Straight Talk: Forgive and Forget?

Is it possible to forgive if you don't totally forget? The Straight Talk panel had a lot of opinions on that!

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[capishdyu]

“When you don’t forgive a person, it’s like your drinking the poison waiting for them to die” that’s DEEP and so true

[underwaterdoggie]

Forgiveness is a good thing. But you can't just forget some things. The first lady commenting had it on the dot. You can't let people take advantage of you because you are willing to forgive.

[saquoiag]

I loved how Steve uses his platform to talk about Christ! He never comes off as arrogant or, rude. He just honestly and openly talks about what he’s passionate about and, how it impacts his life. Love you Steve!

[eboogieexx]

There’s a difference between acceptance and approval. You can accept another’s mistakes or wrong doing but that doesn’t mean you have to approve of it. You can still move on without allowing someone to repeatedly let you down.

[HazSut]

The bible says we have to forgive to be forgiven. At times it is hard but prayer changes things.

[justruthb]

In a perfect world you forgive and forget. In reality we are human beings...we forgive and we try to move on, but it stays in the back of your mind. You won't cuss a person out every day because of their wrong, either we can live with it, or we can't. And sometimes we just have to let ppl go for our own inner peace.

[lisas]

Well put from the first lady: forgiving doesn't mean forgetting. To forget could subject you to the same behaviors, mistakes, and outcomes. Remembering enlightens you to create healthy boundaries.

[sndrx]

"Forgive but dont forget" my mentor taught me that . In short it means that when you forgive someone you should still remember what they did, so that you don't repeat their mistakes and you don't hurt someone else.

[mweleme]

Forgiveness means one thing and one thing only: Don't pay back. Don't hit the other cheek. That's all there is to it. Don't wish evil for the other guy.

[ATrueLoveOfficial]

Forgiving others is a favor you do for yourself because it help you move forward. Forgive others, but never forget the lessons you learned.

[dragonrider]

The number one thing I hope no one who finds themself in a relevant situation never forgets, myself included, is that forgiveness is very much like grief. It takes work and self-reflection, because the pain and emotional uncertainty you are trying to balance against are potentially unhealthy and destructive.

[claudiawaithe]

...For the first time in my life, I finally get that part of the Lord's prayer. "For they know not what they do.".. "As we forgive those who trepass against us." 3:00-3:06 and 4:00-4:32. Two strongest points for me. I've been hurt at different levels numerous times. That hasn't changed; but I never could hate the ones who did it to me. Cause I know it'll never do them anything. I take all the time I need to do whatever it takes to heal. But I don't keep those people in my life no more.

[reinettagrant]

Asking for forgiveness everyday, and forgiving everyday. Thanking God for forging me. I am a working progress.🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[crissycrochets]

Such a strong topic. I was treated terribly repeatedly by my husband and my in laws and they apologized a year later to my husband and not to me and expect me to move on like nothing ever happened because they already spoke to my husband but we are two different people if they want to have a relationship with me then they need to apologize to me. When I tried to have conversations to rectify the situation it ends with excuses and an argument, that doesn’t show ME that they’re sorry and truly understand how their behavior hurt me for so long. If you’re truly sorry the apology shouldn’t come with excuses and negativity. You’re most likely to repeat bad behavior if you don’t understand how you hurt that person. Why should I give them my time if they can’t show me that sorrow? They show it to my husband and not me, I don’t get it. That doesn’t make me feel part of the family because I did nothing to deserve any of that. 🙏🏽

[monkeyloven]

THE WOMAN IN THE MIDDLE HAS GREAT ADVICE!

[sleepy-peepy]

You should forgive without forgetting. If you forget, the relationship can never grow or change for the better. You can get cheated on, and forgive your partner, but your relationship can’t go back to being how it was because you decided to forget. That’s how you got cheated on in the first place.

When you don’t forget, you can build and learn from what went wrong in the first place, so hopefully it doesn’t happen again.

[graceyoung]

Deep topic! The lady in the middle said it best..." I forgive them for myself" ....I also liked when you said paraphrasing, forgive others so that when you mess up others will mirror the forgiveness to you based on how you have been exercising your forgiveness towards others who have hurt you etc.

[chapter]

To truly forgive it's like it never happened. This is difficult if we are truly honest.

[sheilarobles]

I've already been hurt by a family member. I thought I had forgiven them. But after this maybe I hadn't. But I learned a lot from this. Thank u so very much.Love always sis Sheila.

[imntsckimntwell]

Forgetting isn't letting go of the events of your life. If we don't acknowledge when we've survived life and what not, then cannot ever truly be who we are! I don't ever want to forget where I've been, however I've forgiven much!