THINGS THAT SURPRISED ME ABOUT GERMAN PARENTING /WEIRD THINGS GERMANS DO

Hi, guys welcome to my channel, im Ruth Qym a Kenyan living in Germany.
in this video im going to open up about some of the things i find weird about parenting in Germany and about Germans in General.
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[ruthqym]

They are not wrong or right but I only found them weird because I have been brought up differently .

[tompkinstv]

Germany culture reminds me of NYC with being so busy and short with conversations. Thanks for sharing, looking forward to more of your content!

[AzubiLife]

I can imagine telling my African mom to stay away from my room in her own house😂😂😂😂 l will cease to have that room from that day

[RuthWambugu]

These are interesting facts about your area.Was lovely to watch. Stay blessed gal.

[florencekimani]

When it comes to the teenagers having relationships where parents, are involved it’s a good thing because like you said they do the precautions, unlike in Africa where they just do, what they think is right and end up being young parents or even having STDs. About asking when you are leaving we should adapt it as well because some people visit and never leave 😂 great content it shows how different we are. Keep up with the good work.

[Kescy.]

4:59 is a strange one and also the pocket money one
....cultures are quite different.

[modelasimms]

This is such an interesting topic, our culture is different...pocket money hmm that’s not weird it depends on the parent if they have to give you they will if they don’t have 🤷‍♀️

[Tradesman]

Your content is excellent and You present in a most accomodating way. I left Germany 36 years ago and lived overseas. 3 years ago I returned with my nigerian wife and two beautiful children to show them my country and give them good schooling. It was a step I regret very much. This country has lost its way and values. Kids (and manny parents too) are completely messed up and the liberties they have did not exist whenn I left . I was brought up pretty much as You describe education in your country. Great how well You have integrated. I know, many have a hard time to fit in and racism does exist. You might not see it much in Berlin or Hamburg but once you get to the smaller towns and areas you can feel it. We will not stay and I say this as a native of this country. Good Luck and keep Your channel interesting.

[carolynscouch]

I know exactly what you are talking about, even the tone they say it in may appear that they are upset, but they aren't. Very nice. Much continued success!

[NaomiBlackysFamilyLifestyle]

My dear you just wrapped up everything 👍🏼😍I can relate, I know what you really mean, I can relate very well different cultures 🙈😂they carry the food back

[missjomo]

Maybe that can happen there, here in Africa its different, you parent will still discipline you regardless of age😃

[hannesmayer]

The thing about pocket money is not that the kids need it, but that they can learn to handle money; and while shopping parents can say "Shut up and buy the treats with your own money.", wich is certainly an bonus... ;=)

That we teach kids this in an age when they learn things like reading or swimming shows the position of money in our society...

[modelasimms]

🤣😂 when you said empty stomach And eat and eat that was hilarious.

[crappiefisher]

proper raised kids do get up for the elderly in public transportation.. sadly proper raised kids seem to be rarer these days, because nowadays many parents seem to be more interested in being their kids best friend instead of a parent and hence many seem to forget to set boundaries... i for sure was raised to get up for older people and i still do it today even tho i am not a youngster anymore. often enough i also tell those ill mannered kids to move their asses, if i see an older person standing, while those lazy kids, who sit all day at school, don't move on their own

also being educated about sex and know how to protect yourself from unwanted pregnancies and STDs is for sure better than being totally clueless, doing it secretly and overpopulate your country, while spreading diseases. there for sure is a reason why germany has a relatively low number of teen pregnancies. simply compare the number of african countries to germany. the same goes for STDs

pocket money is meant to teach children to handle money properly. they learn from an early age: this is the money i have per month/week. if i spend it recklessly i will have to do without money for the rest of the week/month and also: i need to get a job if i want to have more money. at the same time the mindset "i am the parent, i buy your clothes, your food, provide you with a place to live..." does not make any sense at all.of course it is your job to provide for your children. they did not make themselves. you had sex, you got children and it is your job to provide for them. it isn't something you do out of the kindness of your heart. it isn't something a kid should have to be grateful for and thank you on their knees for it. it is just normal to provide for them and it does not mean that a child does not have the right to also be able to spend some money on living, instead of just getting what is necessary to survive

and sorry, but "thanks" never means no. if someone asks you if they should slice your bread and you simply say "Danke" it means nothing. you either say "Nein danke" or "Neee, passt schon" oder "Ja bitte".. i donno what you think you heard

[felixlingelbach]

As a german here are some points. (We are not all the same.)
I was also told to stand up for elderly ppl back in the days and am still doing so (although being 63 now). Of course I told my children the same.
Yes, the children want that stupid pocket money but they didnot get it from me. As you said, why should I? I payed everything anyway.
Kindergeld (children money) from state is definitively not for the children but for their parents.
Sleepover is ok at any age as long they are of same sex. Boyfriend is allowed with 16. But then, I, the father, was proud if my daughters got one. The nowadays boys are cute. I told my daughters that they are also humans and are to handle with care. At 16, that is common sense here I'd say, not at 14. With 16 you get the pill - not earlier.
Privacy in the house: Yes, we use to knock before we come in but then we go in with or without formal permission.
No, nobody brings anything if I invite for a party. This is more common among students because they are all short of money. They call it bottle party.
I enjoyed the nudity beaches. How many days in a year is it warm enough without clothes here? At no one this year it seems. That is why we love the sun.
Thank you for sharing your experience. Very interesting to learn about the kenyan point of view.

[maggaritaoyaro]

at the age of thirteen kids do sleepovers wooow thats soo not our kenyan style hapa ata at our twentiees we still have curfew and you even date secretly

[franzfred]

"Jedes Jahr bekommen 108 von 1.000 Mädchen zwischen 15 und 19 Jahren in Afrika ein Kind - das ist mehr als jede Zehnte.!" Now i have no idea how this can happen. If i belive your video, it must happen per laying hands on heads in Africa.

[CarineFavour]

That sleep over thin my dear I am watching this video like you are next to me and we are having a conversation. When I was going to university first year, my mom followed me with ambrella umbrella because I came home at 7p.m it was dark😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[sinjaja]

You are knackig ... 🤣 Thanks for your insights!

[taminy]

Your videos are so interesting to me, because you talk about a phenomenon I watch “from the other side”! I have a 16-year-old daughter and we live in Munich. We always had African neighbours, colleagues, friend and my daughter school mates.
African parents have a reputation for being incredible strict in Germany. Sometimes to the point of complete idiocy, especially when it comes to their daughters. The Afro-German kids that culturally and in any other way identify as Germans feel they have no other choice than to start to lie to their parents. The plot elaborates schemes to go out with friends, girlfriends, boyfriends, to stay over etc. (And yes, I have been part of such schemes and I’m not sorry!) Don’t get me wrong, they love their parents and they love their respective African culture but they also think their parents are completely nuts!
Afro-German kids often feel very alone!