Maybe It Wasn't You

There are many factors and unexpected circumstances that can lead to a breakup. Many times, we can place the blame entirely on ourselves and on our mistakes in a relationship without considering what is going on in the life of our ex. In this video, I discuss a situation where more was happening beneath the surface that lead to a separation.

[wrestlebdk]

The creative healing course is great! I’m almost done with section 2 and I’ve found it quite helpful

[christieking]

I was in a relationship for 2 years, I just went through the same thing, after the 3rd conversation of not spending time together, I walked away, he didn't waste anytime to pursue other women! That gave me my answer!

[thetransparentjerseygirl]

Dating avoidants is exhausting 😫...I could never do it again!

[LoneImpala]

Thanks for another great video! I can't afford the online courses and coaching, but I can't stress this enough, your videos helped me all the time! It helped me understand that I made the right decision, and thru your videos, it made me understand my attachment issues, then finally realized that I don't want him back. Thank you for helping us and sharing crucial information like these. Keep up the good work. Regards to Coach Margaret and Coach Victoria :*

[nikm]

Background 3:40 one year post 35yr marriage (a lifetime) & just began dating 4:57 3M of daily texts & calls. Challenges 6:01 new job, family, family illness. 6:54 3M later cohabiting 7:35 6M later disconnection & deprioritized 11:04 their reality distortion 14:19 when it’s them, it’s not your fault 14:26 leave them alone so they can figure out they are sure they can: give you what you need, make a commitment, are willing to sacrifice to repair the relationship 15:20 can’t change their situation 15:32 see things for where they’re at or not at 15:40 inner work & what to do in the meantime.

[JpRt]

Oh man I wish i knew your channel some months ago. I kept blaming my self for my failures. But thanx your videos have been really helpful.

[daltonedu]

This sounds similar to a situation I encountered. We met on a dating website and things we well at first. We discussed relationship history and she was married for fifteen years fell out of love, got into another six year relationship soon after and had extramarital affairs. We were casually dating and we called them dates until she decided labels weren’t important. Asked me to meet her kids, and I met a few of her friends. She cried on our 3rd date after spending the night. And things got better, until she regretted the 3rd date and asked for space. She keep contacting me and I proceeded. Then I was hit with I’m confused about my feelings. She told me about abandonment issues, past trauma and said she couldn’t be my only person and dating other people. I agreed to keep seeing her and questioned her about what she really wanted. I got yelled at. She asked for space and time and then two weeks later told me she didn’t have feelings for me and the situation was hopeless and that I needed to date someone else. 🤷🏽‍♀️ I guess I walked into that one

[gwendolynb]

This poor woman's situation is EXACTLY why I broke it off with the last guy I wanted to date. Not worth the unequal effort!

[MH-igtq]

Hay graig, great content it’s helping me a lot. Kinda feel like my ex switches between being anxious and avoidant. Could you maybe make a video about the consequences of divorcing parents (in childhood) and the attachment style that will come with it?

Regards

[michaels]

Hi Coach Craig -- Love your content. Can you please make a video (or can someone point me in the direction of an article of existing video) for *How to come out of no contact with an avoidant (when they reach out)* ? Thank You!!!!

[leena]

This sounds a lot like my situation.
Totally feel this woman’s emotions.

[attihsoul]

I have a very similar story and i'm still dealing with it. I would love to share it someday

[devonramsay]

Is it possible to get back with an ex if the parents accidently found out about us? She was deeply in love with me, but decided to break things off because her mom saw our text messages. She wont exactly tell me what happened between the two of them, but insisted that me and her could not be in a committed relationship after what happened. Even though when we first met, she was rushing for us to be in a committed relationship

[timepassvideo]

Help me my 3 months long relationship broken. We almond laugh happy but she had alcoholic parents. One day she said she doesn't feel anything for anyone because of her parents tension. She asked space. And now she said she is happy alone and ended it. What shall i do

[bethjade]

if anyone has any success stories please reply. my ex broke up with me and blocked me a week before christmas saying he doesnt love me or have feelings for me anymore, we were together for 2 1/2 years i was 17 at the time of the breakup and he was 18 so quite young but we were each others first. we planned our whole life together and have always connected on every aspect. we did argue about stupid things but near the end we argued because when we were happy he’d tell me how much he loves me and how much i mean to him but when hes stressed he’d flip his feelings. hes been having a hard time with work lately and its effected his mental health and caused him to push me away and stop eating. i really dont know what to do its been nearly 5 months and im in a vicious cycle with my mental health being anxious about him not coming back. has he fallen out of love with me or has he pushed me away because of personal issues? his dad walked out on him 2 years ago and my ex struggles to open up about his feelings :(

[ThisIsCarine]

Craig - curious why you didn't think the first mistake in all this was her letting him move in with her ? Honestly, I wonder if she more more persistent in the relationship than he was, also a man who is failing at so many things doesn't feel good if someone rescues him like she did with providing shelter (especially if it's a woman rescuing a man!). I feel like she would have been better off giving him more time to figure things out, and expressing to him her confidence that he would. Fast forward, a year+ on his own and knowing what he wants from Relationships AND feeling masculine would have made him more of a mover than follower. What do you think? I think first mistake was on her for pushing him into moving in with him. Curious to hear your perspective?

[Gazsuncoast]

Fantastic content as per usual, please do something about the high volume on your intro and your on mic Craig, I watch a lot of YouTube content and I have to turn your volume down, the ladies are quite and you can be over baring. Keep up the amazing work much respect. Gary

[mathews]

Not victim blaming but if she threw a fit and then last minute wanted to go it reveals the games and manipulation she brings to a relationship. Maybe he's avoidant but hes 60 and shes 50 something and he doesn't want to raise an adult baby. I am willing to bet there is a lot more to the story. Maybe he wants it to work but is just so confused because of how challenging she is. And she is challenging.

[playalot]

Hey Craig, does it usually take a few days to get back to an email coaching? Thanks a ton, and I look forward to your help.

[ajanine]

It was all him. I was and still am an absolute Angel 😇. 🤷🏽‍♀️ He better get it together cause I'm just too damn cute. You can ask him. He'll tell you I ain't lying.