Why it’s hard to say “I am proud of myself” #shorts

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[Willowtree]

what kids will never realize is that there is a big difference between being confident and being egotistical. I think what you do is amazing and you deserve to be proud

[floraspond]

There’s a difference between being proud of yourself and bragging. People need to understand that.

[oliviarule]

Fuck, that hurts. I am so sorry you felt like that, and so happy for you that you’ve come through it.

[BooshieWooshie]

The thing is, a lot of people confuse being humble with being self-deprecating

[mekidunston]

This look is absolutely gorgeous and though you may not have believed it before, when you feel like you aren't proud of yourself just know we are always proud of you ❤️🥰

[strawberrysimp]

I just cried, I really needed this, thank you so much, Cindy

[biaquerferias]

Humble culture destroyed a chunk of my teenage years. I feel like women are expected to never express how good they are at something until the opportunity arises and that incredible ability is showcased! Preferably to help others! Never for our self-fulfillment. The realization hit when I met a boy as intelligent as I was, incredibly unapologetic. He interrumpted the flow of a class to debate with teachers. Introduced news and politics to highschoolers' conversations. No one ever bashed him for it. I realized i had been unknowingly suppressing myself for a years-long fear of sounding obnoxious. Never again.

[abbiesmith]

I had a big breakthrough moment at some point where I decided that hating myself was pointless. I really hope that everyone else reaches that, it’s the best ❤❤ there’s a BIG difference between having an ego, and having self love. It’s great that people can acknowledge their shortcomings, but show both sides of the coin. You have qualities too babes

[catherinejustcatherine]

Regardless of their age, some people can be awful!
Whether jealous, bitter, raised to be cruel, or something else.

I hope you can ignore them in the future!

Your artwork is awesome!
Your speeches and sharing are inspiring, kind, poignant, and so many other things. Your filming and editing are greatThese and more are some things you can be healthfully & enrichingly proud of!

[Zeenomoth_Gzxpho]

If you say you’re bad at something people will believe you without a second thought but the moment you say you’re good at something you’ll be doubted and called a liar. I’ve had this happen to me many times and I’m always wondering, why does it matter if I’m lying or not?

[wowwhatacharmingfish]

And I'm so impressed and proud of you!!! 💖💛✨🌟☺️

[chia_mochachi]

The end of "I am proud of you" make me start to cry, thanks and I love your make-up

[AwesomeSpyCat]

During school i was (to be blunt) above average intelligence. And looking back at it, i hate that people dont actually know what over confidence means. I got told by friends that i was annoying or a show off when i brought up my accomplishments. And i later on found out that some of them struggled with the technical side of their education and i felt bad about it for so long because i felt like me talking about my achievements was probably really hard for them. But actually, now that i have super close friends, i realise that talking about your achievements and things that make you proud and happy is not showing off. And its not fair that they made me feel like it was. I think the whole idea of being humble is stupid. Because about 1% of humans are truly humble. Most of them just pretend to be modest because of social pressure. And that's not a bad thing. As long as you are grateful and don't take others down, showing off isn't a bad thing.

[tiarna]

Thank you no one evee said to me im so proud of you as well

[minano-nim]

From my experience, the hardest part of growing up with great parents (great from at least some perspectives) is that once you leave your home environment, you get backlash from everyone who didn't benefit from the same parenting skills. I had the same issue. My parents did a ton of research before becoming parents and put a lot of effort into parenting. The rest of my family was worried they were "spoiling" me by not being harsh enough and not insisting on gender roles so they stepped in every time they could. In school, the teachers would punish me for no reason because I "need to toughen up" and "life's often not fair". Other kids would make fun of me because my dad walked me to school (I was 9 and living in a dangerous neighborhood) or other things that now I know were completely normal. I still remember the shock I had when I first entered a "rich kids" class at 15 and found out my new classmates called their parents mommy and daddy. I had been bullied relentlessly at 7 years old because I once referred to my mom as mommy, and although I immediately stopped calling them that, I was still bullied for it at 14.

Since I started struggling overtly with my mental health, my mom has been really beating herself up for "failing" at parenting. I'm such a hard time explaining to her that it was not her, but the whole rest of the world I grew up in.

[Violetheart]

Thank you no one's ever said that...
You are very beautiful and talented everyone here is proud of you

[GoldenCatastrophe]

Years late to this but
I just broke down in tears
Im proud of you too. I watch your recent achievements.

Today has just been hard and despite this being an old video, it's something I needed.

[Iclimbstreetlamps]

My best friend never let me share my accomplishment without making me feel bad. We worked in a haunted house together and I got an award for most versatile actor and they got an award for scaring the most managers walking through our house. After the big ceremony where everyone got their awards they told me they were unhappy with the fact that I got an award and that they wouldn’t have gotten theirs if someone (who had quit earlier and had more manager scares then them) was still working there. They told me they were upset because they had the idea of working there together and wanted it to be their thing, not mine. So instead of feeling proud of myself I felt guilty for working hard at a job I loved. I later finally realized they had been emotionally manipulating and abusing me through our 10 years of friendship after explaining what our relationship was like to others (something I had never done) and was told that they way I was being treated was extremely unhealthy and wrong. I’ve never gone back to working at a haunted house in fear that they might be working there too as they are a very social, charming person and I’m sure I’m the villain in the story they tell to people.

[BlueMiaou]

thank you, i think i need to hear this more

[madmouse]

I can definitely get that, but strange thing is I'm more likely be proud of something I did for a school project than my own art. I'll draw something, think it's decent, but then immediately feel kicked down because I'll see something better by someone who hasn't been doing art for as long. It's a real hit to any of my confidence ...