How did Darcy capture Lizzy's Heart? | Romance in Jane Austen's Pride and Prejudice Analysis

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[cmm]

Because he saved Lydia, for her 😊 That's how he proved both how truly noble a character he possesed, AND how much he loved her.

[PokhrajRoy.]

I thought the key was Darcy listening and working on himself.

[kerriemckinstry-jett]

I think a big part of it isn't just his letter explaining the reality of what happened with Wickham, but also seeing his household staff when he's not there & the housekeeper in particular says he's a great guy. And then, when he shows up and treats her uncle and aunt (who are, gasp, in trade!) well she starts to really see a different side of him.

[Jenable]

I felt the shift when he helped Lydia and svaed her family's reputation. I think that was it more than anything. But it also helped that he was kind to her aunt and uncle.

[sarahnelson]

He also listened to her and took her opinions and feelings seriously enough to change his behavior - like all romances it is a significance fantasy

[sandsoftime]

I think that, as well as the "it's flattering" aspect, knowing about his feelings towards her got her thinking about him in a romantic manner, which she hadn't been.

It's sort of like how he first became attracted to her, in a way — he got one impression by looking at her quickly, then he looked deeper to try to confirm that opinion and kept running into things that he liked. She got one impression of him, the proposal made her more inclined to confirm that opinion, and when she looked for it in his behaviour past that point she kept finding things that she liked.

[tessat]

Though he only sees her "defects" when he first meets her, he comes to like and respect her, even when she turns him down. He feels that her opinions have merit, even when they do not flatter him. He feels that she has misjudged him, but he does not dismiss her assessment of how he presents himself to the world. He humbly acknowledges his own faults and does his best to correct them.

[katherinegraham]

It's been years since I read the book, so take my comment with a grain of salt, but a lot of Lizzie's dislike of Darcy comes from how she sees him to be unfairly critical or judgemental of others, including herself.

Here she is at Pemberley, having not only turned down his proposal in an epically harsh manner, but having believed Wickham's self-serving narrative about Darcy. If Darcy every had a reason to judge her, it would be now. She certainly judges herself for having been so thoroughly played.

Except Darcy doesn't apparently judge her for that. He's gracious enough that it doesn't seem to affect the courtesy he extends to her and her family or even his positive regard for her. He seems to think well of her at a point where she might be tempted not to think well of herself.

In my opinion, that positive regard and respect is really what underpins their eventual relationship. Both of them can be guarded and cynical, so to find someone they truly respect and who respects them is huge. Their meeting at Pemberley is where we first start seeing Darcy's respect for Lizzie. It feels so surprising after all these two have been through, but that's one of the reasons it feels so wonderful.

[alexisf]

Love your reels and vids! Always feel transported back to the Regency era 😊

[bookmouse]

She feel in love when she saw his beautiful home: Pemberley. And the housekeepers praises helped it along.

[edmonddantes]

I can think of several examples of women I have known, that when asked, have given this answer to why they first become interested in their husbands.

[faithfulthecall]

All of the above. Seeing Pemberley definitely had its role, but also she saw the positive changes in his character, and combine that with her gratitude and her feelings became quite the opposite of what they were.

[ohlambert]

I started reading (listening to an audiobook, actually) Pride and Prejudice after watching many of your videos and they really help me to understand what is going on there! English is not my native language, and it always was the main barrier keeping me from reading books in English. and your videos with in-depth analysis of the era REALLY helped me to start and not shy away immediately because now I understand so much more than I would without your explanations of the cultural aspects of Jane Austen's books. it's still challenging because I don't know some words but I get the general understanding and it inspires me to keep on learning. so thank you so very much! ❤

[jahnavivarier]

Wow! I've never realized this before but you explain it so well. I've been focused on the "prejudice" aspect but there are so many other nuances to this book too.

[TomBrzezicki]

When Charlotte Lucas accepts Mr. Collins' offer of marriage, Elizabeth Bennet feels her friend has disgraced herself by having "sacrificed every better feeling to worldly advantage." Yet a few months later, after rejecting Mr. Darcy's proposal, Elizabeth has her first sight of Pemberley, and can't help but entertain a mercenary thought: "[A]t that moment she felt that to be mistress of Pemberley might be something!" Charlotte would have agreed.

[tracys]

Sure, she's thankful for his help in re: Lydia and Wickham, but I think it's a combination of things: his Pemberley estate, him willing to work on himself to do better (for Lizzie), his assistance for Lydia situation, and his effort to endear himself to Lizzie's aunt and uncle, and so on.

[amaliaregno]

I think her understanding of how badly she had misjudged Wickham and Darcy’s tenderness towards his sister were what flipped her. She realised she had made a horrible misjudgement of him and that her own prejudices were twisting her heart away from a decent a genuine man, with genuine (and constant) affection for her …

[marylut]

Yes, why does she marry Mr. Darcy? Lizzy’s feelings are hurt at Mr. Bingley’s ball that Mr. Darcy thinks she is not worth a second look, or to dance with and socially be linked to her. Lizzy is angry with Mr. Darcy for discouraging Mr. Bingley from proposing to her sister Jane. Lizzy is not willing to sacrifice her happiness to marry Mr Collins to keep the estate in her family. She is not willing to overcome the insult that Mr. Darcy says he wants to marry her in spite of her being beneath his social status. Later at Pemberly, she discovers from his servant that he is a good man. Finally she is grateful and feels she owes him for saving her family reputation (thus she and her sisters can attract appropriate status husbands) by finding runaway Lydia, paying his gambling debt, and forcing him to marry Lydia. She must realize he would do anything for her and that is enough to marry him.

[Andichan]

Off topic, but that dress suits you so well!! ❤

[L.Spencer]

Interesting, that didn't come to mind as a reason but it makes sense.