how to stop PEOPLE PLEASING | signs, causes and solutions to take back your power

this is how you stop people pleasing for good so you can FINALLY live for yourself...

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My mission is to help young women everywhere become their BEST SELVES and create their dream life. Self-improvement and self-love transformed my life. It took me from being the shy, insecure, unmotivated girl who was always hurt by men... to being the woman who prioritises herself everyday, achieves the goals on her vision board, takes herself on dates, feels fulfilled when alone, has a newfound confidence AND has power over her dating life. I found my purpose in life after working on myself and I want to help and inspire YOU to do the same.

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Her today's look is giving "that self lover girl" vibessss 💗🎀

[arunimamandal]

Methods to stop people pleasing:
1. Stop anticipating other people's reaction (waste of time and energy)
2. Your validation does not come from others ( no one can have a valid opinion on YOU)
3. Get creative in developing your own authentic personality (uncover layers of personality when no one else is watching)
4. Start practicing exposure therapy towards mediocre interactions (It's not your responsibility to entertain people)
5. When someone asks you to do something you don't want to, SAY NO! (Do not reschedule or overcompensate)
6. CALL PEOPLE OUT and express yourself when they let you down or disappoint you, instead of suppressing your emotions to maintain peace
7. BE ALL ABOUT SELF LOVE (Every step and action you take is building your life for future)
Example: express your opinion when asked where do you wanna eat instead of just going with the flow to please people
8. Get up every morning to actually live and enjoy your life, express your opinions and desires
9. Forgive yourself for your people pleasing tendencies, be kind and gentle to yourself while exploring this new way of living and choose the path that gives more joy to you, because no one is born to please others

[daylight]

This made me realise I did all of this without even knowing how to quit people pleasing and why I have these tendacies, It made me think of all those incidents where I communicated assertively, ensured I was authentic, I said no where I didn't wanna go, stood up for myself, didn't offer advice and help where I wasn't given it, ahh I love u gurl you have no idea>>> All your videos are just top tier!

[ChuIsHealthy]

Hey tam!

This kinda relates to the people pleasing topic, but in the past, I’ve hurt people with my urge to fit in, and honestly I’m still really guilty about it and I will say it makes me a bad friend, but my urge to fit in has made me talk bad about people and engage in conversations I don’t want to engage in, all because I wanted to make them like me. This happened months ago, and I have grown from then, but I can’t forgive myself. I would really like to see a video covering how to forgive myself for mistakes I’ve made, because thinking about it still makes me feel like a terrible person. Thank you so much, I really love your channel and your podcast ❤❤

[milal]

Giiirl, im 17 and im strating to get into my 'villain era'. I love your viedo soo much! and your podcast! I NEED to know if you have a makeup tutorial, I LOVE IT!

[slvyyy]

Tam you are truly a gem to this world and i am so grateful that you are sharing your wisdom. You've helped me grow immensely as a 16 year old and i just wanted to say thank you. much love from nz

[melissaben]

Girl you're slaying in this makeup. You're more of a cool toned person

[mochakitty]

I feel like tam kaur is the only one who gives practical advice

[Yourmomlovesmemore_m]

Use me as the Tam is the best button 👑❤️

[RawanGoodvibes]

OMGG THE QUEEN IS UPGRADING SHE WENT FROM FILMING VIDEOS IN HER ROOM ( Absolutely nothing wrong with that ) TO HAVING HER VEY OWN STUDIOOOO 💝💝💖💖✨ OMGG TAM IM SOOOO HAPPY FOR YOU😭 KEEP GOING GIRL.

AFFIRMATION OF THE DAY : NEVER TOO LAZY FOR GOOD HABITS

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[ainalove]

Hi Tam! Love your videos I would love to see one about how to handle rejection!! Is something that you will go through multiple times in life but sometimes it is also quite hard to overcome. Love you!!

[toxicboi]

She deserves Billions of subscribers ❤❤

[drpepperluvera]

Tell me why my mentor and I were just talking about this today! 😱it’s a sign I need to stop.

[gloomyraindoe]

I really, REALLY don't want to be a people pleaser. More specifically, the type of girl who starts having meltdowns because she's SO nice and does SO much yet no one appreciates it. I had a friend like that and it was exhausting trying to comfort her and make her realise she shouldn't be doing it for people who weren't worth it. Later I realised how selfish that behavious IS- you're doing it for you and then you get resentful of other people when it doesn't work out and yes, nobody asked you to do it. Maybe my perception is biased because that entire relationship completely fucked me up, but yeah. And yes, I do feel stupid for being so fucked up by a friendship with a girl who's still in high school while I'm in college (online friendship through fandom) but here we are. Guess at least now I know that just because you're older than someone it doesn't protect you from their toxicity

[Agi]

Your getting prettier day by day❤❤ lots of love Tam 😊

[hannahkershaw]

I really like the guide because it really breaks it down and really helpful and I think for videos anything to do with how stay consistent. ❤love ya

[siananil]

No cap you deserve "Miss Universe" fr!!!

[thepoeticnurse]

Hey Tam, I really enjoy the videos you make and it helps me to uplift myself slowly but eventually. Lately, I have been feeling that all the bad choices I made before or still making is because due to some past traumatic events
I am sacred to be alone. I am scared to cut off people because then I will be left alone. Therefore I keep up with their toxic behviour.
Can you please make a video on how to let go of this fear of being alone? I want to work through this and get rid of this fear, once and for all.

[TrinityHopkins-bndf]

Hey Tam <3 love your videos so much you put so much effort into each of your videos and its super amazing for your viewers, keep it up love

[PrachitaSaini-gy]

Dude I was just Insecure rn so badly and I was like I am bad and like being a People pleaser and boom u've posted this imma follow this frfr