Why You Can’t Make Friends

[jtechsource]

lonely people don't tolerate fake people lonely people are the most genuine people

[veronice_ronnie]

"If you meet a loner, no matter what they tell you, it's not because they enjoy solitude. It's because they have tried to blend into the world before, and people continue to disappoint them." -Jodi Picoult

[bibilym]

It’s because you haven’t met people you genuinely vibe with. We’re not gonna like or enjoy everyone’s company, but when you find the right people…you make and keep friends

[TheJkr]

This is such a black and white view. It also sounds like he’s projecting his experience.

[josuelopez]

In my case totally the opposite man, I'm always producing value to others but never got it back, so I've got to a point where I just feel tired and that's why I have separated from everyone

[desireeadjei]

People say "be yourself" but will look or talk down upon you when they don't know you and make you feel left out. This happened to me my whole life.

[TheSitaphul]

It's incredible how many narcissists I know who have wide communities of "friends, " and they're terrible people and don't provide anything to anyone. So sad that this is what we've internalized, that your worth in your circles is transactional and performative. You have the right to show in friendships when you don't feel the best, and for people to show up for you.

[misswill]

I think a lot of people don’t have friends because they don’t want fake friends. Anyone can have friends. It’s not hard to make a friend. It’s hard to find genuine people. People who care about you in return, people who don’t despitefully use you, but pour back into you in a reciprocal way, people who aren’t jealous of you, and people who don’t treat you like crap. Most people would rather cut folks off and be alone than to have to deal with those types of things. I think the love of many is waxing cold and that’s what makes it hard to have friends. What is a friendship without reciprocal love, or with someone using you, or with someone mistreating you, or with someone who wants to do you harm and is double hearted towards you. Lonely people care about the quality of friends they have. They care about their mental health, wellbeing, and peace of mind. Sure they want to be loved too, but not at the expense of those things. So, that’s why I think a lot of today’s lack having friends… because there’s a lack of loving, caring, and real friends.

[samuelrasool]

Hate to say it but this guys advice isn't always the best.

[Jolora]

The cold hard truth is that people like this guy needs constant validation from other people. He isn’t capable of being alone because he is not enough for himself. People who choose to be alone are probably the most wholesome people because they know how to be with themselves without validation from other people. I get hurt a lot more when im with friends or family. When im alone I feel so free.

[ansonlam]

No, that’s not true. People with no friends normally don’t feel they are high valued but opposite! That’s how I feel at least…

[hari]

Nah bro...no company is better than bad company. I would rather be around 2 people who i know will never stab me on my back than having 100 people around me...

[leabianchi]

This is not friendship. This is a bargain. My success = many fake friends. Ok, get it.

[homicidal_duck]

Bro realised he's a bad person and then projected that onto everyone else

[kippykippyphoebe]

This is terrible what h is saying. It’s not like this dear man. People are weird and don’t value genuine people. You need to raise your self esteem. You are worthy . You are good enough. Perhaps those peeps are not worthy or good enough for you! ❤

[ironhammer]

I would rather be lonely than change myself for others.

[kwizmon]

The voice of inexperience. There can be so much more involved.

[Mohamad-mmd]

Having friends has nothing to do with how great you are

There’s a lot of good lonely people out there and a lot of assholes with a big group of friends so yeah

[GP-etrp]

You couldn't be so wrong. Being alone says alot about someone's inner confidence and self worth. Loners dont take bullshit, hang around fake ass people cooped up in these ridiculous social media expectations, and they don't have the energy for drama. As my grandfather said, its about 'high living, simple thinking'.

[anthonyortiz]

The few genuine friends I had in this world either passed away, or moved away. At this point in my life, all I want is peace and quiet.