Advice To Someone Going Through Divorce | Dr. Omar Suleiman | Ask Me Anything

#divorce #islam #muslim

Disclaimer: This is not a substitute for one-on-one counseling. But many questions I've received are from sincere brothers and sisters navigating divorce. This is some advice that I hope is beneficial as they trek through very difficult waters.

[khadijafatima]

“O Allah, I hope for Your mercy. Do not leave me to myself even for a blink of an eye. Correct all of my affairs for me. There is none worthy of worship except You.”

[nsullivan]

Always remember Allah azzawajal will always give you something better. Alhamdulillah

Assalamu’alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuhu Mashallah brother Sh. Suleiman you’re such a blessing to our shared Umma and to humanity! I recently went through a divorce after 19 years of marriage and 4 children, the kind of divorce that had to happen due to safety reasons. It has been extremely difficult, however Alhamdulillah due to the fact that I have been holding tight to the rope of Allah and the Quran, Alhamdulillah. I would never have chosen divorce if I had a choice. This is the first time I heard any Imam talk about divorce with so much hikma and kindness, it literally made me cry. I needed to hear this. Jazaakumullah Khairan May Allah Tallah continue to bless you and your family fee dunya Wal aahirah Ameen.

[putocuchinta]

Ya Allah, my soul hurts after this divorce, but I know Allah is the ultimate, best planner. Alhamdulillah.

[MSAMSAMSAMSA]

BarakAllah fik, thank you for the reminder.
Gem for me : 'The other person may be more invested in the marriage. Don't play with their life like that. '

[FarhaFarooq]

It's truly remarkable the amount of truth and peace you feel when listening to Dr. Omar Suleiman. He upholds great sincerity and pureness which you can hear from his heart as he speaks. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and for teaching it to the ummah. We all are grateful for it. May Allah continue to bless and reward you Ameen🤲🏼

[lailamohamed]

Thank you Dr. Omar., I’ve helped me fall in love with our Deen, they way you teach Allah’s words is beyond beautiful. You made me not to fear Allah but to love him. ; for that I’ll never be able to thank you. May Allah continue to bless and protect you and those whom you love ❤️.

[k.c]

Brother Omar Suleiman It's the kindness in your soul and the qualities of our beloved Prophet Muhammad S.A.W I see everytime you speak or are interacting with someone 💚

[ShinyStar-nw]

Masha Allah, Sheikh Omar, you are a truly inspiring scholar who has provided guidance and knowledge to me and countless others, enabling us to learn and deepen our connection with our faith.

[rayaanshafi]

Right after seeing the title of this video, I was expecting that you will say something on taqwa ... and alhamdullillah (and not surprisingly) you did! Jazakumullahu khayran, Shaykh.

The command to have taqwa in Surah At-Talaq reminds me of another verse where Allah said, "Satan threatens you with poverty and orders you to immorality (fahsha) - while Allah promises you forgiveness from Him and bounty. And Allah is All-Encompassing, All-Knowing" (2:268).

The connection that I see here is that, during or after a divorce, people tend to operate according to a "loss" frame of mind. They think that getting divorced may result in a reduction in their food, income, support, rizq, etc. (and this may then compel them into making an unethical decision).

So, in Surah At-Talaq, Allah reverses this loss mindset into a gain mindset by telling us about the miraculous gains that can occur for the people who are God-conscious: Allah will make a way out for them, He will make everything easier for them, and He will provide them with aid and rizq from unexpected places.

I shared more related thoughts on this idea in the following post on QuranReflect:

[haleemanaseer]

Jazakallah khair brother to give small talk on this topic. May Allah protect us from shatan’s wispers and guide us to the right path. 🙂

[openyoureyes]

Salam Alaykum Brothers & Sister. I am going through such a test that some days I feel like I can't take it anymore. Please make dua for me and my family. I love my wife and children don't want to lose them. The Shaytan is trying to break my life. If you reading this please make do for me & my family.

[Keepcool]

Lovely instructive important khotba full of lessons May Allah grant you paradise

[kamiksss]

‏السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته
Please keep me in your duaas, as I just found out my husband (who I’m sponsoring) has gotten married back home. He was planning on divorcing me as soon as he got his conditions removed from his greencard… now I am going through a fraudulent marriage claim through immigration… it’s depressing on so many levels, I was a strong proponent for those who come to the USA legally and how hard it is for people to get here legally… now I’m dealing with this, and for clarification I’m not opposed to plural marriage, but I’m definitely opposed to abusing the system and using people

[lr]

I’m going through the same thing. The circumstances changed my whole life in a matter of weeks.My husband loved me dearly but we had our fights we also have kids together but he wants to go ahead without thinking anything about my kids.

[bettinawilson]

Assalamu Alaikum to all...choukran to you brother and Imam Omar for this message it is definitely needed.
Divorce 😢 often an ugly situation speak process. I believe that if two adults have a clear and honest mind and respect for themselves and their partner and families, they can make something positive with these shuddered pieces. IN'SHALLAH
These were their partners wives husband's mothers and fathers of their children, and they still have a responsibility. But if the marriage was not healthy, how can the challenge of a divorce be healthy? Hate and arguing and bad talk are not basics of Islam..what do you children see..what you want them to see? Two respectable adults with dignity and respect for each other and all parties involved

[MohmmadSamii]

May Allah swt reward you for your hard work.

[LNKRz]

I believe marriage is about mutual commitment, where both partners actively work together, recognizing that their differences are strengths, not weaknesses. Men and women bring unique qualities to a relationship, and embracing these differences enriches their bond. While divorce might seem negative on the surface, it can be a profound opportunity for growth and reflection. It offers a chance to pause, evaluate, and consider how things could be done better moving forward.

May Allah makes us a stronger Ummah

[UmmI]

Shaykh Omar jazakallah Khair for addressing this important topic. I have been looking for a book on divorce that explains how to tackle and handle it with Ihsan. Please can you write a book/let about this.

[Verisimilitude_]

Thankyou shaykh Omar Suleiman jazak allahu Khairan.