Wedding night tips for the celibate brides

I hope that after watching this video, you are left feeling like you have just had some quality girl talk with your sister/best friend! Let me know what you thought of this video and what you think the next wife talk should be about. God bless!

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[MadisonJanett]

You speak in a way that makes it feel like we are at a sleepover 😂 love it

[bubblesbubbly]

Biggest things learned from my wedding night are - breathe, communicate, and it's okay to ask, "Can we switch gears?" or to slow down the motions, stop for now and pick that back up tomorrow, etc. Especially if you've been anxious or tense or finding things painful and uncomfortable. Any media you've seen with romance.... It's not the standard to set for that moment.

In your minds, you've both already built this up and probably created some expectations of what it'll be like. Not to burst your bubble, but there's a decent chance your night won't be exactly what you had in mind - do what you can to accept that and just be okay with it. Regardless, it's a special time that marks a new phase in your lives and relationship!

[bhaadmejaa]

I am a Muslim girl waiting for my marriage in 2 days and i liked this video before i could watch it fully because you're so warm and welcoming❤

[katrinacutbill]

I love your heart in sharing this video. I’ve been married a long time now but one thing I would say is that foreplay is soo important to help a woman prepare bodily for sex. Don’t just jump into the intercourse part…touch each other and get aroused first, kiss etc . This is so important for women to have a more comfortable and satisfying sexual experience IMO and if it’s his first time…be prepared that it might be quick!!

[Women_of_God]

Thanks so much for your video! I’m virgin and never been in a relationship before. Just praying to God, He will bless me with a true man of God!

[Xx.bygracethrufaith]

This was a great video! A huge help for me when I was engaged is that my now-husband said "it's okay if we wait a few days to have sex if that is most comfortable to you." I felt so amazed and comforted by that because I had a lot of anxiety about it and I was worried that bringing sex into our relationship would cause my man to forget about my needs. He eased so much anxiety by saying that and we continued to talk about how we felt about starting to have sex, what we were looking forward to and worried about. One thing I would say for confidence, picking out some lingerie really made me feel so good! I tried it on beforehand and it honestly helped me to look forward to having my spouse in a new, special way. Also if you are open to having it on your wedding night, make sure your hair and makeup isn't too hard to get off :)

[jacintasalt]

We didn’t have sex on our wedding night. Too tired. Don’t do it just because it’s expected. There’s always the next day and more relaxed by then.

[stefaniemedina]

Best advice I received about the wedding night: 
1 you do not have to have sex. If you are both exhausted and stressed from the have sex. 
2 if it hurts STOP. It should not be horribly painful. If it is the woman needs more foreplay, more clitoral stimulation, more lube. Do not push through pain because you want to make your husband happy. It breaks my heart to think of how many women had horrible first time sex and it affected their sex life and marriage for decades. No woman will want to have sex if all she knows about sex is that it is horrible and painful:(
3 as a couple meet with an older couple you trust to talk about the wedding night and sex. So many men get their sex ed from porn. Porn is not sex. Women do not want to be treated like they are in a porno. Having sex with your new bride like they do in a porn movie will traumatize your new wife. Get real knowledge on the sexual response cycle and how to make a woman orgasm. Your sex life and marriage will be so much better if you are pleasing your wife and making sure she almost always has an orgasm.

[LuciaMorenoGarcia-vsei]

Hi, I just randomly encountered this video. I'm not christian and I didn't wait till marriage but I've found your video quite wise and sweet. I think this type of advice can be really useful for any girl who becomes intimate for the first time :)))

[tayamoree]

I am not a christian but this did help a lot since I am thinking of waiting till marriage!! Thank uuu!

[idontknowwhatnametoput]

I love how this isn’t putting men down. Whenever I see similar videos, they always have something negative to say about men.

[niriaantonio]

Thank so much for this video. It was such a cute talk 🥺❤️. I am single and have not met my husband yet and this was helpful and encouraging actually. Thank u 🙏🏾 God bless you.

[doodlemom]

this has very quickly become my fave yt channel. you and josh are honest, helpful and funny. always good content

[gabyszabo]

No idea why this came up in my suggestions (I’m an old married lady), but I wanted to hear what advice you had. All great, sound, practical advice! I will add: buy a commercial intimate lubricant: gentle, so won’t irritate, and can prevent discomfort of unpleasant friction. Don’t use something random from around the house (e.g. Vaseline) as this can irritate and then increase discomfort or risk of UTI.

[sharayahsunshine]

I was a virgin when I was married years ago and I have to say I felt a ton of pressure and expectations and I made the mistake of not communicating because I didn't know how to. The thing is, sex is the glue that binds relationships together and yet it can also become what feels like a burden. I think because of the sexualization of our culture I felt the pressures of needing to have a lot of sex and be sexy and please my husband. Unfortunately, this did not prevent him from having a porn addiction which I have had to make my peace with. The reality is, sexuality is a very nuanced and a difficult part of our humanity. A lot of shame and guilt is also woven into our psyches around it. My best advice is that sexuality is a natural, normal, healthy desire. Being attracted to other people happens. Being married doesn't mean that other people suddenly disappear but we can also choose how we respond to ourselves (hopefully with a ton of love). Sexuality also opens the door to questions about our bodies, our worth, our beauty and desireability. The force of orgasm can bring up very powerful emotions including crying. This is normal. Normalizing sexuality includes seeing that its not some romantic end all be all, but a continued open conversation with our hearts, our bodies and our needs within the safe container of marriage and/or partnership.

[Thisiscarissarissa]

Thank you so much for sharing & being so candid about everything. My fiancé & I have been saving ourselves for over 3 years! 4 years by the time we get married this August. There are not many videos like this out there so I really appreciate you taking the time to talk about this. 🩷 God bless!!

[amyevans]

We were both virgins the night we got married. And we just had a good time with each other, because I think it's more important just getting comfortable and feel familiar with each other instead of focusing on the act. Definite communication is a big factor. Agree with what you said about laughter we did a lot of that . We were married 5 days before as if you were in use the word consummated, But I wouldn't change a thing. Everything was perfect.

[militaryhomes]

If you have ever seen a movie and they talk about sex... Don't expect it to be like the movies 😅😂
.... Also it's worth waiting. You'll be happier if you wait.

[LB-rwhz]

This is such an uplifting and needed video! :D Thank you for making and sharing this video - these types of conversations can be awkward so I am grateful for this!

[hannahgrace]

This will be such an important video for all the ladies! Thankyou 😊❤