Brutally Honest Advice For Men Doubting Their Relationship...

I help hard-working men deepen their relationship, ensure a secure connection and live passionately with their woman without ever sacrificing their own goals.

[killjaqular]

Took me way too long to understand that; Relationships are not found, they are built.

[ethanbagley]

I've been cheated on before and am in a very good relationship right now. I had many insecurities and fears about being cheated on after starting this relationship and can honestly say one thing. You won't be happy unless you swallow your pride and be vulnerable about these things with your partner. My girlfriend was very understanding and anyone who doesn't understand isn't worth your time.

[carolinareaper]

As a woman and a psychologist neuroscientist- thank you. Guys - please drop red pill and all coaches - listen to this wise advice 🥺 he knows !

[StevoSparta-ttvu]

Doubts really stem from within ourselves. It is involuntary self sabatoge in many cases

[RashaunMichelle]

I used to be so amazed that he would rather sit around and come up with delusions that I was cheating instead of putting effort into the relationship by making decisions. I was loyal.

[fenna]

I know this video isn't made for me but the situation you're describing is very similar to my own. The feeling of playing a character and the (sometimes irrational) doubts hit close to home. I have been in a 5 year relationship as well and you've given me a lot to think about. You're selling yourself short by trying to reach only men.

[selftalkbodysoul]

I am a woman, and I'm crying watching this video. Thank you.

[None_of_your_business]

4:47 i think the most important thing here is not only onowing what you want in the partner, but that in order to achieve this you must know who you are, what your boundaries are and what you want for yourself

[leonardaarendonk]

Hey man I want to thank you very much for this video, because this resonates with me very much. A year ago I broke up with my first girlfriend. She was perfect in many ways and she really loved me and wanted to be with me. But I had these constant anxious doubts and I was overthinking everything. It was really killing me and also the relationship. I tried to talk about it and opening up about it to her, but in the end nothing changed. Finally I decided to break up because I felt like I couldn't do it anymore and I couldn't do this to her either. I felt she deserved better. What you said about the willingness to change struck something in me, because I think, looking back, that I was afraid to change. Afraid to let go of things. Now I wish that I had done more, because I let someone special go.

She has moved on from me and I have been feeling terrible and I have been missing her a lot. I feel like I have failed and I let something precious go just because I didnt have the courage to change. Its hard to move on from this and accept the way things have gone.

I'm glad I saw this video. It made me realise that I really need to put more work into self improvement and to take more responsibility of my own shit.

[Borii]

A video I wish my ex would watch and understand. But I don’t think he’ll ever understand. I didn’t want much but for him to better himself, and work on himself, while I work on myself so that our relationship could flourish better. But I’m the bad guy. I had to leave. And I’m so heartbroken. Thank you for a video like this.

[Jobitsc]

I'm a divorced guy that is now in a new great relationship with the best girl I could ever imagine besides me, so I don't even care about what you say. I know you are right. This atmosphere is so awesome!

[RMDW]

I’m trying to overcome this issue with myself of not taking the whole responsibility of my actions. I’m always trying to say to my woman that I’ve been doing more, and watching this video I came to the conclusion that, I didn’t do anything, I was a great man to her a few months ago and I’ve changed, for the worse…
Thanks, really thankful for your videos.

[Lady_Ra]

Please set up a site containing single men willing to do this work looking for partners. We women are waiting for you.

[rachelnidhugain]

Please share this for women!!! We need healthy communication together, to hear each other speak honestly about our fears so we can understand truly and move forward.

[heroineofthestory]

I know this video is geared towards men, but I see the wisdom in it for us ladies as well. It has good insights into the man's pov.

I wish more women's life advice videos were as concise as this video.

[circadian_sleep]

Overthinking, anxiety, fear of past events and even the no contact I feel like I self sabotaged my relationship of 4 years after the break up.. it’s been a weird 6 months she already told me she’s done with this relationship but I think can’t stop thinking about how much I want to fix it

[drlawrencemayo]

At 36years old I need to take a decision to continue down this road or to choose anther person. The looks are not all, character is key and commitment. Its hard to find this at my age

[BBartistic]

MEN READ THIS:

1st. You'll ask yourself "is shes the one?" so many times especially in a long term relationship and how the relshp progresses youll ask yourself even more. These insecurities and doubts will get louder. This situation is so important bc a lot of men jump into the conclusion of "oh if I have doubts and insecurities then I must not love her".
This is not necessarily true. Most of the time there is something else happening. Some kind of fear kreeps inside and wants its resolution.
If she makes you a better person, if shes loyal, if you completely trust her etc then you might sit down first with yourself then with her and let her now about your insecurities, fears etc..

Dont avoid hard conversations with her because if you decide to just breakup w/ her without a fight for it then she might be the one that run away and you'll figure it out 5 years when all be too late.

2nd. You may compare the relshp with how it was in the beginning. This is not fair at all. No relshp will ever stay in its honeymoon phase and nothing will ever beat that period of your relshp.

Disclaimer:
I was in a long term relsh with a guy I thought Ill marry. We were literaly a soulmates. He broke the relsh bc of fear of getting married. He cowardly ended it without wanting to work on it. He never initiated hard and emotional conversations.
Guys dont be like my ex. I know one day he'll regret everything. When that happens Ill reply on this comment and let yall know 😅.

[apBUS_amp_K]

I am so happy I found this channel. I screwed up my first ever relationship of 2 years bc I wasn't able to tell her what concerns me and what I really want to do with my life and how it compares with her plans. I just tried to do my best to make her happy, even if long term it was meant to contradict my goals. By the time I understood that not talking about problems (either my or our relationship problems) and not asking for support will not play out, I've already lost the interest in her... I started to not listen to her and argue much more, stopped appreciating the time together.
I kinda blindsided her when I asked to break up first time, but we decided to try and work it out. But ultimately when we had to go long distance for a month, I realised that my life alone is... not worse at all. I actually forgot when she was returning. That moment I understood that I'll only hurt her more if I pretend to care.

Still kinda sad that I wasn't able to communicate clearly. Sometimes I wish I could return that all, since I felt like it was bound to be a fruitful relationship. But I know I most likely won't reignite the feelings in myself to put in the effort again, even if I feel loved... And the push-pull dynamic, which is bound to settle in case this backfires, seems so abhorrent to me that I don't want to try. It's been enough pain for her and me already. Guess, I just have to learn from that experience and move on (and let her move on gracefully)

For the month that passed since I'd pushed her, I thought a lot about what I did wrong. And your videos resonate a lot with my thoughts rn. They are tons better than most advice found online. And don't get me started on blackredwhateverpill youtubers. You're out of their league. Keep it up man, keep it up.

[alejandrobeltran]

The algorithm really being a homie with this one.
Thank you for this paramount video for me brother I wish for nothing but more success for this channel,

Thank you for being real. I felt like I had a one on one with someone my age.