'Help! The Guy I Like Has A Girlfriend!'

You’ve met the perfect guy. He’s cute, funny, and he puts a smile on your face whenever he’s near. You two seem to be getting along great...there’s only one problem…his girlfriend.

Hi, I’m Amy North. I’m a relationship coach and love expert. It’s my passion to help single men and women get together. They keyword there is single. But today, I’m going to tell you what to do when the guy you like has a girlfriend.

This is a question I get A LOT. “He seems like he likes me but he has a girlfriend.” “He’s so nice to me but he has a girlfriend.” Do I still have a chance?

A lot of my business is about decoding subtle signals between men and women to figure out if they’re a good match and if they have a future together. This one doesn’t take a lot of investigation. He’s giving you a pretty clear signal that you’re not a good match: he has a girlfriend. No matter how nice he is to you, how flirty he is, he’s DEFINITELY unavailable. There’s nothing you can do to change that.

Before we go any further, we need to establish the scenario you’re in. Now these tips work no matter who you are but I think you have the best chance of getting what you want if this is your situation: you have a crush on this guy, he has a girlfriend, he’s clearly interested in you too but isn’t willing to cross the line. If she saw your text messages she wouldn’t be happy but nothing either of you have done could be considered inappropriate or cheating.

Here’s why this is a good place to be. If you’ve gone beyond that, you’re sleeping together or your talking non stop about your feelings and your connection, then I can’t help you. This guy has proven that he’s willing to cheat on his girlfriend so even if he leaves her for you, there’s no reason not to think he won’t cheat on you next. Plus, you’re already giving him what he wants. He has a girlfriend at home and a lover on the side. Why would he leave her for you?

Going the other way, if you’re interested in him and he’s showing no sign that he feels the same way about you other than common courtesy, you’re in a bad situation. I’d advise you to walk away. There are plenty of guys out there who are right for you. No matter how perfect this guy is, he’s not perfect for you because he has a girlfriend.

But if you’re right in the middle, there are a few things you can do to increase your chances of getting what you want, if only slightly. This video isn’t going to tell you how to steal him away from her and live happily ever after. It’s about positioning yourself as best you can so that if they do break up, he’ll know that you’re interested and he’ll be interested too. I’ll tell you how to flirt without crossing the line and how to keep your heart and your sanity safe in the process.

The good news is that if he’s flirting with you then that’s a sign that his relationship might be on the way out. What can you do to speed the process up? Nothing. And that’s my first tip.

DON’T try to break them up

Don’t even mention his girlfriend or his relationship...there’s just one exception that I’ll cover later. Guys don’t want you to try to compete for your love or prove that you’re better than his girlfriend. Many men flirt with other women because their relationship is difficult and complicated. If you’re angling to break them up then you’re adding complication and difficulty to his life, which is just what he’s been trying to avoid.

That’s why my next tip is… Just be friends

*** More from Amy North: ***

[indhumathiv]

Every time Amy post a video my mind be like... does she reads my mind? 🤔

[reesebrown]

I’m gonna leave him alone and cry about it because I’m not gonna ruin his relationship.

[ayalalandfinest]

Increase your chances of getting what you want:
1. Do nothing
2. Have boundaries
3. Don't get too attached
4. Separate entirely

[acupoftaewithasugaandakookie]

It hurts when you realize that the guy you like already has a girlfriend 🙂

[heathercareyvlogs]

I just found out tonight that the guy I have a huge crush on has a girlfriend!😭💔

[kekesepheka]

I'm in too deep....and I'm finding it hard to walk away... this is really bad. Cause it's going to end in tears

[Doll_ie]

I needed this badly, I've been in heartache for nearly 2 months now, I need help...

[justme]

This is a great note that everything should be in the right time without disrespecting and setting boundaries. Thanks Amy. Godspeed. 👍👍

[sofiabruiz]

"Youve met the perfect guy" proceeds to show jensen ackles, yeah I wish

[shaniavázquez]

I have had a crush on a guy since I met him. I liked him for a year. He’s everything I’ve ever wanted for a boyfriend. I wanted him to be my first kiss, but I found out a few weeks ago a friend of mine and his told me he has a girlfriend that he dated for 2 years. It hurts and I still have a little hope that things might change but I know I must let him go to respect him and his girlfriend. This video helps me to know what to do in my situation. Thank you for your advice 💕

[mialillykerri]

I met this guy at college and walks me to class and talks to me all the time, but I found out today he has girlfriend. I feel so horrible that I’ve been flirting with him but I feel even worse that I still like him. What should I do?

[emilywoollett]

But what about people who only stay with their partner out of pity? I don't feel that's right either.

[nguyenngocmai]

I had such a huge crush on a guy for about more than 1 year. However, when I found out that he had girlfriend recently, I quit :)) It's hard, but I have to accept. I think he's not the right one for me. At least I think it's fate. U guys believe me, when u like someone, u think they are perfect and you're crazy about them. Maybe u think there is nobody else like he or she. But actually, there are plenty of people who are better than your crush. Instead of being so infatuated with your crush, u should study hard, make u more beautiful... When you are attractive, u will meet other people who are suitable for u. I mean u deserve someone better ♥️ So plz let's think positively.

[gizelle]

i really like him but i don’t want to mess up their relationship and take him away. man this sucks.

[cococha]

if the guy you like has a girlfriend, then stop liking him. Don't seduce other people's boyfriend.

[animebarbie]

ugh I messed up already. I told him how I felt and it went south. I just stopped talking to him.

[pavitara]

The thing is he has a girlfriend and he doesn’t know me at all not even a bit ; I feel he’s just a distraction for my mind cause I have a lot to do rn

[abella]

"Dont get too attached" is the scariest advice specially when you're attached already 😢 I want to stop what we are doing now but he makes me happy after I was hurt and cheated from prev relationship. hayssss.. I can't ignore and avoid him coz we both work in the same company and same team. 😢

[irwinnation]

I have never found a video more relatable or accurate

[Lola-zyvs]

I think part of the problem is that people would rather be in a relationship with a person they don't plan to marry, than alone. If people would only date for marriage, then we'd have far less of these situations.
My dad had a girlfriend when he met my mom. He broke up with her because he knew he didn't want to marry her. My parents have been married for 21 years<3