Pathological Jealousy

In this video Darren Magee discusses pathological jealousy, sometimes known as morbid jealousy.
Exploring the difference between the difference between envy and jealousy, the difference between pathological jealousy and delusional jealousy. The behaviours associated with it and how it makes for an unhealthy relationship - the affect it has on partners.

Usually a sign of another disorder such as Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), Narcissistic Personality Disorder or Borderline Personality Disorder.

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[DarrenFMagee]

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[texannadeb]

My father was a military officer. My mother was an exceptional beauty. My father was physically, mentally and psychologically abusive toward all of us but my mother was his primary target. One night they had a big event to go to at the Officer’s Club. The General who was in command would ask an officer’s wife to dance. It was an honor to be chosen. This night the General danced with my mother, one dance, in full view of my father and everyone at the event. It was not her choice to dance with the General, she certainly could not say no. Nothing untoward took place. Most men would be beaming with pride that their wife was chosen, instead my father insisted they leave immediately after the dance ended, took my mother home and beat the hell out of her. This was not an uncommon thing in our household. This was in the 50’s, there were 8 of us children, my mother was truly stuck with no way out. I always felt that my mother’s beauty and warm, funny personality drew my father to her and yet he resented her for it. He was supposed to always be the center of attention and just her presence could take the spotlight off of him.

[nealkelly]

I can't believe how perfectly he describes the relationship I just broke free from. The accusations happened so often. Manipulation, gas lighting and general bullying.

[toniv]

Wow. After 11 years of a nightmare marriage including hidden cameras, tracking devices, lie detector tests I'm glad there is a name to this. I've been free for a year and don't think I'll ever fully recover from this. To anyone who sees this and is going through the same thing- get out, they will never change!

[milarosenrot]

I have recently been diagnosed with Borderline personality disorder after I started doing therapy and taking medicine because of Depression and suicidal thoughts. I am in a distant relationship(bc of covid). I always thought my behaviour was because of the distance.
It is a very scary situation knowing that this is a symptom of my disorder and I have to treat it. I've been hurt and I know I am hurting my boyfriend, but luckily he is being very patient and he is the one helping me out instead of giving up on me.
My therapist is wonderful and I've been improving little by little so If you have a partner with the symptoms please encourage them to look for treatment. But don't accuse them of being sick. Be kind and encourage them to find out more about themselves through therapy.
The more I learn about my disorder the more conscious I get about the symptoms and how to deal with them. I love your channel and I am going to watch all your videos to help me in this journey, thank you so much!

[casey]

Wow. I have been struggling so much after leaving a relationship just like this. I have never heard this dynamic described so well. Thank you for validating me. It was a total nightmare, and half the time I thought I deserved the way I was being treated. I'm still learning how to not feel guilty. What a horrible human being she was. Thank you for sharing this

[MinutePsychology]

Othello syndrome is a fascinating phenomenon. I’ve witnessed a situation when a patient accused their spouse of infidelity based only on the fact that she mispronounced someone’s name! Amazing!

[dukiemac]

Thank you for your video. My wife has pathological jealousy. It seems the narcissistic type from what you have described, I’m so sad as I really do love her but it is getting worse every year. I have no social media and my friend circle is a lot smaller as my wife treats my friends rudely. I don’t share my feelings or disappointments in life online and I’m just putting this up here because I have been a victim of this for 15 years. She has never found any evidence on me but has treated me with the same level of contempt a person caught having an extra marital affair might expect. I just gave her an ultimatum to get therapy or I’ll have to leave. It pains me but will kill me if I stay.

[Areyoukiddingme]

Thank you. You described my ex bf to a T!! Pathological jealousy was definitely his issue. His ex wife had supposedly cheated although he had no proof. I think she was playing mind games with him at least according to some of his family members. I was being constantly accused of cheating when I was doing nothing wrong! He would constantly be texting, calling throughout the day. Face timing me in the middle of the night to see if there was somebody else in bed with me. If he didn't get an answer he would continue to call incessantly all night long. He was pressing me to sell my home and buy something with him. Thank God I always hesitated and would tell him. I wasn't ready. I escaped a mine field and a living nightmare!

[Chas-ww]

Extremely relatable, especially the comment about the victim being in therapy, as that's been my experience with a wife who suffers from pathological jealousy. I've been to therapists: (1) to convince myself that I'm not the one suffering from delusions (i.e., that maybe I have been unfaithful and have caused the jealousy) and (2) to deal with the frustration of watching someone I love deeply go through such anguish. I truly appreciate you posting this video, and to those of you watching and wondering, yes, this really happens to women, too.

[jilross]

This is a very profound and good description of how that looks like. Often times partners like that wont let their victims sleep and keep on discussing. My very first boyfriend did that to me. He almost drove me insane

[antoniopozo]

All this is true. I should know. Every single word this man is saying is so, except one thing. We do not attempt to find evidence our partner is cheating just so we can tell they are lying. We attempt to find evidence so we can end our torture of not knowing. The compulsions are meant to decrease the anxiety. Every time we find no evidence, we decrease the anxiety. But unfortunately, a lack of evidence one day does not translate into a lack of evidence the next day. We just did not find it that day but the evidence is just around the corner. Folks, I can tell you, if I did not have this type of jealousy, hell would not exist for me.

[drfoye]

I would agree this is often a symptom of some other mental health problem taking place. That being said, I also agree it doesn't necessarily make it any easier for someone who has to put up with the constant accusations

[Craigdna]

I have watched a lot of different videos on narcissism and behavior of people in an attempt to understand my own dealings wiith different people. IIt helps me to understand as opposed to reacting emotionally. There are a lot of videos on these topics from a variety of people, some of them life coaches, psychologists/psychiatrists, etc. But your videos retain so much more depth and I really appreciate it. You should have over a million subscribers and some of these others, I cannot understand how they get their numbers. Your tops Darren and thank you for all of the knowlwedge and depth of understanding of narcissism that I have learned from your presentations. I will continue to share them with other people.

[PiaLoveBSNRNCCBTP]

WOW....I HAVE FOUND MYSELF ENCOUNTERING INTERACTIONS THAT FEEL SO FULL OF ENVY AND JEALOUSY, THAT IT MAKES ME UNCOMFORTABLE TO DISCUSS IT. I thought it may be a symptom of some psych I find this explanation comforting! Control=Jealousy (your worst nightmare).

[TrendSunrise]

I've been suffering with this type of jealousy for 15 years, I am on my 40's and I always thought I would get better with time and knowledge. I went to therapy for 2 years which didnt help, I watched hundreds of self help videos and read hundreds of articles about it in order to try and change, I've tried really hard in my mind and every time something triggered it. I've ruined relationships and my recent one seems to be taking the same turn. I feel so anxious at the time, I have nervous breakdown fits and feel I will have a heart attack at any moment. I cannot lead a normal life unless I am in control, unless I know everything that is going on and I get as much honesty and clarity as I give. I feel I am going crazy and we haven't even been in major triggering places like a busy beach in Spain or South America together, a nightclub or anywhere filled with underdressed hot women, that would be living hell but I should not feel this way I know, I just can't help it, I tried, God knows I tried.

[vladm.]

The worst feeling is when you realize that you can't change them... Tried it for 2 years

[willywokeup]

This happened to me as my covert narc wife would never validate my feelings and instead of being convinced im not good enough, i was convinced she was cheating, i thought that i was doing everything i could to make the relationship pleasing, it was the only conclusion i could come to, i didnt know about narcissism but i knew i was a model husband, cooking cleaning mowing providing financially . I never did follow her or stop her from meeting people, but i did try to look at her phone, she never did cheat, but she wanted me to think she had someone, which is pretty cruel

[kellyschmehl]

To the victims of someone with this soul crushing disorder How can this person actually love you if they don’t even really see who you are? After 10 years of putting up with this insanity I came to this realization. He never loved me. His jealousy never let him actually see me🥺

[sab]

I wish I saw this video sooner. This was my life to a "T" the last couple years of my marriage. He was set to prove "his truth" at all costs, regardless of how it made me feel. Hacking accounts, raging, punching, threatening, boundary violations left and right, lying, telling mutual friends his "truth", and justifying it all with mental gymnastics that would be impressive if it wasn't such a nightmare to live through. I was devastated and destroyed. I wish I had left years before. I am finally out and the peace of not walking on mines is bliss.