THEY LEFT? This Reaction Makes Them Fight For You!

They may not come back if the energy remains the same. However, if the energy changes, if the energy comes back to self, you'll notice that the energy becomes much more magnetic and literally people respond differently.

So in this video, I'm gonna show you that if someone left you, or if you're feeling abandoned, if you're feeling like there's something missing, or you want someone to be behaving differently, I'm gonna show you how to get back to your core, how to stop focusing on them, and how this will completely transform your energy from the inside out, so that if it's meant to be, they can actually come back.

So first off with this, if someone left, the important thing to realize with this is that it's not your fault. Now, maybe you look at that and you hear that, and it's like, "Well, Aaron, you don't know my situation. I did this. This is something that I brought on myself."

Or it's something that maybe is on the other side of the spectrum, where it's like, "Why does this always happen to me? Why do people show up for a period of time and then leave?" And the thing to realize about the energy dynamic where someone may leave and about this in general, is this really gets down to the core identity.

This cuts down to the core of how we view ourselves, because many of us may feel like it is familiar or comfortable for people to show up in our lives and then leave. And normally this stems from childhood energy as well, where in childhood, we had someone that was emotionally available or was there, and then left, physically, maybe the parents divorced, maybe they emotionally left.

And when that happened, we started to internalize a sense of reality that says, this is the way reality works. People come into my life and they leave. And sometimes they don't even give a reason, which could for sure happen with parents too. Somebody comes in or a parent leaves, and it's like, why?

Why did a parent physically leave or emotionally check out? Is it because I'm not good enough? Is it because I did something wrong? Is it because of something with myself? And that's because we internalize everything as we're growing up. So if there's one thing that will change your life more than anything else with this video, it's understanding to pull your energy back. Because what happens when someone leaves,

is a lot of times out of a control mentality, what we do is we start projecting energy at them.
We start thinking about them. And energetically, they feel this. And for some reason, when
we are projecting energy at someone and we are feeling in a non-coherent state and we're feeling kind of needy or we want someone to react differently, whatever we're feeling when
we're thinking of that person is being projected at that person, they are feeling it,
and it is causing them to back up or to be repelled.

Remember, people feel what you feel. And if you're feeling that about them, projecting that energy at them, because you're thinking of them, they are feeling it and it is pushing them away even more. So to really mitigate this energy, the key is pulling the energy back, pulling the energy back.

So many times I've noticed even in my own life that when I'm trying to fix someone else, which implies they're broken by the way, when I'm wanting someone to respond to me, when I'm wanting someone else's validation, I'm putting out this needy energy, and it is not reflected back in a good way.

They say that the more you try, this is an Allen Watts quote from something called the backwards law, the more you try to get other people to like you, the less they will like you. The more that you disrupt your energy field and the more you come off weird and needy and the more they feel that, and the less they like you.

But the less you are attached to whether they like you, the more they will like you. It's this weird thing. The more you try to control your life, the more out of control you will feel. The more you trust and the more you allow things to happen, the more that then you will feel in control of your life.

This is interesting, but both of these apply to someone leaving, feeling abandoned, feeling this energy because the thing is, is what there is an attachment to is there is an attachment to outcome.

There's an attachment to how things happen. And that attachment to the outcome, creates the resistance. But letting go of what happens with the outcome, creates a sense of freedom, a sense of allowing, a sense of letting in.

So when we talk about this dynamic as well, it's important not to think of it only in the form of manipulation. Because a lot of times when people would click on a video that says what this video says, they would say, "Okay, Aaron, what is the one thing I do to
get this person's reaction? To make them fight for me?"

[karend]

You explain in 15 minutes what a counsellor cannot achieve with hours of expensive therapy. You make it simple to understand and implement. Thank you young man, you deserve to be successful. Blessings, Karen, UK 🌸

[mallorywho]

“Imagine feeing worthy, whole and complete on the inside.” That hit me right in the solar plexus.

[judybw]

😢 if you love someone, set them free. If they come back they are yours, if they don’t they never were.

[rachelsobie_]

I laugh because you pretty much described my situation. I’m the anxious one who’s been obsessed and head over heels for someone who is the avoidant. I’ve been wanting so badly to be with this person but they’ve been hot and cold. One moment saying they’re always thinking about me then the next they say they’re not ready for a committed relationship. This makes perfect sense! Thank you!!!

[malcolmnicoll]

“It’s not your fault, son.”
- Good Will Hunting

[westcoastorbust]

Whenever I wanted someone back, there was nothing I could ever do to attract them back. It’s when I don’t want them that I can’t get them to go away.

[dalice]

My dad left our family when I was 6 and never came back. My biggest fear in relationships are that people are going to leave me sooner or later…. Thank you so much for this video Aaron. 🙏🏻

[celestenova]

My ex left because of my fear and anxiety. My vibrations were low, I was down on my luck in life overall. I really need to get back to me and into my own frame 🙏🏻

[iamgoddessoflove]

Take time to heal from a breakup! Rushing into a relationship will only lead to more pain and heartache because you may not be ready yet. Healing is a process! Processing those emotions, doing your shadow work and falling in love with yourself again, will take you one step closer to attracting a healthy relationship that you deserve.
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[marcellejane]

When someone really cares about getting to know you the reality is its not going to be hard they arnt going to turn their back on you and wont let you slip away. If they do it's for the best they had nothing genuine to offer. I'm old school, I like a man to step up and ask me out it shows me his brave and willing to fight for a connection.

[nickf]

If someone left you after they know how you feel and where you stand...and they left anyway....you don't want that back, let them go.

[GamingCanBeFun]

This doesn't mean u can't manifest someone who left u back... it just means u need to figure out a way to stop thinking, worrying n being needy over them throughout the day. U can still manifest ur thoughts of them every single day 1 or even 2 times a day. By the way, I have the Anxious Attachment I'm working to heal

[AK-usrw]

It’s true our energy makes a difference. So many people have had emotionally unavailable early childhood attachments. So we put our energy out there like “love me, look at me, validate me, see I’m good enough, pick me” unconsciously of course. And that energy is lacking centered wholenesses and others unconsciously feel that and are repelled

[vannamich]

You are AWESOME!! I recalled my power and my energy back to me and focusing on me for myself and my significant other came back last night. I saw your videos and applied them not to manipulate but for my own good and he came back without I expecting it. This really works and I’m learning to take care of my energy. By the way my partner is really proud, but energy is more powerful.

[AK-usrw]

The way to get anyone back is to get back to yourself. But if they “come back” do you really want someone that pulled away? No because it reveals to you what you actually want to receive…. And it’s not someone unclear or not whole with THEMself

[shadyqaddoura]

If they asked me to rate this video, I'd give it the top spot on YouTube. I'm amazed at how you achieved and delivered such clear ideas in 15 minutes. Thank you so much. You are the best.

[russgrimes]

Forgot disorganized attachment. It’s both avoidant and anxious. For me it’s mostly avoidant with 99% of people but specific people somehow break through and it gives me an anxious attachment to them. I was completely blind to it for a really long time but now I am more aware and can manage it when I am feeling it. Avoidant is harder to see but anxious is harder to manage.

You are one of my favorite channels and we have similar stories. It’s helped me see some blind spots within myself. Thank you, Aaron.

[melaniesmith]

You’ve hit the nail on the head, I poured my energy into writing my book, my self love and healed my own trauma. You’re great

[antoniobortoni]

Resign, let it go, be free from believing fake stuff, and suffer because of that, you suffer because you believe something you are not, but what you really are is beautiful and complete, easy, free, limitless...
So believe there are other people that love you just because you and that life could be easy and good and it will be like that.
But if you believe you need to win the other person and is a job or hard it will be like that.
Freedom comes by being humble, simple, easy, and authentic.

[abdul.arif]

0:45 if they leave just know that it isn’t your fault. Even if you did things to mess up, that’s OK you learn from them and next time you can do better. But they didn’t communicate and try to make it work so that’s not on you. You are more than good enough. You need to pull your energy back. When we feel someone leaving what we tend to do is projected energy at them and start focussing on them and they feel this and start getting repelled.

4:00 the more you try to make them like you, the more weird, needy you will be and repel them. But the less attached you are to whether they like you or not the more you can be yourself and they will like you

4:50 there is an attachment to outcome. But letting go of what happens with the outcome create a sense of freedom and allowing. U don’t need them to fight for u. Secure attachment give and receive love easily. Avoidant attachment style find more safety in leaning back. Anxious attachment lean in and try to fix lean in for their validation and affection. You need someone and will be in your head about it, want them to text you back. Secure attachment as you stand firm and don’t need their validation or affection

7:50 a trait of anxious attachment style is leaning in and trying to fix things. For me, I tried to fix things because I felt honorbound too and I also felt I would learn a lot by trying different things in order to fix the relationship. But it was just hell on earth and I know for next time to just leave it and let it go throughout the relationship. I was pretty non-needy as I enjoyed our time apart because I could do my own things. I didn’t really care whether or not they text me fast, although it was pleasant when they did, but I didn’t really like to text too often because I didn’t want to prioritize them too much in my life, and that kept me more centred and gave me more energy to keep improving my own life. But now I will move back into a secure attachment style and love freely and allow others to come and leave from my life and not fight for them if they aren’t wanting to fight for me. 9:25 The anxious and avoidant attachment styles aren’t you. Remove your identity from them. They’re just patterns that you can change. I was lightly dabbling in some anxious attachment behaviors, but now I am letting go again. And before I was dabbling in a lot of avoidant attachment behaviours as well, so we are always changing and learning to love better.

9:45 the avoidant realizes that no one is going to meet their needs so they meet their own needs

10:15 it’s not your fault you are worthy for just being you. Maybe it’s just not the right relationship and you guys are not meant to be together

11:10 the anxious attachment style is scared of rejection. Do not leave me because if you leave me, then that means I’m not good enough. It’s if ur fault or their fault. Let them go, and it increases the chance of them coming back. Focus on your own projects and having fun with your friends. And because they pull their energy back into themselves instead of focussing on trying to get their ex back, they focussed on their life. They went from that anxious, neediness to that secure I fill my own cup. I have my own ecosystem of friends and I feel good.

11:45 he seen this work so many times! The way to get anyone back is to let them go. Most likely they are feeling like they are getting smothered, and that you want too much from them. And they are feeling pressured and so they’re back up. And when you let them go and focus on your own life, he gives them space and allows them to come back. He’s seen so many times that friends that can’t get over their exes start finally, letting them go and going out with their friends, focussing on a passion project. And then their ex comes back into their lives. You let go of that needy, anxious attachment, and become secure that you have your own ecosystems of friends and are happy independently in your own life. You change your state you change how you feel about yourself in your life. You are worthy. And the way to change how you feel it to let go of your ex. And know, that it’s not your fault. Accept it, let it go and allow yourself to be in your reality and be in your own frame and realize that it’s not your fault.

15:00 imagine you not pushing away love and neither are you needing it, you are firm in your own sense of self-worth and self-love. Feel worthy and complete inside and having that magnetic energy. Go out with friends and have fun and you feel the energy move inside u like crazy and you become more magnetic.