Will No Contact Make My Ex Forget Me?

Will no contact make my ex forget about me? Will using the no contact rule cause my ex to forget me and not come back to me?

We often fear that backing away, giving space, and stopping contact (a.k.a. the no contact rule) will make a boyfriend or girlfriend forget about us, but according to Coach Lee, that is simply not true.

One way to demonstrate this is to consider how you feel about your ex right now. If they haven't reached out to you in a while, have you forgotten about them? Or would you?

No contact often takes longer than a few days or weeks so you are likely wondering if that amount of time will cause your ex to forget about you or if they will still remember you. The answer is that no contact will not make your ex forget about you, even if their attraction level has fallen - which is has if they have broken up with you. If your relationship lasted for a good amount of time (3 months or more) forgetting about you will be extremely difficult and highly unlikely.

One of the effects of no contact is that it very often resurrects attraction on the part of your ex toward you. That's key to getting them back and a large part of what makes the no contact rule so effective. That's the very reason that your ex will not forget you during no contact.

As Coach Lee explains in this video, not contacting your ex is actually what helps them remember you.

[Taran]

Trust No Contact. It took nearly six months but right now I’m sitting on the couch with my husband whom I thought I had lost forever. We’ve been going strong for nearly two years now since the no contact period!

[OilCanHarryU]

Trust no contact.
Trust in yourself.
Time is in your favour…Trust that.
You are complete without your partner…Trust that.

[claire]

So no contact really WORKS! Everything Coach Lee said would happen actually did, I got dumped nearly 2 months ago after a 6 year loving relationship ..I cried so much felt like I was dying and then went into complete no contact .. and nothing from him for weeks he looked like he had the “relief stage” etc and I left him to it and worked on myself got back in the gym, re connected with old friends etc and guess what nearly 8 weeks of nothing he’s now reaching out begging saying how sorry he is how much he regrets everything he did and would I give him another chance .. well no sorry I don’t want him now .. I thought it was all I wanted him back but now after no contact I don’t want the relationship anymore I’m loving being on my own and I’m leaving him crying into his beer glass .. no thank you . Stay in no contact guys it’s a process it works .. good luck everyone xx

[melbarrett]

Coach Lee. When my ex broke up with me I not only followed your advice but I took it into the world. Your voice first thing in the morning when I’m getting ready for work, your voice when I’m taking my dog for a walk, when I’m having a bath… has seen me through the hardest six months of my life. I have followed and kept your advice to the T! He’s come back! He did everything you said, had the rebound and came back saying how now how much he has missed me and how much he is in love with me. Thank you! Thank you! Coach Lee you’ll never know quite how much you have done for me! If I met you in person I would give you the biggest hug ever! Thank you so much not for just getting my ex back but for teaching me how to control my emotions! I’m such a better person for it! You’re the best!! Lots of love Melanie

[Reehta]

Trust the process. I spent three months in no contact and now we are back together after some hard and honest conversations. We are both now in therapy and we communicate better than ever - essentially the break up created a space for better communication. Love to everyone 💛

[fitforfreelance]

Don't wait for them to come back. Stay focused on your health and business goals!

[moisesreyes]

After 3 months of no contact she called me and I realized I didn't want her anymore. Moved on and started working on myself .

[meet]

Its been 1 year, i feel better now. It was very tough journey. But I made it. Proud of myself. Thank you for your support.

[v]

This man knows what he s talking about. I got my ex, its a process but his advice definitely helped. Word to the wise reject the friendship offer. That shows strength

[tommytownley]

I want to thank Coach Lee I did no contact for 30 days I just got off the phone with my ex. I had my doubts about the no contact but it definitely worked if you are doing it stick with it man it gets hard I know don't give up

[vibrantnubian]

Sometimes you have to remind them who tf you are and were before y’all met!

[charisetal]

I went no contact for 2 months now and my ex wish me happy birthday and happy Valentine’s Day, I didn’t response, the no contact is for me to go on and forget him for good, I’m now living in a stress free life, thank you coach Lee !

[tansz]

Indeed. My ex went from cocky to humble and sorry after 70 plus days of no contact.

It's been a month--slowly but surely things are moving along just like Coach Lee talks about in his Emergency Break Up Kit!

I'll update in another 30 days!

[mariesmith]

I got dumped last year after 6 months of a good relationship. Sorry discarded, not dumped. I was gutted and spent weeks trying to stay in contact with him; trivial things, questions, advice etc. At some point I just stopped, accidental no contact 😅. Didn't hear from them at all, until exactly 60 days later, a message to say hi saw you today. I didn't reply, no feeling at all, busy dealing with new love situation! They will always come back, days, months, years. No contact just speeds it up, so just start it, and hopefully for their sake you won't be over it when they do reach out 😅

[chriscoughlan]

My Ex broke up with me on September 11 2021 out of no where. I stayed in NC until I ran into her at a bar. We talked for a little but she was very hot and cold towards me. On November she reached out to me to get her stuff back. I accepted it and on the weekend in mid November, she came to get her stuff and didn't really appreciate me taken my time out of the way to give her something that belong to her. At the end of it, I was glad to give her stuff back but thought that the relationship was over. Since then I'm back in NC for 3 months now. Guys listen to Coach Lee and be patient. This is a good time to improve yourself and for you to show them that you changed. Keep it going everyone and believe in yourself. Coach Lee your the best.

[marshall]

I think watching your videos is enough to wean people off their ex by becoming a substitute for the feelings and relationship people are struggling over in not being in contact with them.

[harshjones]

Never feel embarrassed to do what you need to, to find solace and comfort during these troubling times. It’s hard, i know trust me, but it really does get better. Coach Lee helped me a lot. I can say i’m in such a better place now, to the point i don’t need anyone. Life is great.

Someone once told me - “if you’re going through hell, why would you stop there, KEEP GOING!”

[EB-ievq]

Hello guys,
just wanted to say thank you to Coach Lee and this heartbroken community.
I started to watch these videos and followed the instructions. After 1 month of NC I was contacted and admittetly our first meeting was akward. I was too emotional.
I declined frindship, but did not flirt very strongly. Was too much in my head prob.
Two days later I called her out of the blue, because I wanted to see her, and told her so. She liked that. We met up, I was very direct.
Flirted an absurd amount.
Also liked that.
I said I wont accept friendship, because we are more than that. I showed strengh and was a man about it. The spark came back.
I am not sure if I even want a long term thing with her anymore.
We agreed to not define what we have and just be adults meeting up and enjoying each others company.
Dont play games guys. Be strong.
I am sure you will see a lot of the Lees teachings in my story.
Thank you again Coach.

[starttakinnotez]

My girlfriend was taking me for granted and disrespecting me. No matter how much I tried to talk with her she didn't see it as an issue & dismissed my concerns. She would stonewall me. Eventually I caught her cheating on me. I put my foot down and left. She smeared me behind my back. Tried turning my friends into her flying monkeys. Got her own friends to harass me on her behalf. I showed them all the evidence and they shut up. I put that woman in her place by threatening to call the cops if she didn't leave me alone. She tried so hard to get me to explode. I didn't let her get what she wanted. I told her I would contact her if I wanted to hear the apology she would eventually want to give me. After a little over a month of no contact (me going out and having fun with friends and other women) I decided to contact her. We met up. She has had a complete attitude adjustment. The word sorry is in her vocabulary. She apologized to my friends. She told her friends and family the truth She was so upset over what happened she couldn't even eat and lost a lot of weight. We are back together now and she respects me and communicates with me.

Moral of the story. Stand your ground (in a respectful manner), hold your head high, and dare them to find someone better than you!

[ann-cqcs]

Hi everyone who's reading this and watching and listening on this video... yes yes yes just trust and apply the "no contact" after the break up. Its really work. It's not easy but yes its really work...