward to your updates and pray for you all of the time. Xoxo

[JohnSheehan]

Keep staying positive. I'm Irish, Italian and French. A true American mutt. Your journey is your journey, and just be grateful. My dad's first wife lost multiple births before they found out she had a rare blood disease. She passed away not to long after, and somehow he met my mother and ... here I am. You can be sad, you can be depressed, but just keep going. Your journey will affect many others.

[lesleydickens]

Imagine if we told people that certain foods would prevent pregnancy! It’s just as crazy and you don’t need anymore stress when you are on this journey. Don’t ever beat yourself up because you are doing the best you can. Praying for the both of you!

[Susan-cooks]

Jessi, I also struggle with anxiety and tend to over think even the smallest things. I've had multiple surgeries and have reached a point that I almost look forward to the anesthesia because it's a relief to have my mind medically shut off so I get some sleep! Since I have not experienced your challenges, I can't pretend to understand your battle against endometriosis or the IVF journey you and Alessio are going through, however, I can emphasize and keep you both in my prayers.

What I didn't hear either of you mention in this video is the importance of communication. You two are clearly a strong, loving, understanding and communicative couple. I think communicating with and understanding each other are major reasons you've been able to remain positive. You two should take credit for your communication skills because you are clearly extremely proficient in the often difficult art of it ❤

[mare]

So I have been through pretty much everything you are going through except the IVF. Had many cysts, many surgeries, a lot of scar tissue and years and years of pain. After much prayer we made the decision to adopt. Our son is almost 34 now. Praying you two find peace and wisdom that only the Lord can give. God Bless.

[ednuijen]

I am really interested in your story. Instead of giving advise on how to fix your problem (eat differently etc.) I will send you my support and love ❤️, you are the best judges of your situation. Again, ❤ your videos, stay strong and healthy. From France 🇫🇷 with love.

[GinnyScates]

Positivity is found inside of us... I've been in and out of hospitals since I was 2 (34 now), i went through a rare disease, three cancers, multiple surgeries, uncountable side effects, been deaf since I was 3, two years ago I even lost my ability to walk due to nerves damage... and I'm always the most positive person in the room.

The point is, shit happens.

Don't be sad because you're deaf, be happy because you can turn on your earing devices when you want to listen and turn it off when you need some quiet.

Don't be sad that you're not walking, be happy that you have a wheelchair to move around and think that you're lucky to not be forced in bed.

You're sick? It sucks, I know... the pain, the fatigue, the frustration of not seeing any way out of it... but you can choose whether to only see the bad side of it, or focus on any "not so bad" things that happen to you day after day.

YOU have the power to change things. Start with small things, remind yourself that you're doing it to improve your situation.
If you try to change things, you can succeed or fail. If you don't try, you'll only fail.

Jessi and Alessio are right, tho. You need support, and you need to find out what really matters to you. Don't be afraid of your emotions.

In my opinion, the only limits are physics and death.

Love yourself, you're amazing ❤

[Eloiseat]

I’ve never had kids, and I don’t regret it at all! I’ve been a professor of film studies for my entire career—here in the U.S. and at a university in Europe. I’ve also worked with kids as a volunteer tutor—in Italy, as a matter of fact. I live a rich and fulfilling life and if I could, I’d foster both dogs and cats for rescues. Unfortunately, my living situation doesn’t allow it. So I have a cat and have had cats for 30 years. I’m certainly not drawing comparisons, but it seems to me you guys really love each other and support each other. You have no end of things you do and want to do in life. Those things are a recipe for a great life!

I hope, in the event that you can’t have a baby, that you really do practice radical acceptance. I’ve done that a number of times, and it has helped me immeasurably. However you do it, or whatever you call it, meeting yourself exactly where you are, in my experience, is the key to happiness.

[ellendorian]

I admire you so much for continuing to share your journey, even when people's comments are less sensitive. Thank you. I was lucky to have a great support group when I was going through my own fertility struggles, but not everyone has that. I love following you for everything you share.

[antoniovieira]

It's so enjoyable to watch your videos. Two people with such a mature conversation. I wish you all the best.

[CarmelaV]

Just continue to be your positive, beautiful, happy selves!
I have had RA for almost 25 years and continue to get the same advice from people, i.e., that if I would only give up: gluten, meat, diary, nightshades, wine, bla, bla, bla. And, yes, it feels judgmental - almost like it’s your fault you have a medical condition. I have tried eliminating all of the above, to NO effect (I have found that limiting alcohol does seem to make a difference) other than being more stressed trying to figure out what the heck to eat and cook. I confess I was beyond relieved that giving up gluten and nightshades didn’t make a difference because life without pasta, good bread/bruschetta, tomatoes or eggplant would be more than I could bear! I need my pasta and caponata!!! 😂😂😂 Keep the faith!

[jadebeam]

My husband and I struggled for 6 years because of my PCOS. I then ended up getting pregnant at 37 almost 38 years old!!! I am so sorry y'all are having to go through this I understand how hard it can be. We are praying for you and your future family 🙏🙏

[chrisanderson]

I wish you both the best of luck on your journey thru this infertility struggle.
My wife and I went thru all this same struggle between 2006 and 2010. It was heartbreaking to watch my wife go thru the ups and downs associated with Endo, PCOS, and other fertility issues. We did what you are doing. However, my wife decided in 2009 that after many failed attempts and much pain, she opted for a total hysterectomy. I've never felt so much love for her as when she made the decision to put her health first.
My God bless you both. We send prayers to you on this journey.

[TinaPauHana]

Stay positive, I've had an ectopic pregnancy and am cyst prone. I also totally understand the feeling when you are so ready to have a baby and all you see are babies, baby mommas, it's frustrating (I can tell you stories on how I felt. So many feelings...). Hang in there and stay postitive. Now that I look back (I'm in my 60's now) I realize it's a marathon than a sprint. I am sorry you two are going through this, but know there are many of your viewers who are wishing you the best. btw- I now have two beautiful babies (they are 30 and 27, but are always my babies)

[V.Kay]

Love u guys, i never had kids due to many medical issues im almost 45 and my husband almost 50 our two kitties are our fur babies, you don’t need children to have a full life ❤