STOP MOTHERING YOUR MAN...it's destroying your relationship!!

Let’s chat about feminine energy in relationships and how to stop mothering your man! Unfortunately, this is a habit that so many women fall into, but it completely destroys your relationships (not to mention your attraction to him lol).

I hope this video is helpful!! ❤️

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WHAT I’M WEARING:

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CHAPTERS:
0:00 How to Stop Mothering Your Man
1:02 What does “mothering” our partner usually mean?
1:51 Why this destroys relationships
3:24 The difference between nurturing vs mothering
4:39 Where does mothering behavior come from?
7:59 How to stop mothering him, but important note first
8:36 Tip #1
9:10 Tip #2
10:33 Tip #3
16:12 Tip #4
18:42 Tip #5
19:40 Tip #6
20:48 Tip #7
21:31 Tip #8
22:44 Tip #9
23:38 Recap

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[jamesargro]

You may have saved my relationship with this. My Girlfriend keeps saying that she "doesn't want to mother me". I wasn't sure what she meant. This video just opened my eyes. When I asked what was wrong in our relationship, she gave me a "to-do" list. I didn't understand how that was considered "relationship". Now I get it. She needs to know that I am up to the task, and that knowledge is part of her perspective on the relationship. It affects everything! Jillz, you are on it girl! I'm awake, I get it. And as a thank you I am totally subscribing to your channel! Thank you so much. She is way too amazing of a person to ever lose, I wish you could meet her.

[Anavaeebaee]

Ladies, you can NOT change a damaged man! My ex has Mommy issues and he was psychologically wanting me to replace her so I could take care of him and him do nothing in return. Worst mistake of my life and I will never do that again! ✊🏻 thank you for this Jillz ❤❤

[Avoid_Low_Frequency]

As a 65 yr old woman that spent her entire adult life “mothering” a man that wanted a woman, not a nagging mother. I’m learning and growing by practicing being a better loving partner. I’m not perfect but I’m so much better.

[malaakaasi]

1. Take some time to observe how you’re mothering your man
2. Lean back; focus more on you and less on him
3. Let him do him; let him make mistakes; let him manage his life
4. Let him be his own person; let him do things his own way; he doesn’t have to conform to your way.
5. Be appreciative to what he does do in a romantic way.
6. Stop giving him unsolicited advice or try to solve his problems; give him support instead.
7. Stop saying that he’s your child or like a child.
8. Communicate and agree on each’s responsibilities
9. Put your nurturing energy on other outlets.

[e-ptbd]

I wish there was more male equivalent youtubers that, like Jillz, can help teach men how to treat their feminine woman and be more in touch with their masculinity, further helping maintain healthy and full filling relationships.

[Sky-Child]

I said this to my husband recently, I have noticed from my own observations that the INSTANT I ask him to do something more than once, in his mind I become a nag. So I stopped doing it. If there is a task I would like him to do, I ask once from a place of sincerity, certainty and love. He always does it (provides) and I thank him equally sincerely and lovingly (recieves)
This stuff is gold ladies, changes your entire relationship dynamic

[helilovee]

Actually, many of these tips work with parenting as well! I am a mother of 3 and if I take a role of a guide rather than controller, it works wonders🙌🏼. With children too you have to lean back at times to show them they are capable, and that way they wont become adult children of the next generation. Thanks for your video Jillz! 🌸

[NamiBurger]

I made this mistake. I moved in with my ex, i found myself cleaning up after him after he ate and left dishes in the room. Felt harmless at first. Then it became me cleaning the entire room, every day. And the messes he left inside the bathroom and inside the fridge. Then i started washing his clothes all the time, buying him meds, going to the bank for him... until i realized, wait a minute, he hasn't actually taken me out on a date SINCE we moved in (without my own influence or intervention). And then it occured to me i had to remind him to pay rent 3x in a row, to renew his car registration because it was almost 2 yrs late, and i realized he spent too long talking to his "mom" on the phone every night instead of spending time with me.

I spent almost an entire year caring for a BOY in a mans body. Dont do what i did... it took me a while to finally love and respect myself to walk away. I told myself i will never suffer that kind of embarrassment and heartache again just because i wanted to be "helpful" or "care so much" about a guy. I lived a life of bs and in denial when what i shouldve done was realized a man should be doing all of that by himself AND put effort and love into me. To put it frankly, I couldnt help an apparent loser who offered me nothing but excuses (and chores), and i shouldnt have to.

Im happy to say after just a month of breaking up and moving away from my ex, i met a new man who is the complete opposite. He pours into me every day and i feel so relaxed and at ease with him. I cried the day i realized i made it out of hell to finally find a man who is right for me. Maybe i was lucky or sometimes it is that easy, you just have to have the courage to leave.

[sustylery]

On tip #6; When my partner tells me about something stressful at work for example, I listen and ask "Can I give you my advice, or do you just need to vent?". It never hurts to ask to understand what your partner needs in this moment

[nmusica]

This is how I approach teaching too. I often see teachers get so bent out of shape about kids using their phones in class, not caring about their grades, talking with friends when they should be doing a project, not starting a task immediately. I ALWAYS shrug it off. Like if you choose to not do what you’re supposed to do, the consequences are yours. 🤷🏾‍♀️ I believe my job as a teacher is to support my students and care for them while also providing learning opportunities for them. What they do with those learning opportunities is up to them.

When I’ve talked about this, some people say “Well how are they going to learn??” They regulate! They figure out I’m not going to spoon feed them, fail a few times, and then eventually they find motivation. I usually only have one or two kids per class that never really get on the train, and it’s usually because something else is going on at home or with their mental health. In which case, I care more about their healing than making sure they learn, so I largely leave those kids alone or help them with outside intervention. Hopefully the way I approach teaching will help me in any future relationship haha

[genzillennial]

I recently read “The Surrendered Wife” and it basically breaks down this concept in a very helpful way.

[zoey]

Y’all I’m a teen but I love watching these types of videos for when I’m older

[fulltimervegan]

I think my relationship is beyond saving based on this video and thinking of how my boyfriend would react to me letting him miss a flight or something. This video helped me understand how much I’m NOT mothering my boyfriend and how much he’s using weaponized incompetence against me. 😢

[diamondkoiii]

This advice works! I took the tip of just being “lazy” and allowing my man to figure it out. When he relies on me for help with simple tasks. I simply said “not sure”. He took about a hour to get it done but he felt very accomplished and I loved that! I am subscribed:)

[angelica]

I think the biggest reason why some people try to mother their partners is that they’ve learnt that their partners fuck ups actually affect them. Like when they have a tendency to ask for help from us for their own “forgetfulness”. When we know we could very well save ourselves some troubles, we’d rather mother them or nag them than having to deal with their future fuck ups or reject their request. Because it might make us feel bad or selfish to not provide help to our loved ones.

[MuseSunflower]

Letting them make their own mistakes is so important.

My favorite phrase towards my man in my head is “I trust he’ll figure it out”

He needed someone to watch his ferrets on vacation. I didn’t step in to help or offer a solution. Today he said he found a pet baby sitter and I was so relieved. I absolutely did not want that responsibility and I’m glad he didn’t ask me lol

[tiffanym]

As a woman who is about to get married in a couple months, this video is the exact reminder / slap in the face that I needed. The example about letting him get hit by a car literally made me laugh out loud. Thanks for all you do, girl!!

[ashleyoverholt]

Could you please explain, in another video, how to nurture your man, in a romantic relationship.

[lindsaypeek]

My husband is a very dependable masculine man. He is turned off when I try to take care of him or remind him of things too much. He likes me more when I’m focus more on myself.

[bloochoob]

Friend of mine, as soon as she had a baby, her husband changed and said ‘now you’re a mother, I see you differently, it’s not sexy’. Fast forward a few year, after divorce, he got married again and did exactly the same thing to the next wife. As soon as she got pregnant and had the baby, he said same stuff. It’s him, obviously. He’s got that Madonna/Wh*re complex thing. Really weird. He’s onto the third wife now, she’s pregnant. She doesn’t know what’s coming, and thinks the two former wives are jealous. 🤷🏻‍♀️