Just kicked the BF to the curb. He just absolutely started going off ( real delusional things too 😳) i live at my own home and he has his own. Anyway, It was way worse than anything out of him before. Idk, and im not trying to figure out why anymore. It could be anything. Im done. Thank you doctor Carter.
keariewashburn
This is my narc sister. Blocked for 5 months. Never opening that door again. The "sister" I've wished for for 66 years does not and will never exist. She bullies me always.... I'm so done.
kerribarclay
They are the opposite of positive or love
cdgross
ALWAYS Consider the source!!
THEIR campaigns are simply reflections of themselves and are NOT based in reality!
Know that Healthy people and environments are always your BEST option!
Stay Healthy!
BaraSchmidt
I'm .never playing that role. I moved out this morning !!! Thank GOD.🎉🎉🎉
vickipacheco
This reminder came at the perfect time.
ThLizander
My narcissist lumped all these together in a single encounter one day. I didn't respond. I'm here to learn their general MO as a form of self defense and a good offense. It's working!
KelleyChance-kmjb
I'm not playing that roll, exactly!💜
sandrahbradley
I’ve been playing that role for 22 years. I wish I had understood this many years ago. I’m working my way out!
kristirose
The ones that got thrown at me by my now narcissistic DIL was “You don’t know your son”, and when I’d say “Yes, I do. I raised him” she would say in her demon voice, “Well you did a shitty job.” He would sit there like a scolded child with his head hanging down and let her verbally abuse me. We don’t see him, and he’s blocked me and his 3 sisters. His brothers haven’t been blocked, but he doesn’t contact them except to wish 2 of them a happy birthday. I pray that one day he’ll get tired of being controlled and want a relationship with his family. We are a close family, and he was a favorite sibling among his brothers & sisters. We miss him.
msjillybob
So true. Do not play their game of devaluing. Only people I see he doesn’t, devalue are our children or anyone he desires to keep himself in good standing to manipulate against me. Why should we care what someone so sick, thinks or says or those who listen to the lies.
conniedavis
Thank you, Dr. Carter, I really hope you know that I really do appreciate everything you do to help my family and I.
SylviaPacheco-vg
"IGNORE" is a common tool employed by a narcissist.
Writing on messageboards taught me about that. So, of course, I pointed out this aspect:
"IGNORE is the root of ignorance"
cc. 2004
carefulcarpenter
Thank-you, Dr. Carter. My mother said a lot of hurtful things including I was lazy and if I had a brain it would be lonesome. Then came a 41 marriage to a malignant narcissist. I'm divorced now, yet the emotional pain is difficult to heal from because of being told some awful things including I was beneath him and he didn't see me as a person but rather an object. Cruel.
JackieFerrell-fo
My father repeatedly told me growing up that I was an imbecile and a soap and a chat !
In Australian slang a soap is someone who’s dirty and a chat is someone who is unkept and unclean.
And I was a bludger that’s someone who won’t lift their weight and I was ungrateful.
Imagine chronically placing those labels on a child!
That’s what I grew up with .
Thankfully I’m in no further contact with him and his chronically critical voice is slowly becoming dimmer in my thoughts but it’s taking time 🙄
LPVP
Then they say YOU ARE gaslighting THEM when you finally stand up for yourself. CRAZY
micdyung
Commenting for the algo: Thank you for all the videos and information you've put out. I've been around narcissists all my life, and had finally just walked away from all of them, and life was peaceful for a while. Then I got a job where the asst manager is one, and I've stood my ground for the last 1.5 years while he's been exposing himself. He's tried all the gaslighting, and the dragging my reputation through the mud, the side comments, etc. I'm just quietly standing my ground and not giving him ammo to use against me. I retire in 6 months, and I'm determined to stand my ground until then. It's hard, very hard, but I'm determined because I know what I'm dealing with. Thank you for helping me understand it so much better than I used to.
circesgrandmainomaha
I played “the flunky” to see if it would break down walls. No breakdown occurs but they become more empowered in their abusive personae. I’m sure this gets worse as the narcissist will insist on squashing you like a bug. Their biggest fear is becoming insignificant. That fear is because it is effective. It is the position to take. Not fighting, not arguing, not pleading, just lead your own life without their influence. Let them be insignificant, it will give you a path out. Narcissists are a total loss.
Mrt
The nark may not vocalize such attitudes (they want to be “polite“) but they sure do treat you this way as a way of policy.
BrettELothrop
My narc sister when she is ripping off my sick elderly parents.."ive got expensive tastes, you dont care what you look like!"..😮
