BPD vs CPTSD

In this video I'll be breaking down the main similarities and differences between BPD and CPTSD. Additionally, I'll be discussing some ways to help manage both.

0:00 Intro
0:24 What is BPD and CPTSD?
1:19 CPTSD vs PTSD
1:43 Factors That Increase the Likelihood of Having CPTSD
1:59 Similarities Between BPD and CPTSD
3:15 Differences Between BPD and CPTSD
6:21 Key Difference
7:16 Focus On Symptoms You Have
8:14 Go to Therapy
9:29 Outro

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[suffer-prince]

My therapist doesn't like to use labels very much, but I remember talking to her about me potentially having 'Quiet BPD'. She seemed like she understood where I was coming from, but figured it was best to tackle therapy from the perspective of my feelings. However, something she did always mention or say was 'complex trauma' when referring to stuff I went through growing up, and we did a session or two of EDMR. I sort of agree with my therapist; it's better to try and heal in general and be treated as an individual as opposed to a strict categorization, but it's helpful to have the similarities between the two pointed out, and you did a good job highlighting where they differ, ie abandonment fear vs fear of abuse. Thank you for this video!

[LilOnAgain]

Thanks for covering this. I have CPTSD and a lot of it comes from a sibling with BPD.

[leg]

Thats so interesting. Having an official diagnosis of high functioning BPD I always wondered why people say you have attachment issues. Never really understood this as avoidance is key to me. This has opened my eyes, thank you.

[helenchrisriminirand]

I have cptsd and it’s not an easy thing to live with on a daily basis. Certain things can trigger me ie 70s 80s music. I suffered a lot of abuse from my “family” and I still struggle with everything today. But it’s in a much better place now. I also have EUPD amongst other diagnoses

[tetrahexaeder]

I've gotten into therapy again by now. My new therapist actually said that I rather don't have BPD but something trauma disorder related. I don't really have an unstable sense of self, rather a really negative one (e.g. thinking that I am a horrible, shameful person and that there is something very wrong with me).

I agree that you shouldn't overidentify with labels but I also think that the correct diagnosis can make and break therapy.
I had some very wrong approaches in DBT in the past because I have symptoms that don't line up with Classic BPD and therefore I was put in a box where I shouldn't have been put which complicated my negative self-concept even more for a while!

Thanks a lot for declaring the similarities and differences of these two disorders!

[zharawillywonka]

I relate to both. I’ve been getting worse lately, with sh, and si, and I’m researching before I go into an outpatient psych clinic. I’m really sure I’m not supposed to feel this much but I also have gone through a lot of trauma and rejection so it could be either. The only thing that confuses me is that i can be either in my attachments, it depends on the person.

[cassandraquintero]

I also relate to both.. i think i have both..

[kuroyamaevisekai]

Could you do a video on bpd vs ppd? Because I feel like there are actually many symptoms that overlap

[wendi]

I'd love to ask you a question I hope you will answer: doesn't everyone beginning a new relationship change just a little to please a love interest? I dated someone that loved scuba diving. I'd look at his gear, his mags and take diving trips w/him. But I didn't go crazy. I didn't buy expensive gear, I didn't join his scuba club. I just tried to learn a little about scuba. The ocean shots in his mags were breathtaking! My husband loved classical music and never liked rock. I learned about classical from him, we attended symphonies, acquired a nice music library. I just wanted to be agreeable. To this day I enjoy classical music. But I never denied MY preference for rock! I went to rock concerts w/other people. Those don't seem like BPD traits to me. I always knew who I was but willingly wanted to not be a diva in a relationship. It could have looked like I'd changed for another person, but I never had, I'd only added new stuff to my own interests because I chose to do it. But I wonder if I'm in denial. Thanks.

[Terra]

I definitely fear the thought of getting close to people and forming relationships and have a negative view about people in general as being untrustworthy but yet I have a fear of being abandoned by those very close to me. So this causes me to only have 4 immediate people in my life. I love them all but sometimes I get so frustrated I don't care if I don't ever see them again so I ghost them, then realize it's not them, its me and I'll feel guilty and then be overly nice 🥴 I've never done any self harm unless tattoos fall into that category

[patricke.]

Hello Kayla! I love you for what you are doing! I could go on and on; But a sincere thank you! You are helping me make sense of things. I admire your courage!
I come to you from the perspective of being the receiving end partner. My wife of 3 years as a personality disorder (but she doesn't know it). I am a digital nomad and my wife is lives in the Philippines. Mental health support is VERY limited there. The culture sees this as taboo and families want to save face. So support is limited and she was never diagnosed. But it is getting clear to me.
I am older then my wife; I have 19 more years of extra experience. I have a unique background. I understand psychology pretty well. My dad suffered from PTSD with no comorbidity. We had years of family therapy but the result of my dad's PTSD is that I can put up boundaries and keep a hard stance on them. I was in 2 long term relationships with psychologists. I was told many times I have strong knowledge on the issues. I think I can help my wife. I love her! BUT...
Basically, 6 months after our marriage we had our first argument (2.5 years ago) It took me months and 2 cycles of invalidation to figure out that this was a serious issue...Not just a regular argument. It took too long and my wife put up all her defensive walls. It didn't help that I accuse her of being close minded to my needs and I put back some of her symptoms in her face.
I only figured out later that she has quiet BPD and it only manifests itself with me. Now that you brought up CPTSD. I get it. It all ties in with the root childhood cause of all of this. There is splitting and we are talking about SERIOUS disassociation symptoms too. I am figuring out that she lost trust in me. There is some fears of abandonment but she wont trust me. It matches up perfectly with CPTSD. She can't discuss my issues. Any attempt of me telling her that we need to talk is countered by saying that I am the source of all the problems. I have my faults. I am willing to work on them. I changed my way of acting so she can understand me. I stopped blaming her. it doesn't help! All I want is to be able to discuss it with her. She is completely closed off. When we try to talk, I can see she gets into Zombie mode. There is memory loss (since childhood). Is there a way to get her to hear me out? She can't get over my initial accusations. It seems like she will never forgive me. She is hyper sensitive. I never told her that i think she has BPD and CPTSD. I think this could trigger her even more. I can't go on like this. My boundaries are close to kicking in and I will walk away.

Can you help? I am willing to pay for a consultation

[tipoftheiceberg]

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[yzzy]

Lol collect them all. I have both. 🙃🙃🥲