What to Text Him When He Bails On You (Send This Text To Him When He Flakes On You!)

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There are few feelings that compare to the one you get when the guy you’re into bails on you. On one hand you want to be the cool, understanding chick that’s “totally okay” with him cancelling on you. On the other, you want to let him know that you’re upset with him, even if his reason for flaking is completely legitimate.

The big question here is, what do you text him when this happens? You may not realize it, but this is a make or break situation.

Before I share the texts you should be sending your guy, I want to hear your thoughts. If a guy bails on you, should you let him know you’re upset? For those of you who can see the little banner pop out here, just click to vote!

For those of you don’t know me, my name is Amy North, and I’m a relationship coach from the west coast of Canada, and I work with women to help then find and lock down the love they want and deserve. The reason I want to teach you what to text men who bail on you is because even though this doesn’t seem like a big deal, the message you send him will have a huge impact on whether or not he wants to see you again in the future.

Okay, now imagine this.

He replies to your text with a short, “Not a problem, you’re a good friend. Let’s catch up this weekend when you’re free. Drive safe!”

Reading this kind of message will have you swooning, and wishing you could be spending your night with him.

OR, he replied to your text saying, “Are you kidding me? That’s cool.”

The next thing you’ll want to do is to compose a positive text message that lets him know it’s fine that he can’t make it tonight – again, this is easier said than done, especially when you’re feeling disappointed.
So, why do you want him to think that you’re okay with him bailing? Well, there are two reasons.

The first is that it shows him you have other things going on in your life, so him not being able to see you isn’t that big a deal. Instead, you’ll happily carry on without him.

The second reason is that it shows him you’re level-headed and understanding. The kind of person who gets that sometimes life gets in the way of other plans, and that’s totally cool. Unlike the type of chick who loses her mind when things don’t go according to plan, because no man wants to be with someone like that! He’ll not only appreciate how mature you’re being about the situation, but even if he feels his reasons for bailing are justified, deep down inside he knows that there’s still a chance you’ll get upset or be angry with him. When you take away this sort of stress or fear by again, letting him know that you’re okay with him bailing, it will make him WANT TO see you again!

Now, as for the actual message you’ll be sending him when it bails, it’s composed of three parts.

The first part lets him know that it’s fine he’s cancelling on you; the second part tells him you’re busy for the next few days, and the third part wishes him well.

So then, when you text him after he bails on you, your message should read something along the lines of:

“Hey, that’s okay, I understand you’re busy. I also have a lot going on these next few days, but if you want to catch up this weekend I’m available. I hope you have a good night!”

If he gives you a specific reason for not being able to see you, then you can incorporate it into your message. For this example, let’s say he tells you he can’t make it because he forgot he about a surprise party for his uncle. Here you’d say:

“No worries! I hope the party goes well. I have a lot going on this week, but maybe we can catch up in a few days. Have a great night!”

Well ladies, until next time take care and good luck!
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Bail on me once and it will be the last!👸🏼 People of good character and good intentions don't just bail on the girl they're trying to impress.

frenchvanilla
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A guy flaked on me a few days ago. We were supposed to meet at 8pm, and he doesn’t text me until 11pm to let me know that he had a “crazy long day at work 😔”. There was no “sorry” anywhere to be seen. No one with a day job has to work that late, and if he was considerate, he could have texted earlier to let me know. So, I ghosted him.

carebearscooby
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Unless he is picking up a phone & explaining why he’s canceling last minute, boy.. bye. This video keeps stressing what to do if he wants to see you again, what about how you feel? Maybe YOU don’t want to see him again,

heather
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actually you shouldn’t say “ let’s catch up later this week” as a reply to their cancellation. they don’t deserve that. just say “no worries! hope you feel better or get things figured out” you need to let the guy contact you to make another date. if he doesn’t then he saves you from wasting your time

phoenixfire
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These only work if he actually cares about you.
If he doesn’t- it’s better to just ghost him because it will become a cycle.

Yikkoofficial
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I think a situation like this would be a good opportunity to do some self awarenss and monitor your mental reactions to this by becoming aware of your emotions and thoughts. Situations like this can bring up subconscious fears of not being good enough/abandonment etc that we all have in different degrees! And basically the bail situation can turn out to be the opportunity for some cornerstone self development work! Lol 😄✌

stephaniekojec
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This advice is terrible! You're setting women up to settle for poor treatment.

Kate-Does
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If he just bails without a call or text then he deserves nothing but my wrath. It’s rude.

shondalegalindo
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Getting bailed on is the worst feeling & I've had it happen to me twice recently.. thanks for the video Amy ❤

abisantos
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I usually write "that's fine" and then don't text thereafter until they do, and after two flakes in a row, I tell them to get lost

lavayuki
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When a guy cancels on me. No second chances.

gripitl
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I can attract guys. but can't keep them interested for long time & make them fall in love with me ( specially it's then when I start to like or feel for them) . I'm little shy & reserved type girl.. I can't get exciting all the time.. it's my nature.. what should I do?? sometime i feel like love is not for me.😭 plz help

shrijabhattacharya
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Perfect day to see this, as I am in same situation today..

tbiswas
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the reason it works is because a postive message shows INDIFFERENCE

and an angry one or passive aggressive or even no message shows YOU'RE ATTACHED TO HIM AND HE HAS YOU BY THE STRINGS.

remember that next time u want to call him off: it will do THE OPPOSITE of what u want🤣🤣🤣🤣

lolabrini
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F that!!! Tell him he’s a flake and let him go!!! Bye Boy!!

DIAMONDGIRL
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He bailed 4x in a row due to family occasions but I see he likes to hang out with a drinking group here and there so I'm moving on.

themonicameza
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The last bit of advice was good, honest, upfront, but the first advice made me feel uncomfortable. Lying and pretending you have a super busy, exciting life is part of the games people play. It's fine to play it cool, but I don't see what is healthy about lying because people aren't prizes to be won. Dating isn't a game. It's the annoying process of getting to know somebody well enough to see if they are compatible with unique you.

perpetuallylove
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What if you text him: "It's okay I understand you can't make it today. I've got a bit on tomorrow, so maybe we can meet again in a few days." And then he says, "How about next Tuesday..." but you don't really feel like replying or seeing them again because bailing is a rubbish behaviour. Haha...

angellinegirl
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Awesome video, Amy! Compassion is important but he needs to know you're not a doormat. Interesting!

JessicaBoss
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Hey Amy ! Can you pleaseeee make a video about how to get a guy you rejected after your first date back ?

jailenelopez