This reminds me of something that happened to me a few years back. I was with my girlfriend, her brother, and his wife. An attractive girl passed us and my girlfriend commented about how attractive she was. My girlfriend's brother made a brief "yeah" of agreement (not in a sleazy tone, nor even implying that he had really noticed her that much, just a simple agreement). His wife then scoffed and said to him: "well there's no way you could get her". At this point, I said to his wife "so you're saying that she's better than you?" His wife just replied with "huh?" So I explained "well, you said there's no way he could get her, but he got you, so if he's not good enough to get her but he is good enough to get you, that implies that she is better than you."
My girlfriend quickly cut in to change the subject, but the point still stands. When you insult your partner, it also drags you down as well.
jamesedward
I married such a wonderful man who taught me how to treat him. My parents were the worst role models. I thank God everyday I have a trusting, respectful and loving relationship.
janiemoore
My grandparents were married for almost 70 years until my grandma died. Till the last day, my grandmother was absolutely obsessed about my grandfather ( so was my grandfather about her, but he was an introverted person) which resulted in them having a loving home and all their kids being supportive and loving to each other till now. My grandma always said "A lion hunts out in the jungle, not in its own den", implying that do not bring your aggression to the place you call home, the world outside is already tough.
NFAnisha
My parents married shockingly young, as I was a bun baking in their collective oven. I arrived in 1958. Despite their extreme youth, and some "normal" adolescent acting out, they remained remarkably steadfast to one another, always had each other's back, never failed to be there for each other, and instilled in me a fierce belief in love and loyalty. They were married until my father's death in 2015. My broken hearted mother lived a brief 3 years after his passing, and died in 2018. I am an only child, and I thank God everyday for the strength, courage, tenacity, gumption, and common sense I inherited from both of my marvelous parents.
deborahw
If I were in this class, I’d have no idea what notes to take
stephenhughes
As a woman, I cannot stand it when I see another woman put her man down in front of others its just terrible, and reflects so poorly on her.
jamoriah
I met a man who I started driving to bible study, with his children on his visitation weekend. On our first drive he started ranting against his ex-wife calling her horrible names and language in front of his two girls, 10 and 5.
I got him alone after we arrived and told him to never speak of his children's mother like that in front of them. And he should not speak like that at all. That was his childrens mom, whom they love, and he is causing great stress to them hearing this. As well as his actions and behavior is the role model for the future husband these girls will psychologically choose for in a husband. If he wants them to marry an verbally abusive man, keep it up.
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moniquefleming
This goes for anyone. When you talk bad about someone, you’re not defining them, you’re defining yourself.
learnbydoinghomeschool
Never ever embarrass your partner in public.
cynthiamarquez
I agree with that statement, people who complain about their spouses all the time are basically holding up a sign saying "I'm an idiot." If you're unhappy either do something about it or shut up. The constant noise is exhausting.
edwardsullivan
Embarrassing your partner in public also applies to doing "pranks" on them and posting it on the internet for views.
mysteryjunkie
This is the reason I have tried my utmost (sometimes unsuccessfully, because the temptation is strong) to never talk bad about my ex-girlfriends. Not because they were all angels, but because I feel like I have a duty to not air the dirty laundry even after the relationship has ended. Like, I still have a duty to protect the privacy even of a person who has hurt me, because it is about something more than personal hurt.
ladderzombie
"Never ever embarrass your partner in public." - Specially when they're not present. respect is even more important when your partner is not there !
Thortchello
I sat next to Jordan Peterson’s wife at his talk in Indianapolis! She is just as humble and congenial. She never mentioned who she was (I discovered it was her later) and she was genuinely interested about what I did and where I was from. She also shared about her life and profession and I learned how impressive of a woman she is herself!
GuitarBob
I used to put a boyfriend down in front of my family when I was very young. I learned it from my mother. It was a defense mechanism before I knew how to set boundaries and choose a good partner. He was disrespecting me and instead of ending the relationship I thought i could shame him into shape. I didn't think about or plan it. It was like a reflex from what I had seen for years. My mother notoriously does this to anyone. I learned very quickly that it wasn't effective, and that if I knew myself better I could set boundaries better.
src
I was married to an abusive man; physically, emotionally, verbally. I kept my mouth shut about it for too long, and when I finally could not tolerate the abuse one minute longer and I left him, everyone was stunned and shocked. People said things like, "This is the first we heard of it. She is probably exaggerating the abuse." My own family said stuff like this. I have learned now to speak out when someone mistreats me and I don't care if someone else judges me for it. Silence enables abusers.
SpecialKel
It’s self harm to stay in a bad relationship basically
leapsplashafrog
The old saying; your partner, to some extent, is a reflection of you
briangonsalez
I'm grateful I never married a witchy woman, since the amazing wife I married has made my life seem like heaven throughout the last 51 years of our marriage. I knew I didn't deserve her love and attention because, early in the marriage, I was immature and self-centered in the relationship, and I had no concept how to respect and treat a decent lady. I had grown up without a mother or a lady in our home from the age of four. Girls and women seemed to me as a teenager to be like aliens from another planet. But my wife, whom I met when I was 16, revealed to me that natural lovely spirit that so many women possess. This caring, supportive, and one-of-a-kind woman in our marriage is all I've ever wanted or will ever need. When my life comes to an end, which might be any day as my body battles life's illnesses, I will genuinely be able to say that I have been blessed above other men and agree with the creator that it is not good for a man to be alone.
stoneyascension
My husband and I were at a state fair, and I can’t tell you how many instances I saw of women verbally bashing their husbands or boyfriends whatever in public, and I was embarrassed for them. Don’t publicly humiliate your spouse!
