How to decide if I should GET BACK WITH MY EX | Is taking my ex back a good idea?

How to decide if I should GET BACK WITH MY EX | Is taking my ex back a good idea?

How to decide if I should get back together with my ex and how to know if I should take my ex back! Should I get back together with my ex? Is taking my ex back a good idea? Should I get back together with my ex who hurt me? Should I get back together with my ex who cheated on me? If you’re wondering any of these questions, it’s likely for valid reasons. If you had an ex who betrayed your trust, showed consistent patterns of dishonesty or someone you simply had an overall dysfunctional relationship with, deeply considering whether or not you should take them back is important. If infidelity was involved, being unsure about getting back with an ex who left you for someone else is especially warranted. If you’re wondering how to know if your ex is right for you or if giving your relationship another shot is worth it, this video may help you decide. So, should you give your ex another chance? Let’s find out!

I'm Ash Nord, your truth-bombing fairy godmother for everything love, dating and relationships. With so many idealistic, romanticised Hollywood messages about love out there, my mission is to be an honest, unfiltered source of information for individuals and couples seeking honest relationship advice and love lessons. No games, no manipulation tactics, no teachings about how to trick someone into liking you… so, if that’s what you’re looking for, I’m probably not your girl. My content is geared towards those wanting to learn more about REAL intimacy and togetherness with their partners or future partners. I have a psychological focus (I'm a psychology student) and a genuine passion for understanding how humans relate to and connect with one another. If you're into that type of thing, or would simply like to hear personal stories about my own life experiences and romantic relationships, then stick around! I got you.

DISCLAIMER: Please note everything stated in this video and all videos on my channel are purely my personal opinions and are for entertainment purposes only. I am not a qualified professional and as such my opinions should not be taken as psychological advice.

[NsIX]

Breakups happen for a reason. I had multiple breakups during the relationship with my ex, and each time we got back together it was me trying to pickup the pieces and change things for the better....like I had to conform to everything she wanted me to be/wanted in a guy. She always made it out to be my fault for everything, and never took herself into consideration. That's what you get when dealing with narcissists though. Re-kindling any future relationships won't be something I'd even consider. Both people have to be on the same page in order to make it work, and a lot of times things are one-sided. Just isn't worth it in my opinion, my mom used to say "what will be, will be" and honestly those are words to live by.

[vinnlights]

Me and my ex broke up over a year ago now. I'm with a different man now (he's horribly abusive 😬) but recently I talked to my ex and we both apologized about some things we did to each other.i think in the future we will get back together. It really seems like we both learned a lot and have grown as people. Even if I wanted to, I live in a different state, so we wouldn't be able to try for another year at least. I'm excited to see where life takes us.

[farzane]

You are like amazing and telling us what really is true and right for us , I am really sick of even thinking of getting someone who hurts me back ... thank you so much

[JustinDAMusic]

Watching this video was extremely refreshing. Very mature view points. None of that game playing advice that so many other people offer when talking about relationships and specifically exes.

[kellyungar]

I recently got back with my ex, we were apart for almost 2 months. What is hard about it is he jumped into another relationship with a girl from work. I tell myself he was deflecting and ignoring the hurt. Thank you for your videos...super helpful and insightful.

[Attackatyourownrisk]

Truth. I will 100% take back one person from my past. He was honest, loving, supportive, passionate and funny. He is the only person that I will not put in the X category. An X is considered an X for a reason. Keep it that way. Just saying.

[poolman]

The only way for this to work is accept 100% whatever issues you had previously. It also has to go both ways. People generally do not change. You might have a couple good weeks and then the old problems arise. If you can accept them fully, the good and the bad then it will work. Which is why it generally never works.

[clintoniflagler]

both there is no grey area between truth and false

Never look back while your aspirations of getting back something or someone you've lost is understandably admirable, for the most part it's almost never a good idea 💡 simply because clearly your differences were far too wide to maintain the relationship! Don't ever settle for someone giving you 30 50 and 90% of their Love or affection, because you will inevitably regret it, and all the time that you would have invested into that person, unless there was a child (something good that you can bring from that relationship and experience), will have just been a waste of time, and no one wants that! (If they're not offering 100% of their heart), if they are offering 80 90% of themselves, simply ask yourselve, what are they saving the other 10 or 20% of themselves for or who? It's all just common sense, hope it helps

[cmilam]

Whenever I broke up with a guy. That was it. I figured why waste more time trying to fix and correct. I am not his mama or psychiatrist. I got out before I was emotionally invested. People never change. Life is too short, move on. Another thing, it is not whether you were the right fit, or maybe tried harder. You are good enough; but, not good for each other.

[veryclairely]

It's been 8 months since I broke up with my abusive ex. I'm still feeling extremely attached to him and wanting to see him again. I've tried everything to cope but am struggling. :(

[juliealo]

I’m binge watching your videos. The best advice by far your not even giving advices but giving steps as well. You’re the best! Keep up the good work Ashley 👍🏻😘

[samanthawarnes]

he broke up with me this Tuesday and then the next day wanted to get back together, and i know it’s only been 2 days but something just feels different, i feel like my gut is telling me to leave, but i just want it to go back to how it was last week :( i’m so stressed out from the situation

[GwenMotoGirl]

I needed this. My ex fiancé broke up with me after 3 years together by text, then refused to communicate for 10 months. If a friend did that to me, I’d never take that person back into my life. The breakup was unexpected. I was broken by it. Yet recently, I found myself trying to reunite wit h him. It’s like my brain erased that terrible way he alienated me, and the hurt. One would assume we had a bad relationship, but we didn’t. We’re both good people. He admits he still loves me and misses me, and I feel the same. But I can’t go through this again, and I can’t trust him to not do it again. Thank you for this video. I’m staying focused on my healing. It’s hard. We live in a tiny town and I see him frequently.

[claudiapalomb]

I love when you mention your own personal stories. So we can relate even more.
And i wish i could be as strong as You are, but i will at some point of my personal journey.
I always been like "oh wow, i did that to this person. I'm saying sorry but they are not coming back. I will never do this to them, how dare them"
So i always forgive people and hold on toxic relationships love or friendship, even parents. But why?
So i stopped the video at 5:00 and started thinking, looking inside and though... Ok, i understand now why. And I totally should have my boundaries, too. I'm actually working on the disrespect one. I choose how I can feel disrespected. Sometimes is just vibing / not matching enough.
Idk if i should hold on into that.
Also always mistaken saying "who am I to CHOOSE how someone should be/act?" this is not about how they should or not should be... It's all about (my mind is flowing) who we want to allow in our lives. Let's picture people like.. clothes.

Do we allow ourselves to put stinky, dirty clothes next to ours best suits/dresses, to our absolute FAV sweaters and shirts?
I don't think so 🤔
Some items needs to be thrown away to make the good smell back to our beloved wardrobe, which is our Soul.

Oh darling. I'm introspectiong to heavily thanks to You ❤️💕🐈

[Brainwave_bops]

You are so on point and very direct, I love it. I'm going to make my list right now
PS. For a moment it was a bit difficult to concentrate in the advices with that beautiful cat in the background. 😻

[tnvmfrf]

I still love my ex and we are going on a trip soon, just the 2 of us. Haven’t seen eachother in a while so think this will make or break us.

[larakontakos]

So, this one is tough. It's letting my ex stay in my life as a friend. But he hasn't met my standards as a friend. I've felt devalued every step of the way. I'm not sure if my standards are right, though because now we are friends instead of romantically involved

[robertmutchler]

😢❤❤ girl it makes sense to me..I get it..I get all over the place too. I do self talk out loud 24 7.. its therapy..I get that too.. I can feel the pain and see the grief.. though this post is older.. its powerful.. thank you..I love your channel. I love to reach out to you but im lost on youtube lol new at joining stuff.. and loving it..ill find it to email or whatever we do here lol you rock with your information

[zachhunzeker]

This is so great. If you’re someone desperate for answers thinking about getting back with an ex, this is really a fantastic place to start.

For me it’s been almost two weeks since breaking up with my ex (for the third time). I miss her to death and keep telling myself I’ll change for her, but what really needs to happen is I’ll change for myself, and at the same time begin to evaluate what it is I actually need from a girlfriend. I’m pretty sure something was missing from her end for things to be so rocky - I just never meditated on this exactly. Can’t wait to make my list!

[keepcool]

Should we accept someone back, who soon dated after breakup and told that that " person missed me in her presence"?