Dr. Daniel Amen's Simple Tip to Change the Dynamic in any Relationship

One of the most powerful tools Dr. Amen ever discovered to radically change relationship dynamics came from an unlikely source: a penguin named Fat Freddy. In this clip, taken from Dr. Daniel Amen's television special "Raising Mentally Strong Kids", Dr. Amen tells the story of how he learned this incredibly powerful lesson and as a result, became an entirely different type of father.

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[wheaties]

It’s a true business management technique… “catch people doing things right”… and praise them for it.

[MrsRildaReads]

See the good in others. I'm hearing, "Do unto others as you'd have them do unto you, and love one another." Jesus was right. Again. 😮

[confusedwhynot]

Thank you Dr. Amen for this message. This is a very good lesson for my family. I love each one of them. They all have good qualities. The problem is they spend so much time focusing on each other's failures. They say things like you always and you never. It hurts my heart to hear those words and other similar phrases. I hope over time my family can heal from the past.

[maryc]

It’s interesting how focusing on the positive in others helped to heal Jesse’s brain. We really do have the power to heal by focusing on ourselves and our own choices

[zibifranz]

Genius story but it also shows how simple is our mental construction, I will remember your penguin forever! 🙂

[marieem]

My 5 years daughter nailed alone. She tells me how much she loves me only when I do right with her and she’s so natural every time. She teach me to be aware of my behavior&care about myself 😢 I started to suspect me of ADHD : I multitask, I overreact I can’t focus when she’s all around…I am blessed she help me to be aware... Thanks Good

[alcelynpedrique]

Dr. Amen, I wish I would have known of you twenty eight years ago. I admire what you do and your approach to Mind Health. Thanks for what you do!

[maddyruscoe]

Dr Amen you are such a gift to humanity

[barbaramariemua]

Wow this is game changing! I’m going to show it to my teen daughter, maybe we can improve things.

[Atikyne]

"focus on what you want to see more of" -visakanv

[jerkov]

My god what a touching story. It was a touching story within a touching story. Made me reflect on my relationship with my mother (non-existent at best) and with my daughter (amazing) and how I can make them better. Thanks dr. Amen!

[lsmith]

raising mentally strong kids requires mentally strong parents 💪😂 having kids has taught me how wrongfully I was raised lmao I definitely have a conflict seeking mother of my own.. along with a dad who is conflict avoidant 🤣 married over 50yrs and still cant figure it out smh.. if u ever have to live with your parents as an adult, how quickly you will realize the origin of your mental problems 🤯🤬🤣🤣 but this video was very helpful 😇 breaking the cycle is crucial!! so much great psych content on yt! keep up the great work dr Amen! 🙏💗💯 (penguins are also my favorite 😁)

[trudysoole]

This is absolutely BEAUTIFUL! Thank you Dr. Amen!!!

[eftsoulpath]

So simple and yet so powerful period thank you❤

[KimberlyKelly]

Praise is the only thing that teaches love

[sharondoan]

I call this technique of only responding to the good, “ refusing to rise to the bait”. Fisherman will understand. But, it’s not only applicable to fish.

[echoes]

Wow this hits deep. So true. so grateful for the advice/reminder 💜

[tamb]

Thank you for a good reminder of what we need to do!

[lisajane]

So glad I came across this, great advice ❤

[wqrf]

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