Narcissistic In-laws: The Greatest Threat To Marriage

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The Royal We has helped Millions to escape the grip of narcissistic abuse. Here’s a deeper look into what narcissistic abuse looks like and steps to heal from it:

Narcissistic abuse looks like:

Lack of Empathy: Narcissists often show little to no empathy for others, making it easy for them to manipulate and exploit. Narcissists use various tactics such as gaslighting, love bombing, and devaluation to control and dominate their victims.

Common Tactics Used in Narcissistic Abuse:

Gaslighting: Making the victim doubt their own reality and sanity.
Love Bombing: Showering the victim with excessive attention and affection to gain control.

Devaluation: Undermining the victim’s self-worth through criticism, belittling, and emotional neglect.

Isolation: Cutting the victim off from their support systems to increase dependency on the abuser.

Triangulation: Using others to create jealousy or competition, keeping the victim feeling insecure.
Healing from Narcissistic Abuse

How to begin healing from narcissistic abuse:
Understand that you have been enduring narcissistic abuse. This awareness is the first step toward healing.

Get Help:

Establish No Contact or Low Contact:

Limit or completely cut off communication with the narcissistic abuser. This helps you gain emotional distance and begin your healing journey.
Rebuild Your Self-Esteem:

Engage in activities that boost your confidence and self-worth. Surround yourself with supportive, positive people who value and respect you.
Educate Yourself:

Learn about narcissistic abuse and its effects. Knowledge is empowering and can help you recognize patterns and avoid future toxic relationships.
Practice Self-Care:

Prioritize your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. Regular exercise, a healthy diet, adequate sleep, and mindfulness practices can all contribute to your recovery.
Set Boundaries:

Develop and maintain healthy boundaries in all your relationships.

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[carmelitagood]

I always advise young people to never live in the in-laws home nor live near by as neighbors.

[spiritualempress]

YOU ARE SUPPOSED TO MAKE YOUR OWN FAMILY! I used to say this and the second a guy tells me he is really close to his family or mom, I’m out immediately.

[marievanna]

Oh yes, I have experienced the war. I unfortunately married into a family of covert narcs. I actually overheard my sister in law tell my husband through fake tears “you are supposed to put us first!”. It was one of the most disturbing things I have ever witnessed. They actually believed they should come before our children! Thank god my husband had the strength to go no contact. They tried everything to ruin our beautiful family. Demonic, every last single one of them!

[cecilerodriguez]

I have 20 years experience. The only thing that work is 0 contact !!
All the stress go away. Ignore them

[intuitiveempath]

Love this great video. It’s so true, your in laws are the biggest threat to your relationship/marriage. It’s going on 6 years and my in laws still don’t respect or accept me. Thank goodness for my partner putting me first. After many years of therapy, we decided going no contact was our best option… to protect our own family & peace. Best decision we ever made.

[sleeperno]

I’ve lived this video. Fortunately, God removed them. They wanted to discard and remove me from the lives of my wife and children. God restored my marriage and removed them instead. The evil they intended for me was revisited on them.

[jenqueenlychitra]

This is true. My in laws are all against me that's why my marriage is a failure. Thank you

[undergrace]

I spent 23 years putting up and finally walked away from my in-laws when I realized I was the scapegoat. So much time wasted fighting with my husband trying to explain and defend myself. All he says is that they beat to a different drum, as if it’s my fault. So I have to wonder why he wanted to marry me knowing I was nothing like them. They still tell my husband, “We’d like to see you guys on the holidays.” Oh it was hell alright. Best thing in did was cut ties, better late than never.

[izawaniek]

This is true. I agree. Only mature and independent individuals should get married.

[Mb]

This is what my husband doesn’t understand why our marriage is falling apart. He doesn’t see what his parents are doing to me

[covertincest_sonhusbands]

this is truth! narcissistic in-laws can be incredibly selfish and their child being in a happy, non-toxic marriage and learning the truth about their toxicity is a huge threat to their game and their access to supply

[elainebmack]

I went to grade school with a kid who I had lost contact with for many years. He and his wife married young (age 19), but before they married they made the decision to move away from home and both of their families. He later told me that he and his wife knew that they would never have a chance of staying together had they remained anywhere near their families; too much interference and drama. It was a conscious choice, and a good one.

[gloriadonahue]

Everything you said was absolutely true. I've been married to my narc husband for 31 years. My in-laws are long gone now. But you are describing the situation I was in 100%. It was horrible. And my husband was not about to do anything about it or even recognize that it was happening. According to him he had a perfect childhood with perfect parents. His mother was a saint. His family was perfect. His upbringing was perfect.

[mandyR]

You are amazing Kevin, your words are so so true, my mother in law was dysfunctional, my ex husband was a mamas boy, she was a narcissist, so as my husband. I thank our Heavenly Father I am no longer in that dark place. Thank thank you for all your time. My love and gratitude for your precious time helping us to heal. Blessings to you and your family.

[DesertLifeme]

One the best messages ever! I sent to my 3 unmarried children. Yes I wish I heard this when I was young. It is the truth.

[EugenePivnev]

Oh, you just described precisely what happened in my life! My parents gave us a hell of a time when we were newly weds. It was all under the 'tight knit family' excuse. But with the Lord's help our family separated from them (and also moved to the other side of the world), went no contact, and we're stronger than ever, raising four beautiful children.

[jesusislord]

Sadly, my husband abandoned me and his children because I set boundaries with his parents, I honestly felt like I was married to His Mom and Dad, when I set that boundary, He left me to struggle with his kids, he kept asking when are we going to go around my family again, and when I told him I’m needed a break, he left me and my children. I believe that they ruined my family, the mom and dad felt like they owned my oldest and that’s when I had to put my foot down. And when I did, My husband chosed his parents over his family.

[cfcantagallo]

If both the families of a couple are toxic, their relationship will suffer and may ultimately cause them to split up. It boils down to control, jealousy and the inability for families to let go and let someone live their own life. With no healthy boundaries, enmeshment is NOT a good thing. With the holidays upon us, it's important that you're talking about family relationships. Married couples or couples in general should have the holiday they deserve without the guilt. Let their toxic family members finally 'grow up'.

[debb]

I remember when I was trying to figure out what happened to my marriage and what to do about it. I would see/hear repeatedly Gen. 12:1 (leave your people and your father’s house) and 1 Cor. 5:1 (a man is sleeping with his father’s wife). A pastor told me I was dealing with a mother/son enmeshment (or, what he called emotional incest).
After spending much time in prayer I heard the words “Give me your marriage...” and I was glad to hand it over.
I ended this 35 year relationship because he just couldn’t see his wife and son as a part of his family.
I never, ever considered that “the other woman” would be momma. SMH...

[DMLondon]

My husband and I cut off the MIL. Coming from my own toxic family situation, it was a challenging first year filled with guilt, anger and rumination, but we both stuck to our guns and learned a bit from each other in the process. Couldn’t have grown so much without my hubby on the front lines with me.