What is Stonewalling?? The drama when someone does this!

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[FreeSpirit]

When someone gives you the "silent treatment" they are teaching you how to live without them.

[GodHelpMe]

I was best friends with a psychopath.

I always admired how calm he was. Cool and calm. He was a nice guy. Former preacher.

He always drove as fast as he could. Drove in the left lane.

He faked empathy.

He future-faked me all the time.

He betrayed me in the end. After 12 years of friendship.

I now realize that psychopaths want to see you beg. It makes them feel powerful.

He did the same thing to his ex wife. He abandoned her when she was pregnant with their baby.
He refused to help her. I now understand why she despises him so much.

He has no conscience. He lies to everyone. He steals every chance he gets.

If you meet someone who shows little emotion, watch out!

[danieljellers]

I didn't realize that I am so guilty of doing this. Oftentimes I go silent at the moment because I don't know how to effectively communicate: organize my thoughts and articulate my feelings. Thank you, Stephanie, for making me aware of something I need to work on.

[helstonew]

The stonewalling in my last relationship was horrible. It was withholding, lonely, painful. I was in AGONY.

[heartspeaks]

I see this as a form of immaturity as well. Gaslighting, narcissism, passive aggressiveness are all forms of immaturity in my opinion. They lack forms of proper healthy communication skills and resolution skills.

[meenamathew]

The saddest part is that you dont realize it at all when someone is doing this to you. They drive you absolutely nuts with this tactic to a point where you lose it and then they blame the entire situation on you. The worst part? You're so emotionally exhausted and messed up at this point that you actually accept the blame and believe maybe you are the real problem here and not them.

All they had to do was acknowledge your concern, sit down and talk it out as that's all you were asking for but they are such cowards that they'd rather stonewall, gaslight and manipulate you into feeling like absolute garbage. At which point what could've ended with a healthy discussion turns into a heated argument as they keep beating around the bush/avoiding the issue that was brought up. They wait for that moment you lose your patience and snap to pounce on you and blame your temper for the fight..a fight their spineless stonewalling started!

Ughh..I went through this hell for years, it's a vicious cycle that drains you emotionally and exhausts you physically. You spend years of your life feeling like there's something wrong with you and thinking maybe you were the problem all along. You blame yourself and hate yourself and end up apologizing to them while they shouldve been apologizing to you. In the end they play victim and make you the villain. It's hell..sheer hell!

[kirstenwilliams]

One of the four horsemen and a major red flag! I find this completely disrespectful. If someone needs time to cool down before taking, no problem, just let the other person know :) I think it’s important to realise that you can’t make them talk to you. You can make it clear what you want, and if they still don’t respond you have two choices 1. carry on not being able to resolve the issue or 2. you walk away. I cannot tell you how much I’ve learnt from you Stephanie, but thank you so much!

[four-x-trading]

The problem is a lot of hurt people who like to hurt other people want someone to love them but don’t ever think about how toxic they really are they need to fix themselves before ruining other people if they are not relationship material they need to realize that they need to help themselves before hurting others but unfortunately they don’t care and seem to enjoy it

[claudiacastillo]

My ex narc always used to play the victim when there were issues in the relationship. He would tell me “you make me shut down” and then avoid taking responsibility for his actions and for fixing the problem. I used to believe him and blame myself, which is exactly what he wanted. Stonewalling, withholding, silence and blame-shifting were his favorite manipulation tactics. He was so covert.

[strongerbythesecond]

Ghosting is the modern stonewalling. Love your channel!

[BCHODOSH]

Stephanie, being in a relationship with a BPD individual, now my ex, i was given a front row seat to gaslighting, the silent treatment and stonewalling. This is abusive behavior! I tried to communicate with her about how destructive it was to our relationship., but i made no headway at all. She didn't want to hear it, and in time i realized that her defense mechanisms were a wall between us that were not ever coming down. Conflict is a reality in relationships, and if you don't have healthy communication between you and your partner then there is no conflict resolution. A relationship can't survive under those conditions. Thank you for talking about this topic, and the great guidance you provided. As always, enjoyed this video and looking forward to the next one.Be safe and well.

[stuartlobegeier]

Yeah stonewalling, they say, I don't know how to communicate with you, its your fault, you don't listen to me, your attacking me, geez the list goes on. Great work Stephanie. Your so spot on woth your sights.

[confettybetty]

You've helped me realize a lot of I was living and be able to walk away with whatever little dignity I had left after letting that person use me as an emotional toilet.

[lifebeginsat]

This happened to me for 10 months untill I left. It ruined my mental health so much.

[bunnibunni]

I cannot stomach this behaviour, its actually making me want to stay away from my partner. he does it too often.

[youngsey]

Just walk away, it's going to be alright.The healing begins when YOU decide.

[TruthAboutLies]

Not everyone shuts down because they don't know how to handle conflict. When in an abusive relationship, you are told to walk away. And you should. No contact can give you your life back. Often abusers don't want to solve problems. They thrive off conflict. Therefore, not engaging in a discussion with them is best. Then, the abuser accuses the abused of stonewalling.

[elipotter]

What Ihave found even harder is the more covert stuff like: "yes, yes, I agree with you". But then it's distressing and confusing until you eventually realise that is just a tactic and their bad behaviour isn't going to change. In the past, it took me ages to work out I was wasting my time with someone who just had zero interest in any meaningful connection.

[insightdesignusa]

I stonewalled my fragile narcissist because anything I revealed came back to hurt me, no conflict ever got resolved and communication was manipulation.

[kenyanaw.]

Dealing with someone who does the latter (unintentionally)...so much brokeness😔 ...even had me confused and questioning myself🤦🏾 the self awareness and understanding piece is 🔑. Good content. Thank you.