Iyanla is right….reframing it from a different perspective that makes us ladies take responsibility for our choices…..rather than depend on others for our happiness.
nicolebond
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 “I couldn’t be myself when i was with him!” mind blown ❤
awakend
"I couldn't be who I am with him". Not only do I love this, it hits the nail on the head. Now I'm going to heal from the situation I was in. Thanks so much!
curvy
Damn this was timely... he worked his way back into my life after 15yrs apart. We spent about 6months together, we supported each other through some ish. He was the one for the past 6 months. He hasnt called or whatsapped for almost a week tomorrow. He was the one for right now, i couldn't be who i am with him.
thehoneyeffect
WORD-UP! So true, “I couldn’t be who I am with him.” That’s why I remained divorced over 30 years. 🙌🏾
phabulouss
I fully agree with this. I'm married and still don't subscribe to this "the one" philosophy. This is less about serial dating or polyamory and more about living moment to moment and not putting so much pressure on things. Whether it's a season or a lifetime, I show up fully every moment and love wholly.
But I don't worry about whether my spouse is "the one forever". I stitch together forever through a series of precious "right nows".
benirpierre
'I couldn't be who I am meant to be and who God has called me to be with him" AMEN! Feeling it!
heartrenewed-byfaith
Your feelings won't get hurt or hurt as much when thinking like this. Daªmň this thinking would've saved me some heartache😥
daniellejudithjj
WHERE WAS THIS IN MY 20’s!!!! Never too late to learn.
shaylalauren
I love it! "The one...for now".
tnt
The "I couldnt be who I am" applies to many things even friendships. I realize if I cant be 100% of myself with someone IM OUT!!
CREATIONS
She’s absolutely right because I remember back in the day in the 70s you went on dates with different people. No one got jealous because for one you didn’t jump in the bed with them so you didn’t have any false commitment or embarrassment or obligation.
sewl
I Love this and I'm still hoping for the day when I get my "MamaIyanla" Hug ❤ Those Hugs look so full of Love, Understanding and Patience 😁
Carri.
I literally came on YT to watch an episode of Fix My Life lol. She always gives the best advice! Mama Iyanla ❤️
onicastapleton
This is how ive been dating and now its all about enjoying life. Not about a relationship or sex or getting anything from a man. Im truly enjoying life.
shawnlove
You know that Oh is when you realise it 😮
ManarAbchiche-ofeq
🙋🏽I LOVE the idea of play dates! Heck, that’s about all I have the energy and focus for right now anyway!🤷🏽♂️
sonjalivingston
True...our wants and needs change over time anyway, so the person we had in the past, the person we have now would be different from the person we may want in our future 😉🙏🏾
julierobinson
Most women aren’t being who they truly are either.
They’re being a character that they believe their supposed to be.
