5 Signs Of TOXIC FATHERS (Ask A Shrink)

Being raised by a 'BAD DAD' can impact a child for a lifetime---and in this video I chose 5 significant 'red-flags' to be aware of. I'm a Licensed Therapist and answer your questions on 'Ask A Shrink'.

[dylanrigler]

conclusion: if you’re looking up videos like this 99% chance your father is physically or verbally abusive. sending hugs to everyone out there going through the same situation as me ❤️

[fallinginthedp]

Bad parents don't have their children's backs, they treat them worse than relatives or friends.

[BigDrewYT]

Who else is here because their father :) ?

[Mr_Mufin]

"All children deserve parents,
But not all parents deserve children"

[Mari-lgwk]

I have the overly aggressive dad. The guy's honestly delusional. He's different from some of the descriptions you had, but still toxic as hell. Like you said, he never fucking takes responsibility for *any* of his actions. Like ever. With him, it's always "I wouldn't of done this if you didn't provoke me." Or "I was just being a parent." Or the worst one, "We only do things like this because we love you." Really toxic gaslighting. He gets mad over really small things, and it's embarrassing. I think he has a really fragile ego and feels like he has to take anger out on everyone around him. I really dislike living in the same house as him. Sorry for the swearing, I just feel so upset about all the hurt he's caused over the years.

[theresa]

My father is just super judgmental. I have to think the exact same way as him, have the same opinions, and have to do exactly what he wants me to in any given situation. He sees me as an extension of himself, and anything that he slightly disagrees with is a mountain of an argument and he cuts me off. I'm not deserving of his love. He's perfect in his view.

[joshcauwels]

My Dad Is Just A Control Freak And Loves Having Power

[anantgamer]

My Father never care about my feelings, he always abush and curse for no reasons he compares me with my cousins always negatively, He always yell at me if I was not working under his Ego, I tried so many times to talk to him gentally but he always curse me, he gave anxiety when I was a child, he is, very short tempered, He always destorys my joy, he treat me like his slave. I try to avoid him but I can't




Who thought YouTube's comment sections can be a confessional place for me.

[ayeshaslaysss]

Toxic dad always think they have done more than enough for their family by providing food and shelter . And always yells at their children for no reason and make their life hell . I wish those who has toxic father like me ..will get rid of him one day .may god help us through all this amen 🙏🏻

[Count_Courage]

The worst part about this is there are fathers out there who do these kinds of things and don't think they're doing anything wrong

[lucannon]

My father abused me physically and mentally. He first said that he was dissapointed when I was doing bad in school for some time. After another few years I was able to turn it around and I did pretty well - Guess what? He wasn’t happy that I was doing good now, he treated me even worse than and called me stupid. I learned that it doesn’t matter what I do, he will always act abusive.

[nikuuu]

I hate the way he treats my mom. She deserves better.
God why do my mom and I have to go through this suffering. What have we ever done to deserve this abusive life. I can't anymore. I know I need to study hard so I can be free but there's still more than 7 years left for that. I can't bear this trauma any longer.
Lord saviour please help me

[wict]

My dad has a very big ego and is easily provoked. He gets super mad when people “don’t listen to him”, for example when my mom interpreted what he is saying incorrectly he starts yelling a lot. Or when he is having a bad day he takes his anger out on me or my mom. He doesn’t hit us he would never do that. It’s just over the years I’ve had to deal with him yelling a lot and being angry and frustrated most of the time.

[ElMTSM]

Mother- supporting, loving, caring . Rarely gets aggressive or mad✅😍
Father- Mostly unsupporting, gets verbally abusive sometimes, doesnt care how successful you become, only looks at when you fail❌🤬

[jordanjohncarloj.]

My Mom is the best mother i would ever wanted in my life but my father (I don't claim him anymore as my father at this point) is the opposite, I always felt the fear of everytime he's going home from work and it's a red flag to know that a person is toxic, he's so control freak and sometimes he looks at me just to see my mistakes, everyone at the house is so aggressive to talk to him even though we're just chill without him, I'm 18 and starting college this year and I can't wait to cut him off in my life one day!!

[abi.G___]

My dad is extremely over aggressive/ critical/ and controlling to me and my mother both, my mom always takes up for him. I pray he will change 😔

[childgamer]

My dad didn't support us by emotionaly as well as financially all he have the responsibility is to letting down us by his bitter words I don't know why i am still love him and tried to make him happy ....😡

[the_great_mammon]

He hurt me, left me hundreds of miles away from home with no way to get back, manipulated me, criticized me incessantly, never saw my side of anything, refused to listen to any ideas or points of view that weren’t his, and hurt me so much, and tried to buy my love with gifts, then held those very things over my head.

[maxhope]

Can god tell me why there are soooo many psychopathic people in the world? Before I was born, my father ran away with his mother and younger siblings from his own abusive father. My father had been a smart and hardworking successful business man, he dedicated himself to help his mom, siblings, his wife and 6 children. Since we were kids, we never saw one smile on his face, he never joked or small talked with us, the only time he talked to us was when he checked our school cards, he would beat 3 of us up since the other 3 did well at school. I'd never dared to talk to him about anything, basically i was mute when he was around. He disliked me the most coz I was scared and I didn't talk, he always said I was stupid. when I was 12, I failed grade 6, he was so angry so he grabbed my hair and punched my face, kicked my head, I started bleeding and lying on the floor like a injured dog, he started hitting me with a stick. I could not get up for 2 days, my face and lips were all swollen. When I became a teenager, things got a bit better coz I got taller than him and I didn't fail school although I didn't do well. I hated school coz I believed what my dad said that I was stupid and I was not good at school. My father started having mistress when I was 13, he and my mother fought sometimes, he even brought a women home a few years later, my older said no, so he put that women somewhere else, he had 2 babies with that mistress and expected us to treat them like sisters. He didn't care about my mom and our feelings. later, he had a second mistress and other 2 children. He sent my mom and us to another country to live. I am a 40 years old married man with 2 children. I struggled to finish high school and University coz I found out I was not stupid at all, in fact people told me I was kinda smart, however, I never had big ambition coz I had low self-worthness. My father still dislike me coz out of his 6 children, I am the only one ever and still disagree with him on things, my other siblings are "smarter" that they respect him as he is the "dictator, galaxy leader, king" even he still upsets my mom sometimes. I have a cross-culture marriage, my father said my wife's ethnicity women are gold diggers, and he asked me if my kids are really my won kids, although he knows my wife is a teacher and she makes good money. I appreciate my father did his best to raise us, we never lacked in food and education, I don't blame him that he didn't know how to show love to us coz he didn't have a normal father neither, he only finished 6th grade, but he really doesn't have empathy for my mom and other people, he only believes in money, he even tried to teach me that pride is useless, money and power first, he also taught me how to manipulate women and people, I didn't listen and he said I was stupid and naive, BTW, I am Asian and this kind of father seems to be more common in 'some' Asian countries.

[bygraceme]

Missed one--the dad who wants his kids to take care of him emotionally, financially, and physically, even when they're still kids and he's supposed to be the adult. That pouty face of his always gave the message loud and clear--"I'm so sick/tired/sad/lonely, and it's your job to feel sorry for me, to take care of me, to make me feel better!"