Afraid Of Confrontation? Watch This

Open social media, confrontation. Open your browser, confrontation. Look out the window, probably some more confrontation. You're not going to get away from conflict, so it's time to learn how to repair your relationship with it, whether you're caught in the trap of avoiding confrontation or the trap of being WAY too into it. Dig in.

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[naturalisted]

Due to all of the bullying I dealt with as a kid, I told myself, as an adult, that I'd always let people know if I feel like they're wrong, being abusive, etc. I usually avoid confrontation until I realize that there's no hope of them stopping their behavior unless I confront them. But like anything else; too much is too much...

[bcat]

I escaped an abusive household (especially mentally abusive) and now confrontation gives me extreme anxiety.
I’m going to confront a boss at my job that has been mistreating me.

[ErnestoVazquezChoby]

I was bullied and humiliated many times during middle school and high school, I was too nice and too afraid of confrontation, and had no guidance to help deal with those situations. I realize now that I grew up with low self-esteem, and it is my responsibility to be brave to stand for myself, set healthy boundaries, let go of the past and live my life to the fullest. To all kids out there in the same boat, talk to tour parents, talk to your counselors, always take care of yourself

[mikelisteral]

*- SIMPLY REMOVE THE FALSE BELIEF THAT YOU CANT WIN A FIGHT!*
*- THEN REMOVE THE FALSE BELIEF THAT YOU DIDNT WIN THE FIGHT!*
*- THEN REMOVE THE FALSE BELIEF THAT YOU WONT WIN THE NEXT FIGHT!*
*- THEN CONTINUE TO BELIEVE YOU WIN FIGHTS BEFORE, DURING, AND AFTER ANY FUTURE FIGHT!*

[drydessert]

A problem in confrontations is that as a default we assume that anger is naturally part of it. That is not totally unfounded because when you are angry, people might give in just because they feel attacked (which they are). That can give people an advantage who choose to be angry in confrontations (which is almost everybody). However, a confrontation is always about peoples interests seemingly colliding. Sometimes this can be resolved so everybody benefits. Sometimes one has to be fair and give in. Anger is not naturally linked to confrontations, negotiations. It's mostly an unquestioned belief. Removing anger from a conflict can also be a huge advantage as it can disarm someone who is usually getting their way using anger. If you are able to frame the situation so that you are not opponents but partners and it's not a conflict but a negotiations, not about how to get ones will no matter what but finding a solutions that is the overall best outcome, then very often you can actually get the upper hand.

[michaelglazejr.]

Thank you so much for the video. I've been working hard to be less confrontational and this was very encouraging. Have a blessed day everyone 😁🙏🏽

[theblanketfortcohort]

i hear you! Whilst youre right- words can be hurtful, words can create a snowball effect that leads to violence- theres a distinct lack of tolerance on all sides of conversations nowadays. As a trans person, for example, i dont want you to be afraid to ask questions out of a fear you might upset me- i invite questions, so long as you respect me as a person. Whilst i think woke culture is- well, its heart is in the right place- people are expecting others to regulate their emotions for them.
People need to be kinder to eachother, yes, but we also need to nurture ourselves.

(I came here because i hate conflict but thought this was pertinent hehe)

[SharkyyHamilton]

I’m a young woman who has a huge fear of confrontation due to a history of abuse

[stevanmilenkovic]

anyone have fear in heart before a conflict or geting into fight? like some stabbing in heart feeling? followed with fear ?

[simonsmith]

Such a useful video to help us understand how to grow in this area

[Adaline]

Its the only way to go forward 😊 confrontation is a must do ? Not in a car not via you tube or any other social media tell all 👌 ask god for the courage to help you face your fear you will be just fine 💯 the other party cant do anything about it its you that has to take the first steps its got to be physical face to face i promise you it will be okay dont fear 😊 its up to you now 😊

[JLPfrmthaWAU]

Do you have any videos about that warrior inside? Great video btw

[morellaaranda]

Very useful, i agree on almost everything, except in using violent terms as battle, war, it promotes violence culture...

[jimmycringe]

You talken about the Problem, But not about the Solution !??

[Alex-ybpq]

Was looking for insightful psych processes techniques not a politically-laden opinions

[hve.d]

Neither is there salvation in any other: for there is none other name under heaven given among men, whereby we must be saved. Acts 4:12 And they said, "Believe in the Lord Jesus, and you will be saved, you and your household. acts 16:31 I accepted Jesus Christ, crucified and resurrected from death, as my personal savior. Blessings to you and your family in the name of Jesus. I hope that God will show you the truth and give you salvation.

[pn]

Jesus, why does it take you so long to get to the point

[Dehruse]

You talk so much dude… I wish you could just get to the point or at-least shorten your sentence by not using smart/longer words