2 Truths About Marriage for Men | Richard Reeves | The Art of Charm

In today’s episode, we cover masculinity with Richard Reeves. Richard is a senior fellow at the Brookings Institution, where he directs the Future of the Middle Class Initiative and co-directs the Center on Children and Families, and is the author of several books including his latest, Of Boys and Men: Why the Modern Male Is Struggling, Why It Matters, and What to Do about It.

Western culture is experiencing a masculinity crisis, so what does mature masculinity look like in today’s society, what defines toxic masculinity vs mature masculinity, and how do we start instilling masculinity in our boys?

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[EricMHowardII-yhrn]

Dadhood matters period because daughters and sons need dad .

[anovosedlik]

Maybe you could focus on teaching men to stop being domestically abusive. I'd start there. As someone going through it for 6 years, it's brutal, and exposing my children to it is absolutely horrifying.

[rozaucja]

As a feminist, I am very grateful for this book.

[dorisOkec]

The institution of marriage, the role of the man as a husband and father is Divine and should be acknowledged and respected by the man first. The absence of this knowledge can lead to self-sabotage in manifold ways and the eventual breakdown of same institution.

[iamgoddessoflove]

How much each of you give and how little each of you take for granted, will determine the success of a relationship.
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[alenaadamkova]

Feminine and masculine complement each other.
They inspire each other to notice different things, or to love different things to create balance.
Masculine lifts up the feminine, to confidence and focus believing in herself, or sometimes
she notices her own cofidence as the man inspires her confidfence by bringing his conmfidence and focus.

Its nota bpout contzrol or man controlling the woman,
but man inspires her to think differently in situations, and focus on some technical things.
He lifts her up, ...she sometimes may forget her own confidence, because of her vulnerable feminine role.
Feminine inspires the masculine to see beauty of small eastetic things.
If both would think and feel the same, it would be one sided and not balance in society,
They inspire each other. Maybe therefore estrogen and testosterone have different role, in mental state of people.

[nickyr]

The answers to his questions are out there and a lot of it lies not only in the socialization but the biology of men. I have watched several videos on this guy and he NEVER uses the term, ‘patriarchy’. This leads me to believe that he isn’t interested in dismantling the system that was created on purpose to create a surplus of of wealth for the top 5%. He would just like for men to be more comfortable within the system.

[mindovomatter]

4:47 that not why dads are taking on extra stuff. Mom has the OPTION to have a shortcoming wherever she chooses with no penalty. If a father falls behind he has court, jail, wage garnishment, homelessness, ruined credit which makes it impossible to see his child.

Once we acknowledge that fathers are being used as slave labor to fill state and county budgets under this child support scheme we will be on more honest conversation.

One parent is parenting with a gun to their head and that is no way a healthy way for any child to experience life.

[nickyr]

You guys are essentially asking for the government to make you essential in communities and that is the work of individual men. Men have to learn how to create and nurture bounds outside of structures. This is the spiritual work of men.

[The_CGA]

I have no idea what kind of channel—conservative echo chamber or positivity circle—this is. But … I gotta say I have fallen, free falling—as one of these men.

[marriagecausesdivorce]

Marriage is all downside risk for husbands. In the event of a divorce, it is very likely they are going to lose their money, house and kids. Marriage is an unnecessary 50 year gamble for men where they can be financially and emotionally ruined at the end of it. I got divorced in the UK and lost 70% of my money and assets (including my house). Marriage is easily the biggest regret of my life.