Do you say 'I don't know' a lot? #therapy #therapyinsights

If you find yourself saying "I don't know" a lot in therapy, then it may be that your experiences earlier in life taught you that it was important for you to learn to disconnect from your emotions. While leaning to disconnect from feelings might have been adaptive in childhood, later in life, this avoidance of emotions can become a reflexive pattern, making it hard for us to know ourselves and establish emotionally intimate relationships. Therapy can help us to gain awareness of our schemas and hopefully rewire our unconscious beliefs that something terrible will happen to us if we allow ourselves to feel deeply and share these feelings with another person. #mentalhealth #therapy

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[okay]

yes, im just scared people will ridicule or reject me if i be my true self and i have been shamed and oppressed by my family if i had my own feelings, opinions ect..

[irachmaditya]

How can someone be all round like her? Smart, delicate, and gorgeous😂

[eazy]

So like in march of this year I started working with a therapist who specializes in IFS therapy. Fortunately for me, I was at a place where it was either grow or die. Looking inward was kinda easy bc I was sooo ready to heal and move on with my life. Your videos are awesome

[patvanschaik]

Oh my gosh, just listening to this quick video made my insides tighten up. My mouth went dry and it’s totally how I feel, I don’t want to know and I don’t want anyone else to know. Not sure what to do.

[joshuaslye]

This was me. Well, it still is at times. My first therapist forbid me to use those three words together. The result was the first steps on a long journey that I am still on. Thanks for your wisdom here, Doc.

[levinpantenburg]

Love what you do.
Your vibe is beautiful ❤

[EricWenders]

I had my first session last week with a therapist versed in experiential models. At one point I did indeed say, 'I don't know, ' and got challenged on it. In a way, thinking in old free associative terms, I briefly felt that 'I don't know' was the thing that came to my mind and should have been accepted, but the little push to look beyond it, I think, was the real inducement to free association, and 'I don't know' was the block on it, the thing that was stopping me coming up with an idea even if it might seem dumb, trivial, wrong etc. And in practice, yes, this is what got us somewhere.

[innerhealingclinic]

This can be true and for some, "I don't know" can be a good place to be. Because from "I don't know" truth can have the potential to shine through and curiosity can spring forth from this place of "I don't know"

I've seen this within myself and many of my clients during IFS sessions.

This can be the place where parts may run out of reasons to not open up and be more willing to trust Self 🙏❤️

[emilywinterflood]

Your content is fabulously helpful im so grateful for your channel Tori thank you so so much ❤

[catcatdogdijon]

hot damn. this is a gift- never thought of it like that❤thank you❤

[Taobeth]

I say IDK a lot and have been making progress doing parts work but I feel like the alexithymia is far more unconscious to have a schema like those that resonates. It's almost more like I've been in survival mode so much, challenged with meeting my basic needs, that my brain has de-prioritized my own higher needs of emotional fulfillment and self actualization. This has become so habitual that they are inaccessible.

[patricialong]

This info is GOLD 🌟 Thank you, Dr. Olds.

[Think-Harder-Duh]

I think it would be helpful to describe schema here as I’d consider that more a therapy/mental health word that people won’t fully understand.

[Emc_Squared]

How can I contact you to be your client?

[blodchild]

So you're saying I really do know I just choose to pretend cos I don't want to know? Pssh, I wish it was that easy to figure it out.