The Key to Being a Successful Seducer I Robert Greene

Listening, actually listening to the other person, is an underrated skill in seduction.

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[Graciela-pbef]

You're supposed to make them feel important and valued, because in the regular world they're just like anybody else. You give them importance and make them feel like no one else does.

[janetpattison]

So true. When anyone really listens, it’s shocking! It is like tennis, where the goal is to win, in many conversations. I’m trying to retrain my brain to listen, not talk!

[heather-vsqe]

So true....there is so much competition, and people trying to prove a point ....Why?

[persephone]

People don’t believe when I say, people are not talking to you but AT YOU.

[aaronwimberleymbamsf]

Love this "The Art of Sed." is one of my favourite books of his. His son told me he is a must read when I met him in NYC.

[thandoreviews]

i'm the type of person who will crack a joke or uses a bit of verbal charm. But i can also get back to being focused and task oriented in the same breath. My sense of humour is usually related to the topic at hand. Robert and many others, see folk like myself as 'wasting time' or disruptive or a distraction. As a very small number of people tend to gravitate toward me, even though I might not be the strongest in a team. Because I am honest but kind. I don't like being the strongest or the weakest. but my presence always draws attention either from the boss or a narcissistic employee. Then the criticism, gossiping and gaslight begins. It seems like everywhere you are, YOU'RE IN HIGH SCHOOL.

[johnharrison]

I notice that a lot. Then when you are listening, comprehending, responding, adding to the conversation, thinking of solutions or ways forward, sometimes the person still accuses you of not listening because they are not even registering your responses etc.!!!
It's like they expect you to just sit there and listen and not to speak.
Possibly just nod agreement to everything and then when their time runs out it's over.
Maybe they assume everyone else is as self centred as themselves ?
It's like one way listening.

[ivailoandreev]

sometimes narcissistic people do it without even realizing that

[nicolenicole]

I have a best friend who truly listens to me and cheers me on and also gives me constructive feedback to help me when I have a dilemma .. she’s my source of comfort and strength … I learn so much from her and I know she’s a gem .. she’s also so much fun to be with — happy and we love to go dancing.. so blessed !

[wren]

Finally! someone else who uses the same accurate descriptive phrase "people are talking AT each other". I use ping pong as an analogy because of the freneticism of a lot of the convos I've had lol.

[simonplestenjak]

Because this is the kind of talk that goes on subconscious levels.. you get to feel the talk in that moment and the two worlds join through and in subconscious level. Thank you man.. that kind of talk is also non productive for our conscious part of us.. a lot of times that kind of talk is going against our conscious part of us 😅😊.. because we fill our self up with random energies

[GORILLA_PIMP]

Idk
I've kinda put that to the test many times in my life and either people didn't NOTICE or they didn't CARE
It definitely didn't make them like me more

[theadvocate]

Sometimes people talk not to be heard or listened to but just to utter words as to feel they had a conversation with yoy

[splitpea]

You're right, Robert Greene. Thank you.

[tammy]

To think how much the words and work in insight from just this one man has affected my life and multiply that by every one who read his books and applies part of what they learn.

[sandrathompson]

You have very good advice and i have put it into action thank you 😏

[bennyblackcat]

I thought it was true, but then I realized that when you are genuinely interested in what other people say, you open them the way to uninterrupted talking, raising of their ego, and giving you back less and less value. You transform a conversation, no matter how unbalanced it already was, into a one-way monologue.

[stephKoch]

I am feeling so blessed my husband of 25 years he does this often 🙏🙏🙏 is fully present

[jaredcoffin]

True. Next topic. “People suck” 1M views.

[splitpea]

It's easier to listen when people talk about meaningful, interesting topics. It also helps if the person speaking is good at expressing themselves. Most of the people I've ever worked with have talked endlessly about themselves and their lives, then turn and walk away.