Stop Letting FOMO Control Your Life

Join us today as we delve into the intricate world of FOMO (Fear of Missing Out). In this video, we unpack the complexities behind FOMO, exploring its impact and the quest for its antidote.

We'll navigate the reasons why FOMO affects us and offer strategies to build resilience against its grip. Tune in for a closer look at how to cultivate a sense of contentment and control in a world driven by constant comparison."

▼ Timestamps ▼
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00:08 - What’s the basic problem with FOMO?
02:04 - What FOMO accesses in our brain
04:47 - The problem with technology today
05:35 - How do we fix FOMO?
07:40 - Progressing towards your values
10:15 - The real antidote to FOMO
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[mundabi]

FOMO for the ones who dont know stands for Fear of Missing Out, the feeling of seeing all your friends out partying while youre at home sick

[Xenonia]

It's unreal how much figuring out your own values and goals magically offloads so much pressure from our lives. Everything becomes much simpler once you know who you are and where you're going. It's hard to discover what those things are, but the best step to take is the next step. Meet yourself where you're at, and go meditate already!!!

[hobbiesseriously]

I wasn’t gonna watch this video but I didn’t want to be left out…

[sarcasticserpent]

"I don't feel good. CATS. ha ha ha" is probably the most accurate description of doomscrolling I've ever seen. Thanks Dr.K! Insightful as always :)

[BaseballCards]

I agree with everything EXCEPT for the posting on social media to induce FOMO in others.This can quickly spiral out of control if you don't get enough interactions/likes etc. This is another unhealthy mental trap to fall into. Furthermore, If you are truly content with yourself you don't need to flaunt your experiences or post the things you've achieved on social media.

[laffy]

To cure FOMO, we must double it and give it to the next person

[GretgorPooper]

How I became immune to FOMO in one single step:
- be too broke to keep up with the latest trends and events.

[sallyjrwjrw]

"Contentment isn’t fulfilling your fantasies. Contentment is progress towards your values." Mind blown.

[Danishmastery]

This is one of the most important channels for contributing to a better mental health globally.

[onlyboygroups]

Actually, I find that "doing more of what you want in your life in a small way" doesn't just apply to FOMO, it also applies to big dreams and why people have them (or at least speaking for myself: why I have them). I was and to some extent am "struggling" with two things in my life:
1) I have big dreams (somewhat realistic things like wanting to live in a tiny house and travel the world to completely unrealistic stuff like secretly wanting to be able to use magic)
2) My life used to feel very purposeless

And I realised at some point that that dream of metaphorically or literally being an "adventurer" comes from me wanting to be more adventurous in my daily life. And it doesn't even have to be as "big" as going camping, it can just be: walking a different route to the supermarket than the one I'm already comfortable with. Or next time I'm going out eating not picking my favorite restaurant again, but trying a different one. (learning new skills also works really well for me). And the more I do that the less purposeless my life feels and the less I depend on "that big trip" to magically solve all problems in my life. I'm still gonna follow my dreams (except for the magic I guess, sadge) because traveling the world sounds like fun, but it's not supposed to magically solve all my problems any more.

[what-divb]

this is genuinely wild. i only recently started feeling this and it’s eating me alive. video came at a perfect time

[abhishekmahajan]

This is literally a topic I need to hear about right now. We have a placement season going on in our college and it is so easy to get to a low point seeing so many others grab opportunities you waited all your life for. It is taxing, but Dr. K is my saviour.

[Mr_Lima_Bean]

Oh my god, I figured this out last year. I no longer buy games on impulse. I don't watch trailers anymore and just ask around for fun movies from friends. I actually FEEL like I'm getting to properly know ME. My individuality as a person has become so much more in line with my subconscious, that even my confidence has skyrocketed because this mindset has essentially grounded me into my own shoes.

FOMO is a marketing trick designed to make your mind go blank and consume to fit in. The irony is, you'll chase the endless and souless media consumption life, and then have FOMO for all the wasted years spent on trying to keep up with others.

[samm]

Validating as always doc. This vid came out at a great time as I have just come back from a weekend camping/hiking trip I went on alone in celebration of my 26th birthday. I felt compelled to do it as the reality set in that my dangerously small social circle was too preoccupied with other responsibilities and priorities to celebrate with me. I also struggle with low self worth and, even though I deeply crave quality-time with my loved ones, convinced myself that it would not be worth their time to spend their valuable weekend in discomfort from driving, tent camping, and hiking 30+ miles with me.

To be honest I booked the trip out of spite, almost to prove that I can have a good time on my own. And that's what ended up happening. Hours and hours in nature, along trails with no other humans for miles. I can't remember the last time I felt so connected with myself. While at some points I wondered if it might have been more fun with a companion, I realized at the end of the hike that even for me it was very physically taxing, so I guess I learned that sometimes going on solo adventures offers unparalleled flexibility. No other things to consider; the only limits are your own.

It's only been a week but I definitely sense an improvement. Previously, the only times I would do anything is when invited out with the group, which I was always happy to do but when there was no invite it would wreck my whole weekend. Now I'm slightly more content in my solitude, and find myself more open to exploring new opportunities.

10/10, would recommend 👍

[umiluv]

I very rarely ever had FOMO. I grew up poor so couldn’t afford anything anyway. Learning how to not give a shit really is helpful.

I’ve always just focused on my goals and not really cared much about what other ppl are doing. I’ll always be happy to hear about what they’ve done and might put it on my list of goals if it sounds really cool.

[KingcoleIIV]

1000 years ago I would have still been the recluse I am today. I must be broken, I have never had fomo, I am a little introverted as in I love to stay at home and learn things and build things. I take care of both my elderly parents, I am 40 and it fulfills me to help them because they were not great parents by any metric, but they did the best they were able to do and they showed me love. I got diagnosed with ADHD this year 1 month before I turned 40 back in July of this year, now I have time to slow down, help them and discover who I am.

[karolinak]

It’s so toxic because even when i do cool amazing productive stuff ALL THE TIME it’s never enough. I’ve gotten better with it but i used to be soooo anxious because of FOMO. Now i have this impulse but i control it. And I’ve learned that all the things that I’ve feared I’m missing, i got at the end by being patient

[mrs.quills]

The example with the child makes so much sense to me. I think we often forget though what looks fun on the outside may not be that fun for those involved. There’s a lot of fake smiles and happiness online. They could be struggling with something we know nothing about. I usually get fomo when it’s a nice day out, but I can’t enjoy it in that moment. I live up north so our nice days our limited and they make me feel good.

[davidnotshawty]

I needed this video right now. I am a high school senior and i have a bunch of work and meetings I have to do (FASFA, personal statements, recommendations letters etc.) but I’m deciding to go to this party with my friends because my logic is “I’ll never be this young and beautiful again” . I feel like this is a subtle form of self sabotage and this video came at the perfect time.

[leslieclaire]

I don’t want to induce FOMO in anyone. Just staying focused on my life works well enough.