This is Why They Are Giving You the Silent Treatment

In this video, I’m going to talk about This is Why They Are Giving You the Silent Treatment

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[PoisonelleMisty]

I personally never understood people who give the silent treatment. I never give the silent treatment to people because I believe it's a cruel and coward way to hurt someone and is a form of emotional abuse. I would rather talk and address the issue than being passive-aggressive.

[rhonnieminnie]

Some people know the silent treatment is painful and use it as a weapon. regardless of attachment style, it is abuse when done intentionally.

[xXFallM]

The silent treatment and taking space are two very different things. One is used to calm down, process, and collect your thoughts. While the other is used as a form of punishment.

[blackwidow]

Fearful avoidants are notorious for this. They don't have the skills to communicate and many times will stay silent for fear of rejection. Their fear of rejection is not limited to romantic relationships it can affect every aspect of their life, including family and friends. Some believe if they ignore the "problem" long enough it will simply go away. The sad part is they miss out on so many opportunities life has to offer.

[howtosober]

I just love what Matthew Hussey says: "I understand you have your reasons, but I have my reality. And what I'M interested in is my reality." Honestly, does a person's reasons for doing something even matter if it doesn't change how you experience them??

[ecat]

The silent treatment in an ongoing way is absolutely not healthy conflict resolution. Don’t put up with it, feel free to walk away from people that do this.

[WMA]

Someone gave me the silent treatment since October 2022. I deeply hurts and causes emotional stress, and self blame. My heart was broken. Im not a vindictive person. Im tender hearted. Ive had a very hard time healing from this. It has affected my self esteem, self confidence and caused me to doubt my capabilities, talents, special qualities. I know somewhere deep down I'm a unique and special person. Now I have fear that no one will ever want me. This has taken my smile and laughter away. I never thought that someone could do this and cause me so much pain. Shame, shame on them

[cedes]

It's the disrespect for me... I'm sorry I have compassion for them... from a distance✌🏽

[paulinawisniewska]

Silent treatment feels so cruel especially when it goes for weeks and even months like in my case. Thank you for this video. ❤️

[Kingmindset]

The Slient treatment is immature, please cut off someone that does this to you. It's toxic

[brittanynorrod]

I don’t agree that people should give people the silent treatment because it hurts The person‘s feelings. Communication is very important because if you can’t work things out with people it’s going to be complicated and frustrating. I’ve been a victim of the silent treatment And it’s very uncomfortable

[ShrimpPerr]

The timing on your video is almost divine. Thank you.

[Suzu]

I've never given anyone the silent treatment but have been subjected to it too often....it did a lot of

[amandac]

Yes please I desperately need part 2 of this video ASAP I’ve been struggling with this for years I can’t take it anymore—it’s so triggering makes it hard to do anything in life it’s so depressing ans the worst part is not knowing if they’re doing it to deliberately manipulate me or Bc they need more kindness compassion and understanding and help with their feelings and also feeling so hurt Bc your needs are being neglected and it’s so hard if you said the wrong this struggles with guilt shame blame like you deserve it and it’s your fault and you feel like you have to fix things —or do they just not care or are they trying to control you it makes you feel so diminished and worthless and pathetic to be like writing somebody who doesn’t care enough to give you 10 minutes of their time or attention and you spend all your time and energy and attention trying to get them to talk to you it’s a living hell and is the most depressing and worse painful experience I think that a human can go through at least in my life and it’s been ruining my life so I really need help getting out of this … been using PDS for 7months and still havnt figured it out :(

[sarahgardiner]

Why didn’t I discover this channel sooner!! So helpful and every video has helped me get one step closer to the progress I need 🙌

[globelights]

Please explain a bit more about how to tell the difference if someone is giving silent treatment because of their fearful/avoidant attachment or because of narcissistic manipulation.

[eurekaelephant]

Hm. All those reasons mentioned in the first half, might apply, except for one thing. The person giving the silent treatment is perfectly capable of expressing to the other their intent. "I dont know what I can say that wont make it worse, " "i need a few days, and I'll be back, " etc. BUT THEY DONT. Instead, they blatantly and selfishly ignore the pleas from other person - a person they are meant to love. Lets face it. Silent treatment is also a classic domestic violence technique. No amount of communication training will fix this. Its a power issue, a control issue, and the person dishing it out needs rehabilitation. If this is habitually happening to you, its emotional abuse, quite devastating and unhealthy for you to be around this long term. It will steal your peace of mind, and challenge your sanity. Please put up strong boundaries, dont take their sh*t, and put yourself first, day by day, step by step. You got this! You are not alone! There is a better person out there waiting, whom you will love just as much, and they will respect you!

[MarcillaSmith]

Dr. Gibson, it is such a joy to learn this valuable information you share, and it's furthermore a joy to watch as you grow as a Youtuber! Over the past few years, it's obvious you already had so much knowledge to share. Along the way, you've been learning how to share it better through the platform, and that in and of itself is such a lesson in authenticity, humility, believing in yourself, and showing up for your dream. You keep improving the quality of your content, and your hard work really shows. You are an amazing person doing amazing things for the world <3

Oh yeah, and this is a question I've struggled with, so having this information brings relief to me. Thank you!

[mirelladlima]

Very useful content on silent treatment and stonewalling and the real underlying reasons for this type of behavior which damages a relationship for lack of responsiveness from the other partner. Tks for such valuable content 🤗🙏

[lauralemur]

A former friend did this to me until I reached out to them. This was online and they would talk to everyone else in the chat except for me. So I feel she was doing it to manipulate me.